Ladies, what are the Top Three things ...

that a Hobbyist can do to make their encounter the very best it can be?

That is a good question, hookem69horns, I would like to see the provider responses as well, although I think that we, as hobbyists, do not need to do anything other than have clean hygiene, be on time, respect her time and limits and have the proper donation.

IMO, the REAL question should be, "what can a provider do to make the session the best it can be?"

I give the true boyfriend experience.

*Greet them at the door with a slap on the ass and say; "Get me a beer" (if it a first time visit it's; "get me a beer bitch"! Just so they know who's boss!).
*Find out which channels on her TV carry sports (or porn).
*If she has a pet, kick it in the butt then say; "Honestly, I don't know WHY that thing doesn't like me"!
*Ask to borrow money. When she asks how much. I respond with "How much ya got"?
*Fart, burp, scratch and spill beer on her new sofa.
*Offer to fix something in the house in exchange for butt-sex. Butt-sex comes first then I use the excuse that I can't repair anything until I get the proper tool(s).
*Pay with a jar of pennies.

That is a good question, hookem69horns, I would like to see the provider responses as well, although I think that we, as hobbyists, do not need to do anything other than have clean hygiene, be on time, respect her time and limits and have the proper donation.

IMO, the REAL question should be, "what can a provider do to make the session the best it can be?" Originally Posted by bigdog0311

Well, I was going to give my opinions, but this response made me feel that they wouldn't be very welcome or appreciated. Luckily, most of my lovely gents do not share this opinion, and do their utmost to help make our time together wonderful. I adore you guys.

I give the true boyfriend experience.

*Greet them at the door with a slap on the ass and say; "Get me a beer" (if it a first time visit it's; "get me a beer bitch"! Just so they know who's boss!).
*Find out which channels on her TV carry sports (or porn).
*If she has a pet, kick it in the butt then say; "Honestly, I don't know WHY that thing doesn't like me"!
*Ask to borrow money. When she asks how much. I respond with "How much ya got"?
*Fart, burp, scratch and spill beer on her new sofa.
*Offer to fix something in the house in exchange for butt-sex. Butt-sex comes first then I use the excuse that I can't repair anything until I get the proper tool(s).
*Pay with a jar of pennies. Originally Posted by Hercules

God DAMN that's funny Hercules! I laughed my ass off at this....

I think that we, as hobbyists, do not need to do anything other than have clean hygiene, be on time, respect her time and limits and have the proper donation.

IMO, the REAL question should be, "what can a provider do to make the session the best it can be?" Originally Posted by bigdog0311

I agree with you for the most part, being that we are the ones providing the service, but this is not like every other business out there. It has been said many times before we are providing something that is intimate and very personal. If a gentleman has the attitude that we are just a hole to get off in, then I can see where the gentleman may not get the level of service that he seeks.

I posted the other day that I can't and won't enjoy f*cking someone I don't like..and I am sure that holds true for most of us.

You should start your own thread about what providers should do.. I bet that would be a great read.

My list is:

1. Be nice - I don't like mean people.
2. Be respectful - that covers a lot of bases. My time, my limits and my personal life.
3. Don't OVER communicate prior to or after the session. It makes me feel bad and stressed that I can't respond to everything you send.

1. Be free to be yourself
2. Be comfortable, have fun and enjoy your time with me
3.If you are nervous or feeling weird, just speak up.

BigDog you scolded me a while back for getting off topic on a thread. Now you have gone and done the same thing.The question was what we as hobbiest could do to help make a session better with a provider. It wasnt how a provider can kiss our ass.

My take on this is that we should respect them.I am so appreciative that there are ladies out there willing to see us and make us feel special. Without them we would not be able to live out our fantasies and enjoy some great sex with a women that we would have no chance at in real life.

Some of us here do care about the ladies here and respect them. It is not always about us and how much they can kiss our ass.I want a session to be a 2 way street. Enjoyable and as much fun as possible for the both of us.

Bigdog try putting yourself in the providers shoes for a week. You sit around and wait on a call from a fat ugly lady that wants to see you. Then she comes over and you have to perform a sex act at a high level and try to make her feel that she is the sexiest thing out there.You have to put out of your mind that she is 5'8 and weighs 275 pounds and hasnt seen her feet in 2 years. Then she gets undressed and you have to have sex with her. Then turn around and do it again that afternoon.Do this for a week Bigdog and let me know how it works out for you.And yes I know that no one is making them do this. But lets at least show them some repspect and gratitude.

So please continue ladies.I for one do care and want to make our experience the best that it could possibly be for the both of us

I actually enjoy it more if I think she's had a better time than I did.

I agree with you for the most part, being that we are the ones providing the service, but this is not like every other business out there. It has been said many times before we are providing something that is intimate and very personal. If a gentleman has the attitude that we are just a hole to get off in, then I can see where the gentleman may not get the level of service that he seeks.

I posted the other day that I can't and won't enjoy f*cking someone I don't like..and I am sure that holds true for most of us.

You should start your own thread about what providers should do.. I bet that would be a great read.

My list is:

1. Be nice - I don't like mean people.
2. Be respectful - that covers a lot of bases. My time, my limits and my personal life.
3. Don't OVER communicate prior to or after the session. It makes me feel bad and stressed that I can't respond to everything you send. Originally Posted by Reese Foster

I never said that a provider was "just a hole to get off in" and I do not know how you came to that determination, either. As far as starting a thread about what providers SHOULD do to get and retain clients, that would be an interesting read, but the problem with that is, if a provider does what guys "list" them to do for him, she will either be going by a script, which is no fun for either person, and/or she might be uncomfortable and with even one "listed item" and it will not be like the guy wants then. I feel that it is "chemistry" between two people that works that best, and I think that has been discussed in an earlier thread in this very forum.

BigDog you scolded me a while back for getting off topic on a thread. Now you have gone and done the same thing.The question was what we as hobbiest could do to help make a session better with a provider. It wasnt how a provider can kiss our ass.

My take on this is that we should respect them.I am so appreciative that there are ladies out there willing to see us and make us feel special. Without them we would not be able to live out our fantasies and enjoy some great sex with a women that we would have no chance at in real life.

Some of us here do care about the ladies here and respect them. It is not always about us and how much they can kiss our ass.I want a session to be a 2 way street. Enjoyable and as much fun as possible for the both of us.

Bigdog try putting yourself in the providers shoes for a week. You sit around and wait on a call from a fat ugly lady that wants to see you. Then she comes over and you have to perform a sex act at a high level and try to make her feel that she is the sexiest thing out there.You have to put out of your mind that she is 5'8 and weighs 275 pounds and hasnt seen her feet in 2 years. Then she gets undressed and you have to have sex with her. Then turn around and do it again that afternoon.Do this for a week Bigdog and let me know how it works out for you.And yes I know that no one is making them do this. But lets at least show them some repspect and gratitude.

So please continue ladies.I for one do care and want to make our experience the best that it could possibly be for the both of us Originally Posted by Horsemancummeth

That is absolutely not true, I am not going off topic of this thread, if you would actually read what I wrote instead of reading something into what I wrote. I would be more than happy to write it again.......That is a good question, hookem69horns, I would like to see the provider responses as well, although I think that we, as hobbyists, do not need to do anything other than have clean hygiene, be on time, respect her time and limits and have the proper donation. ( I highlighted respect because I wanted to also say, respect her as a person). I did not say a provider has to kiss a hobbyist's ass, where did you see that? I would love to know what hobbyists can do/say, that is within our means/capabilities to do, to make it more "enjoyable" for the provider, so that on future visits, it will be more and more passionate, as there is always that "you never get a second chance to make a first impression" saying, which goes both ways, if either "party" is not happy, unsatisfied, uncomfortable, ect. there will not be any future visits.

I would love to "turn the table" as you say, Horseman, and I know that there are many, fat and/or ugly people out there, (as far as what most people find physically attractive), not that they are bad people, but they are people and do deserve the same respect as anyone else, unless they do/say something to warrant disrespect. Now, when it comes to P4P, as Reese says, it is different, and the "1,2,3 list" she wrote, #1 and #2 are basically the same as I wrote. Taking that "list" into consideration, and going by it, the difference, IMO, is the fact that, although you may not find that particular person someone you would want to "date" or have a "relationship" of a sexual nature with them in "real" life, you are getting paid for a "service" that lasts a whole hour, and then show that person that they are the most important person for that hour, then when that person leaves your presence, you can go to the bathroom and vomit or whatever you feel is appropriate, then you can take that money and laugh all the way to the bank, spend it, whatever. Then again, you might meet someone you really would enjoying being friends with, in and out of the hobby, if that is your "thing".


How many people do you know that make $200+ an hour?

I actually enjoy it more if I think she's had a better time than I did. Originally Posted by Prolongus

ditto that one Prologus.
i want her to have a helluva time so she will want to see me again,and want to fuck me even more passionately next time.
The good ones don't ask for a lot, just respect,cleanliness,and a good attitude....if you can't do those simple things,then you don't need to be hobbying.

1. clean hygiene
2. have proper donation
3. leave when the time is up

I never said that a provider was "just a hole to get off in" and I do not know how you came to that determination, either. Originally Posted by bigdog0311

I never said that YOU said that. My apologies if you feel that was aimed at you. It was a general statement.

Trust me, most of us know what we should do and do it, because we enjoy what we do.

Chemistry is the number 1 key to a perfect session...


...one more thing... as far as the money we make...most of that goes back into providing a place for us to meet with clients and providing the required tools to do our trade. I never go home from an appointment with my full rate.

Sorry for the slight hijack... I'm gonna go have some fun.

1. Smile! A good sense of humor always makes me less nervous, and seeing a big smile always puts me at ease.

2. Be a gentleman

3. Respect my time..I'm not watching the clock, but if you are leaving 30 to 45 minutes (or more) after your scheduled appointment time, leave a tip or something if you want me to be happy to see you the next time.

Dannie, does this make you more comfortable?

Sorry, I had to do it.

That said, I think a smile on both parties will make the date go better. And you know, that is true whether you are paying or not. Getting past all of the obvious business transaction issues, I think what makes a date go well in pay for play is same as in a real dating experience.