In short we can't help it we've been doing this for millennia so ladies you will need to either 1.) genuinely reciprocate or 2.) keep on employing your counterfeit intimacy or 3.) get rid of us altogether and find someone that can get with the program.
This is a good topic. I have experienced this awkward situation with clients before. I have a hard time trying to explain to a smitten man that they are in love with their perceived idea of me, which they have mostly encountered BCD. This thing of ours is about illusions, and need-to-know status communications. You can't truly know a woman until she is not on the clock with you on a continual and consistent basis. Even then, you may be approaching only friendship status 95% of the time.^^^^^^well said^^^^
For those of you who have felt overly emotional for your provider, unless she seriously reciprocates (and you wish to continue seeing her), I suggest toning down your forwardness. Otherwise, if she needs your business and doesn't cut you off despite the awkward position it puts her in, she will have to compensate by creating emotional distance and stricter time and physical boundaries. Originally Posted by YummyMarie
This is a good topic. I have experienced this awkward situation with clients before. I have a hard time trying to explain to a smitten man that they are in love with their perceived idea of me, which they have mostly encountered BCD. This thing of ours is about illusions, and need-to-know status communications. You can't truly know a woman until she is not on the clock with you on a continual and consistent basis. Even then, you may be approaching only friendship status 95% of the time.DITTO
For those of you who have felt overly emotional for your provider, unless she seriously reciprocates (and you wish to continue seeing her), I suggest toning down your forwardness. Otherwise, if she needs your business and doesn't cut you off despite the awkward position it puts her in, she will have to compensate by creating emotional distance and enforcing stricter time and physical boundaries on you. Originally Posted by YummyMarie
This is a good topic. I have experienced this awkward situation with clients before. I have a hard time trying to explain to a smitten man that they are in love with their perceived idea of me, which they have mostly encountered BCD. This thing of ours is about illusions, and need-to-know status communications. You can't truly know a woman until she is not on the clock with you on a continual and consistent basis. Even then, you may be approaching only friendship status 95% of the time.good advice though ....I fell in love with 2 providers and they reciprocated. it was me that pulled away. the last one though it did kinda affect me because I met her parents and she started holding out on her clients and she told me they could tell she was different. I still feel bad about allowing it to go that far and getting cold feet. she's such a sweetie and has a big heart. fuck me for that one.
For those of you who have felt overly emotional for your provider, unless she seriously reciprocates (and you wish to continue seeing her), I suggest toning down your forwardness. Otherwise, if she needs your business and doesn't cut you off despite the awkward position it puts her in, she will have to compensate by creating emotional distance and enforcing stricter time and physical boundaries on you. Originally Posted by YummyMarie
Also, I believe some men crave (and choose to afford), IMMEDIATE emotional intimacy. Thus, they subliminally THINK providers are a way for them to cut corners to attain this with their choice of woman. Originally Posted by YummyMarie
