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So ladies it's no secret , we guys hate when we're texting a provider , and then we say something face to face that you have no idea what we're talking about . It's the moment that we realize that we've been flirting with what is likely a dude. So my question is have you ever had that happen when giving referrals ? Do you ever give a referral to someone then start to realize that fellow provider is really a dude ? And does it matter that you've been fooled ?