BBFS - A plea for change

It has recently been confirmed that there are a few area providers who regularly provide BBFS. I had suspected this for some time of at least one or two providers. Guys, I'm sure you know which ladies do it or not. While I know it feels better to you and those of you with ED have increased problems when wearing one, there are incredible risks for you and any other lady you see. Even if you use a raincoat with another lady, things can happen with them. If you got something from a lady doing BBFS, you could pass it along to a lady who requires them. With our very mobile society, we have a lot of touring ladies as well as gentlemen who travel. Even if the Mississippi area was considered safe, something could be brought in from these other places. If this happens, it could spread like wildfire.

I confess (I hate to, but I tell the truth), I have done it once or twice, but was with someone I knew from RL also.

From now on, I will not see anyone that I know has seen the providers who provide BBFS. It is just too risky. I know this will limit my business, but that is okay with me. My life is not worth it.

I beg of all of you - ladies AND gentlemen - please use protection!!! They are cheap and the lady usually provides them. They are available in bulk online (condomhall.com is my fav)
Guys, don't put up a fight when she pulls one out. Each one of your lives are worth too much to sacrifice for a quick (or not so quick) thrill.

Call me whatever you want, I consider myself a concerned citizen.

I thought this was a no brainer.... Always wrap that rascal

You would think so, but apparently there are people on this board who have no brains....

Had one provider that said that was what she wanted and she was clean and tested, but I had my own covers just in case and told her no way no day. Will not see her again.

Unfortunately Tess there is no brain involved with little head, but you are right safety for everyone first last and always. Keep your hat on

i dont do bbfs,but have you ever thought that maybe the guy who is seeing you,might want bbfs and he says other providers names that do it,but he is really just using their name,to try and get you to do bbfs,or did the ladies tell you they offer bbfs

I and other ladies have witnessed it, there is no doubt. Its pretty easy to tell when its a ploy by a guy and when he genuinely expects it. I've had guys refuse to see me because I insisted on using something.

I beg of all of you - ladies AND gentlemen - please use protection!!! They are cheap and the lady usually provides them. They are available in bulk online (condomhall.com is my fav)
Guys, don't put up a fight when she pulls one out. Each one of your lives are worth too much to sacrifice for a quick (or not so quick) thrill. Originally Posted by JxnBiLady

Well said Tess, well said. It is for the safety and health for everyone.

Let's be realistic.

Everyone does it bareback sometime. No exceptions. They may not do it within their hobby activities, but they'll do it with someone. And these days civilians aren't any safer than hobbyists or providers.

In the hobby, it's gonna happen. Sometimes it's something that happens in "the heat of passion". Sometimes it's deliberate. Maybe it's a marketing gimmick (I've heard that providers who are "known" to provide BBFS are more popular than providers who don't). Maybe it's a sign of trust, an "honor" given to "special" clients to give them an ego boost. Whatever.

I've always looked at it this way: life's a crapshoot. There is no way on Earth you are ever going to remove all risk from life. And the only way you can totally remove your risk in the hobby--in all sexual activity--is to go completely celibate. And I have a feeling nobody here is seriously contemplating going that route.

Ultimately, you can only look out for yourself. Ain't no way you can control what other people are doing when you're not there, and most of the time there ain't no way you can control what they're doing when you are there (short of using blunt instruments, knives, or firearms, and that involves opening another can of worms that I always try to avoid whenever possible).

As far as I'm concerned, the rule is simple. Trust no one. Assume everyone is stupid and taking every risk they possibly can. Therefore, you have to protect yourself, because nobody else will.

But ultimately, all of us here are adults, and we're responsible for our own damnations, and nobody else's.

I'll close with some comedy relief which reminds us again why we should watch out...

I Got It From Agnes
Tom Lehrer

I love my friends and they love me
We're just as close as we can be.
And just because we really care,
Whatever we get, we share!

I got it from Agnes.
She got it from Jim.
We all agree it must have been
Louise who gave it to him.

Now she got it from Harry,
Who got it from Marie.
And ev'rybody knows that Marie...
Got it from me!

Giles got it from Daphne,
She got it from Joan,
Who picked it up in County Cork
A-kissin' the Blarney Stone.

Pierre gave it to Shiela,
Who must have brought it there.
He got it from Francois and Jacques...
Aha, lucky Pierre!

Max got it from Edith,
Who gets it ev'ry spring.
She got it from her daddy
Who just gives her ev'rything!

She then gave it to Daniel,
Whose spaniel has it now.
Our dentist even got it
And we're still wondering how.

But I got it from Agnes,
Or maybe it was Sue,
Or Millie or Billie or Gillie or Willie...
It doesn't matter who!

It might have been at the pub,
Or at the club, or in the loo,
And if you will be my friend, then I might ...
(mind you, I said might...)
Give it to you!

Cheers,

bcg (rambling more than a bit today; damn my caffeine tolerance!)

I and other ladies have witnessed it, there is no doubt. Originally Posted by JxnBiLady

Sounds like an orgy (or 2 or 3) that I missed the review on!

Early in my hobby career, I had a beautiful 21 yr old, from CL which I'd never met ask right of the bat if I wanted to do it covered or backback! Seems she had been doing some contract porn and everything was fair game, though she said they all got tested regularly. Of course she didn't know me and I had to assume she offered that to everyone else, with some guys taking her up on it. Thankfully, I was shocked enough (and the little head wasn't yet in control) so I declined the offer of BBFS. I told her how dangerous it was and she must have thought about it, because after that even her BJs were covered in other reviews I'd read. Too high a risk and I had to put her on my DoNotCall registry!

I would guess that the wardrobe (cover) malfunction is not uncommon and I've seen that mentioned in quite a few reviews. Though shortlived, I'd have to consider that equivalent to BBFS and the dangers are there also.

As you mention Tess, you won't see any guy who has been with certain ladies, that you know provide BBFS and nobody could fault you for that. But how's a guy to know who to avoid, since I'm certain no guy (or girl) wants to end up on a blacklist? I've never seen an ad to that effect and only read two reviews in my 3 years of hobbying that admitted to it. I've seen quite a few ladies in that time and only the girl mentioned above offered it to me. Of course, I don't take that as certainty that some of the ladies didn't offer & participate in it with others.

Like BCG said, anything we do in this so-called hobby is risky - even the BBBJ & DATY that most of enjoy! We all have to draw the line somewhere and hopefully it's on the side of minimizing risk.

uhm vic... i know who you are talking about and BE VERY GLAD THAT YOU DIDNT GO THERE!!!

as for what tess says, i commend her completely. the ladies that do go BB (let me quote this "all the time") put those of us that dont like it (unless you know for a fact that you have been the only one seeing him and it has been an established relationship over a yr or more and there is the life trust thing going on) in a bind with these guys that you spoil...
its a bitch when doing a double or something and the other lady does not use a comdom, its very awkward...
i'm sorry but there is only a handful of ladies in this hobby that i have met over the past 13 yrs that i do trust and me risking not seeing my future grandkids is def not worth it

this would be a great thread on the new orleans board,more active,and more people speak their peace,great post tess

Doesen't anyone want to put a name to the charges??? I for one will not, have not and do not anticipate bb with anyone....but I would like to know a name so that I can steer clear of that.....Lets share such information.......Captain Blade

why is it so quiet here????? tess did you strike a nerve

i think this would definitely be a great thread to start on the nola side, just to get more opinions on the matter....this is a VERY WISE TOPIC TO BRING UP