Should I stay married or get divorced

Hey all,

Serious post here...

I've been married for a little over 2 years now, and I am considering divorcing my wife because of the hobby. My wife is a great friend, but sexually it's just not there. I'm very wild, and have crazy fantasies, and she is just content with a simple basic sex life. I took a hiatus from the hobby due to my desire to be faithful, but 2 months ago I took the plunge back in, and have not stopped thinking about that session since. I often find myself wishing I were single, so I wouldn't have to deal with the guilt of cheating on my wife.

Anyone ever experience a similar situation???
Im sorry you're going through this hun! You have to think about what makes you and her both happy in the end. Best of luck!
aznlvr11's Avatar
Do you have kids? If so, this complicates things tremendously.

What would you do if she were cheating on you?

Do you love her? Don't ever tell her you have been cheating.

Some things to think about.
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  • 12-05-2011, 11:44 PM
Damn aznlvr11... you beat me to it... I will have to edit my post...

Editing...
Jack Flash's Avatar
I've divorced two wives because of my infidelity. Neither of them ever knew about what I was doing. It is a decision that only you can make, but sexual chemistry is very important in any relationship. If you think being single and fucking hookers is going to make you happy, I will tell you that it won't. You'll end up looking for a mate eventually.
Do you have kids? If so, this complicates things tremendously.
- We do have a beautiful 7 month old little girl

What would you do if she were cheating on you?
- Honestly I'd be relieved. LOL! Easy to divorce then.

Do you love her? Don't ever tell her you have been cheating.
- Yes, but I'm finding out more and more I don't love her as a partner, but more so as a good friend.

Some things to think about.

The complication in all of this is that my family and her family are very anti-divorce, and the drama alone would create a head-ache for everyone.
Abigail (Source of JOY)'s Avatar
Are you really asking this on a hooker board and would you actually take the advice seriously????? Hey, while you are at it why don't you get some legal advice on how to follow through with divorce proceedings and custody issues!!! Sheesh!!!!
With most women, the first two years after giving birth to a child is not a time when they have a very high sex drive. If only for the sake of your seven month old daughter, give your wife a break. In about a year if things have not improved, start talking to her about what you want sexually rather than a bunch of old johns. Pro Tip: don't mention the infidelity. Good luck.
Stay married... I dont really feel like seeing a provider is cheating. (my opinion) When the session is over you go home! Yea, there might be some ongoing communication between you and the provider, but in order to see her again you would have to cough up another donation. Leaving your wife for services is not a good idea.
Wakeup's Avatar
Are you seriously asking this on a hooker...oh wait...already been said...
LOL! Two Things:

First, I'm not planning on leaving my wife simply to fuck an escort. A hobby is a hobby.
Second, I asked this on this board, because I was curious to see if anyone had experienced a similar situation. I wasn't asking maritial advice, but rather had anyone been through it.

Thx for the input folks
dearhunter's Avatar
How hot is your wife?
There are so many people who get married and then several years later realize they really shouldn't have to begin with. I suspect your feelings about divorce have more to do with other issues than just simply "sex related". Someone said in an earlier post that after a woman has a child the sex drive usually plummets. This is true, and please keep in mind you have a new baby and that probably saps a lot of her energy. I would go to a professional counselor first and try to work things out with her if you really love and care for her before taking any advice here on this escort board. Just my 2 cents..
Smoke2nd's Avatar
Are you really asking this on a hooker board and would you actually take the advice seriously????? Hey, while you are at it why don't you get some legal advice on how to follow through with divorce proceedings and custody issues!!! Sheesh!!!! Originally Posted by Abigail (Source of JOY)
+1
Try to get your wife to be the lover you need.
Maybe she can make you happy if you tell her what you want.
You have only been married for 2 years and you have a baby. Please don't get divorced.


Most of my clients love their wives but the sex just isn't there. If you get divorced, 20 years later you will kick yourself for getting a divorce because of lack of pussy.