My Body Is .....

My Body is merely a Vehicle that carries my Brain around,
and my Brain deserves a Luxurious Ride ....

We should all embrace our "body", even though it may not be perfect ...
Embracing who you are ... and respecting yourself, even though you might not meet requirements for one.
If you keep your integrity intact, it's good self-preservation.

There are phases I go through which I'm careful of the BMI of who I book a session (which BTW am currently in this phase).
Altho ... I am polite and indicate it is not a personal dig on them directly.
Now and again, I will check with other providers I know and send the information about the prospective client if he has been cordial, polite and having good character.

Some of my ATF's are big teddy bears.
We've been "good friends" for many many years.
The relationship and trust have been developed.

I guess bottom line is ... being upfront and honest can certainly be beneficial on First Contact.

The great thing about this hobby is, you can always keep shopping around until you find the perfect match (even if just for a moment or two)

How do you choose to portray information on first contact?
Are you offended if turned away?

Ladies, do you find yourself sometimes going thru different stages/phases?

My BMI is in the teens currently and going down as I check it often, so that is not a problem. I do tend to laugh at the guys who are so fat that cannot even put on socks or tie their shoes without holding their breath. A fat person being fat and out of shape is that person's fault alone and has no one to blame but themselves.

Having said that, when it comes to this hobby world, I do not believe there are guys that would tell a provider voluntarily that he is a bigger guy beforehand. After all, that is probably the reason he seeks out escorts because of his size as he could not get laid any other way.

In all honesty, I am sure that providers would prefer a guy who is physically attractive and takes care of himself, especially getting fully naked with him BCD! But given the conduciveness nature of the business, more old, out of shape and not so cute physically guys are the majority of the clientele here.

As you said, I do not believe providers would be that shallow (but it would not surprise me to hear) to deny a guy due to his physical size alone as money is money, especially today, it is totally all about their character, how they treat and respect you and politeness. And you will never know that about a guy if you turn him away due to his size or what others who really have no idea about him say about him. But, there are some providers who do go by what other providers who have not seen him or even other guys to form their opinion about a potential client, but that is another subject altogether.

Now and again, I will check with other providers I know and send the information about the prospective client if he has been cordial, polite and having good character.

Some of my ATF's are big teddy bears.
We've been "good friends" for many many years.
The relationship and trust have been developed.

I guess bottom line is ... being upfront and honest can certainly be beneficial on First Contact.


Ladies, do you find yourself sometimes going thru different stages/phases? Originally Posted by Torre Tames

I think the biggest takeaway from this post is above. Being honest and polite will get you a long way in this hobby. Continual signs that you are perhaps less than polite and cordial will often limit your overall options.


I personally don't turn gents away due to their BMI-- but will often turn them away for their AQI (Asshole Quotient Index) Most gents who get declined in this hobby will move on, but some will spend years continuing to carry a grudge over it-- which does nothing other than prove the person that declined them.... to be correct in their assessment.

I don't go BMI - I've met some very nice men with high BMI .
I'll take Nice over BMI any day of the week ..

What makes me decline a clint is how he approaches me in a text email or PM or phone call .
Most show true colors at some point .

I will decline appt when or if I get some info about him that's not up to my standers of screening .. How hard is it to be Nice or have a good Reputation with providers ?..

Wile E Coyote
Having said that, when it comes to this hobby world, I do not believe there are guys that would tell a provider voluntarily that he is a bigger guy beforehand.

They usually say ... "average build" ... or I was a linebacker in college. And that means ... ?

.... providers would prefer a guy who is physically attractive and takes care of himself...

But given the conduciveness nature of the business, more old, out of shape and not so cute physically guys are the majority of the clientele here.

Well, to your surprise, there are plenty of physically attractive seeking providers. PLENTY!
This hobby is not only about the fact you're out of shape or unattractive .... It's also about VERY ATTRACTIVE DUDES WHO DON'T WANT DRAMA OR CLINGY GIRLFRIENDS.

As you said, I do not believe providers would be that shallow (but it would not surprise me to hear) to deny a guy due to his physical size alone as money is money

It's odd you say that Wile
Perhaps you were a provider in your previous life?
NO, but really ... as I've stated in other threads, many successful gals on this site don't DO IT just for the money.
That is really not the priority because we never have to worry about that. It's more about meeting awesome people, making new friends and sharing a common interest.
Along with that ... having a bang up good time!

...especially today, it is totally all about their character, how they treat and respect you and politeness.

No doubt, that has a big impact, but certain times it is not "totally" about the politeness.
If we feel uncomfortable about other aspects we take a step back.
This is why I said if they are polite, I will contact providers I know who is fat friendly.


Grace Preston
I think the biggest takeaway from this post is above.
Being honest and polite will get you a long way in this hobby.
Continual signs that you are perhaps less than polite and cordial will often limit your overall options.

+1

I personally don't turn gents away due to their BMI-- but will often turn them away for their AQI (Asshole Quotient Index)

Love it! Right on Girlfriend!

Most gents who get declined in this hobby will move on, but some will spend years continuing to carry a grudge over it-- which does nothing other than prove the person that declined them.... to be correct in their assessment.

True ... So very true.
It's always a risk when declining someone.
They can bash you on a review, cyber stalk you, or try to change emails and phone#s to weasel their way in.

LustyBustyGina
What makes me decline a client is how he approaches me in a text email or PM or phone call

That is definitely first indication of a DNS.
Oh... BTW ... Love the new photos girl!

My body is a Buddhist temple. No, seriously, I’m built like a statue of Buddha. Lol.

Thank you on the photos more to come just did a shoot at the beach ..
And have to agree I have seen just as many in shape good looking gents as I have not in shape or looks and body ..

Wile E Coyote
Having said that, when it comes to this hobby world, I do not believe there are guys that would tell a provider voluntarily that he is a bigger guy beforehand.

They usually say ... "average build" ... or I was a linebacker in college. And that means ... ?

.... providers would prefer a guy who is physically attractive and takes care of himself...

But given the conduciveness nature of the business, more old, out of shape and not so cute physically guys are the majority of the clientele here.

Well, to your surprise, there are plenty of physically attractive seeking providers. PLENTY!
This hobby is not only about the fact you're out of shape or unattractive .... It's also about VERY ATTRACTIVE DUDES WHO DON'T WANT DRAMA OR CLINGY GIRLFRIENDS.

As you said, I do not believe providers would be that shallow (but it would not surprise me to hear) to deny a guy due to his physical size alone as money is money

It's odd you say that Wile
Perhaps you were a provider in your previous life?
NO, but really ... as I've stated in other threads, many successful gals on this site don't DO IT just for the money.
That is really not the priority because we never have to worry about that. It's more about meeting awesome people, making new friends and sharing a common interest.
Along with that ... having a bang up good time!

...especially today, it is totally all about their character, how they treat and respect you and politeness.

No doubt, that has a big impact, but certain times it is not "totally" about the politeness.
If we feel uncomfortable about other aspects we take a step back.
This is why I said if they are polite, I will contact providers I know who is fat friendly.


Grace Preston
I think the biggest takeaway from this post is above.
Being honest and polite will get you a long way in this hobby.
Continual signs that you are perhaps less than polite and cordial will often limit your overall options.

+1

I personally don't turn gents away due to their BMI-- but will often turn them away for their AQI (Asshole Quotient Index)

Love it! Right on Girlfriend!

Most gents who get declined in this hobby will move on, but some will spend years continuing to carry a grudge over it-- which does nothing other than prove the person that declined them.... to be correct in their assessment.

True ... So very true.
It's always a risk when declining someone.
They can bash you on a review, cyber stalk you, or try to change emails and phone#s to weasel their way in.

LustyBustyGina
What makes me decline a client is how he approaches me in a text email or PM or phone call

That is definitely first indication of a DNS.
Oh... BTW ... Love the new photos girl! Originally Posted by Torre Tames

From what I've seen over the past decade, most SW don't judge like that, at least openly. And even if they do internally, which hopefully they don't, I believe the majority cannot "afford" to be particularly discriminating when it comes to their clients appearance. If this were the case then sex work would not be a high income occupation because the providers would be turning away numerous clients based on looks. Of course, hygiene and other physical characteristic go beyond simply what one looks like. I think when a girl starts placing value on looks, then she transitions from being a SW to a gold digger; which is exactly the kind of person that would post ads on "dating" sites where she can see pictures of guys, then only pursue the ones who list very high income in their ads after looking at their photos.


On rare occasions I have seen a small handful of providers try to dodge guys based on appearance. Same goes for age, race, etc... I think BMI would be less likely than most other physical factors.


I certainly don't qualify as being a thin body builder, and I only really recall seeing like 2 ads during the past several years where the provider overtly stated something along the lines of "No clients who are not height / weight proportionate!!!!"


That just doesn't work in this business. Most men are paying for the very reason they want you to ignore what they look like, and focus on their behavior only. Otherwise they could just go out to a bar and hook up with some young college student for a 1 night stand. That's what I think anyway.