Regular vs. Variety

Ladies and Gents, do you prefer lots of variety among your hobby dates or do you prefer to have one or several regulars?

Ladies, regulars certainly make for less work regarding screening. Do you prefer regulars? Do you like a mix of regulars with the occasional new clients to provide variety? Or do you prefer many new clients to keep any emotions from developing or so that you will have a surprise at the door?

Gents, having a regular or ATF makes for increased comfort and maybe a more enjoyable date. Are you active in this hobby because you want variety? Do you prefer to find one or maybe a couple ladies that you see regularly? Or do you like having a regular or two and see the occasional new or traveling girl to add a little variety?

Majority of the times I prefer ATFs (comfort + hassle free) over new ones, but some times I do try others just to peek in...and if the new one clicks then I can add them to my ATF list. Exploring a lady makes me more vibrant than any thing else (cracking the code is next big thing for me).

Having seen mainly massage providers, I have yet to see one that makes me want to
see them regularly. There were some Asians, but they don't stick around. I would like to find one that would give such a great massage I would not want to switch.

Both for me. I definitely enjoy the variety, but when that special one comes along that I connect with and really enjoy, I stay with her for a while. The last lady I seen on a regular basis was Sasha, and that was a while ago.

I was one of the first to see and review Sasha at aspd when she first came on the scene. That first meeting was incredible and one of the best times I had (hobby or otherwise). Like some here, she is easy to make friends with and I will always have a soft spot for her. She is a cool chickie if ya play your cards right.

Nowdays, I just enjoy sampling different dishes from time to time.

The most common AND most obvious lie ever told by hobbiests:

"Oh, I won't need references, I don't want to see anyone but you."

LOL

After hearing this, a maximum of seven days later you get a reference request. The record for fastest? 2 hours.

If I didn't adore men.............

If I didn't believe that variety is the spice of life, I probably wouldn't be a provider at all. I learned quite young that "strange" nearly always makes the sex better. So yes I do love variety.

On the other hand, I love having regulars too for a number of reasons. It does ease some of the stress of seeing new gents and takes the worry out of screening. Plus, there is alot to be said for getting to know someone's hot buttons and exploring them in detail over time. Especially when the chemistry is great, seeing someone regularly sometimes just makes it hotter with every encounter. lol I'm thinking of one in particular, and how much fun we have getting a little more flat out nasty every time we see one another. It definitely keeps things exciting.

So, I like both for different reasons. Realistically, I can count on one hand the number of gentlemen I continue to see today, that I saw when I first began escorting almost 5 years ago. No matter how favorite an ATF is, eventually the thrill diminishes and its time to move on. But its always a pleasure while it lasts, whether its for a few months or a few years.

I primarily enjoyed the variety until I found the one that became my ATF. When I was seeing her regularly, that was when I had the most enjoyable experiences. My preference would be to have one regular lady that makes me feel the most at ease and then see the occasional new lady to add a little variety.

When I first hobbied, I was looking for only one that I could see time and time again. When the first wasn't quite the repeater I was looking for, I looked for another, and another, and so on and so on. I've found one or two that could have been what I was looking for at the start, but there has always been some defect that kept the search going. Now I'm not sure if I found the right one that I was looking for from the start that it would be enough. Variety has seemed to have become a little more important. Perfection may not exist at all.
But what I want to know is what Redwolf's answer is to his own questions!

I think that my preference would be to have a couple or so regulars (ladies are often busy with Real Life, have other dates schuduled, or might adjust their rates outside of my comfort or take me and my wallet for granted), that I would always enjoy and that they would be happy to see me. I do like to make a connection, and a date is more than getting off, I hope. Of course, it is most excellent when we both say, "Wow".

Add in the occasional new girl or touring girl, not with the sole intention of seeking out variety but to discover if I am missing something. To get mathematical, I would probably go with 50-75% of my dates for regulars with that percentage increasing as they grow in favoritism and my list of highly sought new girls dwindles.

I like to learn from new experiences. Sometimes variety will help you appreciate your favorites. Or you might find another or a new favorite.

Regulars become favorites if our time together gets better. If it loses something, it is time to move on.

I prefer variety over regulars. In fact I can only think of very few providers that I've seen more than once. Not that there was anything wrong with them or the experience wasn't great, I just prefer to change things up a bit. That's why I started in this hobby, to meet women of all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. I love it and wouldn't change a thing.

I've found one or two that could have been what I was looking for at the start, but there has always been some defect that kept the search going. Now I'm not sure if I found the right one that I was looking for from the start that it would be enough. Variety has seemed to have become a little more important. Perfection may not exist at all. Originally Posted by perpetualdesign

Defect? Is that really the word you want to about a person who happens to be human with flaws, feelings, etc. You may want to rephrase that.

1: an imperfection that impairs worth or utility : shortcoming <the grave defects in our foreign policy> b : an imperfection (as a vacancy or an unlike atom) in a crystal lattice

2: [Latin defectus] : a lack of something necessary for completeness, adequacy, or perfection : deficiency <a hearing defect>

If you're searching for perfection, you have a long search in front of you. No one is perfect and no one is even close to being perfect.

People have flaws, imperfections, faults, etc. period. You're not going to find a lady or man out there who doesn't have something wrong with them. To expect that in the hobby is just silly. Even those supermodels, playboy bunnies and porn stars have imperfections, god forbid one of them might have a stretch mark or GASP...cellulite. Many models have spoken out to the public about how there's an unrealistic belief on how ladies and yes, even men should look.

I understand fully that its your money and you should get what you're paying for, but in this business its best to keep your expectations at a level that is close to being realistic. If not, you're going to be disappointed many times to come.

Wow, I agree with Swarmy again. 2012 must be true.

Defect? Is that really the word you want to about a person who happens to be human with flaws, feelings, etc. You may want to rephrase that.
Originally Posted by MsElena

Yes MsElena, defect is the word I wanted to use, but let me expand that a little bit for you. The defect is within myself. My expectations and my ideas of perfection are where the defect originates. The flaw lies within so I wasn't too worried about hurting my own feelings.

But thanks for your concern!

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Its an ez choice for me, I prefer the familiarity of an ATF, and seeing her as often as I can afford.

Ladies and Gents, do you prefer lots of variety among your hobby dates or do you prefer to have one or several regulars?

Ladies, regulars certainly make for less work regarding screening. Do you prefer regulars? Do you like a mix of regulars with the occasional new clients to provide variety? Or do you prefer many new clients to keep any emotions from developing or so that you will have a surprise at the door?

Gents, having a regular or ATF makes for increased comfort and maybe a more enjoyable date. Are you active in this hobby because you want variety? Do you prefer to find one or maybe a couple ladies that you see regularly? Or do you like having a regular or two and see the occasional new or traveling girl to add a little variety? Originally Posted by Redwolf

Excellent question.

I much prefer a regular (or very small number of regulars) for several reasons. First, you get to know each other better and with that comes some trust, and with that trust both are more relaxed and open, which is usually a lot more fun for everybody. Things don't get misinterpreted; everybody knows where they stand. Second, it's just plain safer for everybody. Third, if we're regulars, that most likely means we've connected on some level and get along well to begin with.

But variety is awesome . . . when it goes well. Who doesn't like someone new? The excitement of someone new that you really hit it off with is incredible and unique. But if it doesn't go well, you're quickly reminded why your regular(s) is (are) your regular(s). And there's always just a little apprehension the first time with someone new about whether you'll click, but that's also part of the excitement.

The best combination I have ever found is a regular that shares a true love of the sport, who is genuinely enthusiastic, creative and likes to try something new. There's no replacement for a woman who honestly, truly loves it, wants it and uses her brain at least as much as she uses her body to keep things exciting and interesting. For years, I was a regular with a provider long after she announced her public "retirement" and we were kindred spirits. She would periodically call or e-mail me and say, "Hey, I've got a great idea. Let's [fill in fun idea}. Wouldn't that be fun? What do you think?" I could do the same thing with her. We knew one another's likes and dislikes, and we knew each well enough that if one of us wasn't keen on the idea, we could decline and there were no hard feelings. She's been gone for a while now, and so far I just haven't been able to find someone as trustworthy, intelligent, creative and enthusiastic as she was; the smokin' body was just icing on a fantastic cake.

To me, true creativity, genuine enthusiasm and a sense of adventure in a regular that I know and trust is by far the best deal. The most powerful sex organ is indeed the brain, and a good brain in a provider will win me over every single time.