Kissing in the Hibbying lifestyle

I am fairly new to Hobbying and only do hobbying when not in current relationships. Well at least so far. What are you guys/gals feel about LFK/DFK? I have hard time doing that part with someone I am not in relationship with for whatever reason and have not entered into that before. I enjoy hobbying but not sure how providers feel when I don't want to kiss. Always wondered.

I am fairly new to Hobbying and only do hobbying when not in current relationships. Well at least so far. What are you guys/gals feel about LFK/DFK? I have hard time doing that part with someone I am not in relationship with for whatever reason and have not entered into that before. I enjoy hobbying but not sure how providers feel when I don't want to kiss. Always wondered. Originally Posted by musttmustt

Some probably prefer it. Some probably take at as a put down.

I personally don't see why some people think kissing is more intimate than BBBJ or CFS. Given the choice, I'd rather have my husband make out with someone than have sex.

A GFE session involves kissing (to me) and I prefer that. However, if you're just looking for an orifice to pound on/in (essentially masturbation with help) there's plenty of bump and run gals out there who will oblige and have no issue with nary a kiss being involved.

Kissing is beautiful as hell. I love kissing, especially if she loves it. There was one provider that I'd gone to see and when we met at the door we did a hug and I kinda did the side, cheek press dodge, and she wanted to kiss. I had been with too many non-kissers and was out of habit. I picked up on it and apologized to her. So, we redid the hug thing and then went into a loving, kissing embrace. It was one of those tinglers that went down your spine and shit. Fucking beautiful.

it's essential stuff with me.. even last Friday with my reviewed dancer from the Men's Club... she sat beside me, nibbled my neck, and put her mouth on mine.. it was hot, she knew exactly what buttons to push

Kissing is beautiful as hell. I love kissing, especially if she loves it. There was one provider that I'd gone to see and when we met at the door we did a hug and I kinda did the side, cheek press dodge, and she wanted to kiss. I had been with too many non-kissers and was out of habit. I picked up on it and apologized to her. So, we redid the hug thing and then went into a loving, kissing embrace. It was one of those tinglers that went down your spine and shit. Fucking beautiful.

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

+1000 - kissing is intimate, stimulating, erotic, deliteful, in my opinion.
very few of my favs dont like kissing.
and only a few of the providers i've met who dont like kissing .. have not compensated for that lack w/ their skills in other area. so i havent returned to see them.


musttmustt, if you dont want to kiss, just let providers know that.
if the providers i've consulted with are any inidication of how a GOOD provider would react, unless a provider just has to be kissed, she prolly wont mind not kissing.

+1000 - kissing is intimate, stimulating, erotic, deliteful, in my opinion.
very few of my favs dont like kissing.
and only a few of the providers i've met who dont like kissing .. have not compensated for that lack w/ their skills in other area. so i havent returned to see them.


musttmustt, if you dont want to kiss, just let providers know that.
if the providers i've consulted with are any inidication of how a GOOD provider would react, unless a provider just has to be kissed, she prolly wont mind not kissing. Originally Posted by pmdelites

Brilliant advice. Tell them upfront. Otherwise it may throw the chemistry off.

I don't kiss in hobby, and I don't DATY in hobby. Thats just me, I'm just not into it. Real world, different story. I'm a kissin and pussy eating mo fo. It has nothing to do with thinking it's more intimate or anything like that. I just can't get the thought out of my head that some other dude might have just busted a nut in this chicks mouth 30 minutes before I got here and I damn sure aint into snowballing. Or fuck she might have just done a stripper slide and now I'm licking off the dick residue of some other horny bastard.

Maybe some day when I get a little older I might go after the kissing and cuddling and dining at the Y, but right now I save that for my real world encounters with the chicks I know personally. In hobby I just want CFS, porn style BBBJ's, and CIM.

And I have never felt like a lady was disappointed because I didn't shove my tongue in her mouth or spread her legs open and start licking the honey out of her pot. It has always felt like a non issue to me.

I don't kiss in hobby, and I don't DATY in hobby. Thats just me, I'm just not into it. Real world, different story. I'm a kissin and pussy eating mo fo. It has nothing to do with thinking it's more intimate or anything like that. I just can't get the thought out of my head that some other dude might have just busted a nut in this chicks mouth 30 minutes before I got here and I damn sure aint into snowballing. Or fuck she might have just done a stripper slide and now I'm licking off the dick residue of some other horny bastard.

Maybe some day when I get a little older I might go after the kissing and cuddling and dining at the Y, but right now I save that for my real world encounters with the chicks I know personally. In hobby I just want CFS, porn style BBBJ's, and CIM.

And I have never felt like a lady was disappointed because I didn't shove my tongue in her mouth or spread her legs open and start licking the honey out of her pot. It has always felt like a non issue to me. Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

Totally valid viewpoint and exactly why some ladies may be offended...that you are implying she's too dirty to kiss, and only good enough to fuck.

I'm not implying "she's to dirty to kiss". That's ridiculous. I know for a fact that some ladies book multiple sessions in the same day. That's her business. I'm ok with that if that's what she chooses to do. The only thing I implied was that I'm not the guy that's going to be going around giving them the taste test and see if I could figure out if she had a session before I got there. I am paying for my fantasy and pleasure, and that isn't part of it.

I am certainly not going to take a provider back home to meet my folks either, but that doesn't mean I'm implying they aren't good enough to meet em!

I'm not implying "she's to dirty to kiss". That's ridiculous. I know for a fact that some ladies book multiple sessions in the same day. That's her business. I'm ok with that if that's what she chooses to do. The only thing I implied was that I'm not the guy that's going to be going around giving them the taste test and see if I could figure out if she had a session before I got there. I am paying for my fantasy and pleasure, and that isn't part of it. Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

I must not have been clear...I didn't mean that you were implying that she was too dirty to kiss. I meant that some ladies will take your preference to not kiss as there is something wrong with her...not that it's simply a valid preference and viewpoint.

My apologies for being unclear.

Just tell them up front at some point and it should be ok my man. I'm similar as I do not kiss (peck on the lips is ok for the most part, but no DFK) and no DATY/DATO. I usually tell girls during set up, but sometimes I forget and just tell them when we meet. Some just ask and some just seem to instinctively know lol.

Hasn't been a real problem up to this point; however, a couple girls that knew I wasn't into it have somewhat tried to pressure me into DFK which I didn't like (caught up in the moment or just trying to conquer the unconquerable? who knows?). Those girls were great besides that (still saw them multiple times), so I just shrugged it off. Most girls here are pretty cool and accomodating (do your due diligence as far as research though lol). It's your donation. Within obvious boundaries, hobby as you like and have fun.

Brilliant advice. Tell them upfront. Otherwise it may throw the chemistry off. Originally Posted by LilMynx69

LilMynx69, thx for the comment.

wow, this must be my year!
one chatter wrote that i'm a philosopher.
and now lilMynx writes that i'm brilliant!!

i promise to remain a humble horndog and not let it go to my head.



oops. phildo wrote in chat "Damn PM is like the Philosopher of the day today!"
since that was over a week ago, guess i'm just a brilliant pundit today :^)

It's very simple. If you don't like to kiss, just don't. I doubt providers will kick you out or hold you down/tie you up so they can rape kiss you.

I love to DFK, and it gets me excited and ready, but I understand how and why some men don't. It's not offensive to me.