Sending a photo is part of my newbie screening process. Do I care what you look like? No, (Come on, lets be real here, look don't matter much to 99.99 of providers) but if you're a nobody in the scene, it makes me feel safer to to know your willing to put your face on it. I mean, I'm about to walk into a room with an unknown man... Who expects me to do lewd and unmentionable things to his body.. I'm risking everything.. If he's not willing to risk a photo, full name, and phone number (to start) then he can book a 60 dollar make you hollar chicks and be on his way.
This general argument baffles me really, the thought that men expect a woman to walk through their doors without much for security, or us knowing anything about you is absurd. This isn't the 60', we're not on street corners, and frankly you reap what you sow. If a woman is willing to come to you without screening you, you *should* be fearful. If you're worried about security, the women who are putting you through the ringer are probably your best bet. Logic says, if she's this diligent about the process, she's not getting caught up with law or undesirables, so she's safer no? You want easy and fast, call an agency or off brand female from BP. You want to feel secure that your date isn't going to call the wife, work, or otherwise ruin your life? Go with someone who has a vested interest in you *not* getting caught. You're worth a WHOLE lot more to me married at home with a good job than divorcing and broke.
Originally Posted by Calista_Syn
To play the other side of the coin...
SO, the newbie sends you a picture.
He also gives you a name, and a phone number.
Of these 3 items, the only one likely to be valid/real info is the phone number.
After all, he does want a call from you telling him that you are panting with desire to see him. (He is really looking forward to you doing lewd and unmentionable things to his body.
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The one indisputable truth about this Hobby/Business that we share is that NOTHING IS FOOLPROOF.
In my limited experience, I have found that the essential element is a sense of TRUST between Hobbyist and Provider!
That trust is established in any number of ways:
- Date-Check
- RS2K
- P411
- Reference from another Provider/Hobbyist
- Vouches from another board
- OR, sharing whatever personal information you are comfortable in divulging.
Often establishing trust (on both sides) involves multiple interactions thru:
- Text
- Phone Calls
- E-mail
- PM's
- OR, a public meeting.
These are not meant to be a definitive list, but rather a limited example of ways to become comfortable enough to see each other privately.
I must admit that I have never be asked to send a photo, (of me or Brad Pitt for that matter
) as part of my initial screening to visit a new Lady.
Trust is a highly sought after commodity, and is often greatly undervalued.
Once gained it is virtually priceless.
If care is not exercised in the way of discretion, civility, honesty, and common courtesy Trust is easy lost.
Often it can not be re-established!
Please note that I am not in complete agreement, nor in complete disagreement with anything posted earlier in this thread.
These are just my comments on the subject, based upon my limited experiences.
This has been a very well thought out and civil discussion on an often volatile subject.
One that I have enjoyed reading comments from both sides of the Hobby.
Be Careful & Enjoy!
Biomed1