Has anyone taken their ATF on an extended trip?

I've been thinking of taking my ATF to Hawai'i for 7-10 days or so. I've been many times and love the people, culture, and isolation. I also really enjoy sharing the experience with close friends and family. I should be a paid tour guide by now!

Taking my ATF would be a new experience and I'm excited about it! Has anyone done this? How do I handle it? I told her about my idea yesterday and she was ready to start packing. She said she would go for free if I'm paying all expenses. I don't want to take advantage of her though. We are good friends for sure and we would have a great time. I just don't want to feel guilty about BCD time and I don't want her to regret it either. At the same time, I don't want to break the bank. I'm sure she wouldn't want to take advantage of me either.

Hobbyists, Providers, please help!

If she agrees with going for free, I would go with it and maybe give her some gratuity if that will help you enjoy your trip with her more.

Have a blast!

Do it!!!

I recently took a trip with my ATF. We both had a blast. I planned it as an opportunity for us both to have a vacation.

I, of course, took care of all expenses. I even put her up in a hotel at the airport for the early flight out, and insisted on taking care of small things like airport parking and baggage fees.

As far as compensation goes, I never really got a rate. I literally put a bunch money in an envelope, and sent it to her. It's so subjective to figure out. My guess would be at the very least compensate her for the income she would stand to lose by traveling with you.

Good luck and enjoy! I know I'll never forget my trip and can't wait for the next one.

I do it all the time and love travelling with a special lady. Only you are going to really know how to deal with the finances though. It sounds like you are way past the whole "well, your time is up deal" so don't even try and keep up with time, activities, expenses, and etc. and concentrate on having fun. Make sure she has some personal shopping money daily, all her needs are met and she doesn't have to ask you for anything and then pay her fairly at the end of the trip. If you had only seen or 3-4 times beforehand, I'd suggest you work it out up front, but sounds like she is all for it, just don't take advantage of the situation so she will go with you the next time you ask, have fun!

You're paying for the trip, meals all expenses?

I'd give her a little spending money here and there. Send her to the spa and the salon, buy her some outfits.

Sounds like she truly wants to be treated like a GFE. Do it.

Paying her might make her feel like she is using you.

Lucky bastard. Wish I could find one like that.

Be safe

JR

I How do I handle it? I told her about my idea yesterday and she was ready to start packing. She said she would go for free if I'm paying all expenses. I don't want to take advantage of her though. We are good friends for sure and we would have a great time. I just don't want to feel guilty about BCD time and I don't want her to regret it either. At the same time, I don't want to break the bank. I'm sure she wouldn't want to take advantage of me either.

Hobbyists, Providers, please help! Originally Posted by tonytiger4u

Your lady friend has already given you what she required for compensation.
Just really spoil her when you are there and enjoy yourself.
Nothing like going on vacation to see if you are really friends.
The main thing is she wants to go.Just be sure that is 100% the case before you depart.
If that is the case compensation may offend her in some way.
Good luck & enjoy.

TT I've done it several times! I do NOT pay for OTC time! I pay expences and stabndard BCD fee for each act of kindness! Business is Business! Usually worked out to $500 per day! LOL

I've had some regulars take me to Hawaii, Vegas and Chicago...and on one trip, the guy paid for my daily fee plus took care of all the expenses, but the other two simply paid for my plane fare, daily expenses and gifts, and paid for an adjoining suite next to theirs ( I have to sleep alone LOL ) and that was fine...we also didn't spend every waking minute together, one day he'd go do his thing and another day I'd go to the beach or sightseeing myself. It all worked out good on all trips.

TT I've done it several times! I do NOT pay for OTC time! I pay expences and stabndard BCD fee for each act of kindness! Business is Business! Usually worked out to $500 per day! LOL Originally Posted by Still Looking

Oh so LOL I can ask you to pay for the Austin planefare home to RenO LOL

Oh so LOL I can ask you to pay for the Austin planefare home to RenO LOL Originally Posted by alluringava

Greyhound Baby! LOL And only if I have you all to myself! Like that will happen! LOL

Tony,

Have a great time. Sounds like you've already covered some of the necessary and difficult details. You'll have fun, I'm sure.

Glad to see it's Hawaii. For some reason, many--if not most--of these trips end up heading to Vegas. Not sure what the attraction is but maybe the illusion of "sin City." I did a T, W, Thursday thing to Vegas with an lady once, thinking the night life and open debauchery would be a turn on. Turns out, I probably won't do Vegas again. I had to front her gambling money (she didn't ask but it was a bit awkward) so in the end I think it was more expensive and less BCD time.

You'll develop your own preferences but I've settled back into longer sessions and away from trips. I love a dinner date with 2 hours of dessert. That's my favorite. We both have a good time and get home by 11. Even at premier eateries, it's still less than a trip.

Either way, have a good time. Set the ground rules up front and let her know what you expect as far as time together and time alone. Give her plenty of the latter. Have a good time and remember, in Hawaii, Sex on the Beach is made with Vodka, not Tony!

All the best,

JDN

Enjoy. I have done several multi-days with a few different ladies over the years. You already covered the key point: taking your ATF you know there's a lot of connection beyond the bedroom.

To me the hard part is bringing up the finances--and I think many ladies know that is an akward topic for many of us guys when we're talking a week in Hawaii type of thing. I find it a great relief when they mention it without my having to ask or propose.

I have found that often with an ATF they are ailling to count expenses and good company to someplace they want to go is sufficent trade--I make sure I always buy those ladies a very nice souvenier. One lady has always charged her one night rate (plus I cover expenses) for the vacation and I have no problem with that either.

Don't listen to him TT. You haven't lived till you get a little sand in your ass crack! What the hell you probably already know that! But beware of the sea shells, they're a bitch! LOL

You're paying for the trip, meals all expenses?

I'd give her a little spending money here and there. Send her to the spa and the salon, buy her some outfits.

Sounds like she truly wants to be treated like a GFE. Do it.

Paying her might make her feel like she is using you.

Lucky bastard. Wish I could find one like that.

Be safe

JR Originally Posted by CountryGentleman35

Yes I'd pay for everything. Every single dime. I'm a traditional southern gent and wouldn't have it any other way. We are only two years apart in age so it would be a very realistic GFE.

And yes, I am one lucky bastard! LOL!!

TT I've done it several times! I do NOT pay for OTC time! I pay expences and stabndard BCD fee for each act of kindness! Business is Business! Usually worked out to $500 per day! LOL Originally Posted by Still Looking

Twice a day, huh. I gotta switch to Viagra!