Swinger club outtings with a provider

The question of bringing providers to a swingers club was asked of me.As the topic comes up from time to time, I have started a thread.

For those not real familiar with swinging, the fundamental basis is the concept of adults freely enjoying sex with like minded adults. Typically no strings or attachments. Its about the sex. P4P is the anti-thesis of swinging. The vast majority are couples. Single women are desired by couples with single men having a much smaller place.

Swinger clubs give the people in the lifestyle a place to meet and mingle. There are 2 basic types.

Offsite: Meet, mingle, then leave or meet later for the fun. Some play does happen in these clubs but they typically do not have beds, etc for activities.

Onsite:These offer beds, etc to play on. Most have showers, etc.

Most look like normal clubs but with naked people and sex. Dance floors, maybe DJs. Stripper poles. All are BYOB.

Unescorted men may have a hard time getting in.Check with a club for their specifics. Single women will have no problem being admitted.Some clubs require pre screening if you have never been there.Check with the club for their requirements before going.

As to bringing providers:

Many providers here go to and enjoy swinger clubs.Every time I go to one, I see a few gals from here. Even had one provider I knew jump in bed with me and the gal I was with. If you see a provider at a club, respect her privacy.She may be with a client or just enjoying herself. Let her approach you if desired.

So, you want an outing with a provider to a swingers club.
1. If you have not been, try to find a provider who has.

2. These tend to be open ended evenings. I recommend settling on a fixed rate for the evening. But, in any case, be sure there is a solid understanding of rate for the evening.

3. VERY IMPORTANT: Talk about what is allowed.Others will most likely want to fuck your date. Others may want to fuck you. They will not know your paying for her company and do not tell them. Can either of you have sex with others?Alone or as a couple?Oral? Intercourse? 3 ways? 4 ways? Some guys get upset because they are paying and some guy wants to fuck her for free.If that is your mind set, don’t go.This is one time when you are truly paying for her time and what happens is between consisting adults. The point should be to go and have an evening of uninhibited fun.Mingle, meet people, enjoy the lifestyle.Watch, put on a show, whatever.

Also, Respect for others and No means No are 2 very important rules. Violate one of these and expect to be asked to leave. These are actually 2 of the things I really like about Swingers clubs compared to regular clubs.


I have been many times with providers.They have been some of the most exciting evenings I have ever had.But if you don’t plan, especially #3 above, it can be a disaster.

Feel free to add other advice, especially from the ladies.

Other thoughts:

Swingers are a cross section of the population. Expect a wide range of body types and appearances. Clubs are very different from each other in who they appeal to. Keep in mind that the ladies especially are very self confident. Regardless of their body types, they enjoy sex and all that goes with it. I have seen 200+lb women up on swinger poles wearing g strings with people crowding around to tip her. They know how to have FUN. Swingers as a whole are one of the most open minded, unassuming, non-judgmental group I know.

Thank you for starting this thread OBSG!

I frequent the swingers clubs, and many of the basic questions are pretty much covered here!

Many providers are also involved in LS. The twist is that many or all of there swinger friends have no idea. So as said if you see a provider in that setting don't out her.....

Great post. Something I hope to be able to do someday.

I just recently visited a swingers club with a client. He had been several times before. This was my first time. I was terribly nervous going in (still unsure why), but that night is def on the list of top 5 best nights ever! Def one of the best nights ever! I was fortunate to be able to go with someone just as open-minded and sex crazed as myself. We actually went again a few weeks later. Hoping to get back there soon....
So, to the wonderful gent that took me, hint hint... Round 3??

Good post OBSG- I have been several times- both with a provider and a non provider- I surely would say I enjoyed all the times I been, but I have a regular non provider that I frequent with now and I enjoy my time with the non provider for many of the reasons you mentioned above.
I also have seen several providers on every outing I been and don't approach them because I respect their privacy. The one strange encounter I had was my date and a pretty well known provider on this site seemed to be admiring one another- I knew 100 percent certainty who the provider was- but the provider had no clue who I am since we have never had a session and she obviously doesn't know what I look like- she was with a gentleman- who if I had to guess was a hobbyist(based on the age difference)- it was a little awkward- I didn't want to blow anyones cover so I just removed myself and my date from the situation. Great info OBSG!!!

This is an excellent primer. Thank you so much for this contribution!

If you have questions, please ask. About swinging in general, how the activities in the clubs unfold, differences in clubs, what ever, customs, etc. Someone here can help answer your questions.

Quite a few Providers are involved in the LS, you would be surprised at the number and the evening we were there they attended as singles.

Velvet Curtain & 13th Floor ... Noticed several providers at both establishments enjoying themselves, mingling among the guests. I was attending with a UTR lady and another very attractive provider asked to join us in one of the individual rooms. I kept my mouth shut.

Gentlemen, if haven't attended one if the many on premise or off premise clubs in the DFW area I would suggest you put it at the top your bucket list. Seriously, a great place to meet & greet like minded people and providers that you haven't met face to face.

A few months back there was a get together at Collette's, and it was absolutely amazing...there is a big round bed in the back...may I say I'll be going back soon(:

I have been wanting to do this for months now, and have just casually mentioned it to a couple of clients, but so far have not been able to go. It's on my TO DO LIST for sure! I think it would be soooo HOT!

i did this about 5-6 times back in 2011 [my year of debauchery!] at 13th floor, iniquity (now Colette's), and velvet curtain. most deliteful times were at 13th floor.

if i could still do overnights on the weekends, i would def hook up w/ a provider who wants to go have some public, semi-public, or private delites.

but, alas, no overnights these nights :^(

It sounds like paying for a providers time to accompany one is the same thing as "a way in".
O.P.mentioned single men having a hard time getting in...Seems like money well spent.

Maybe dumb question but is it cool if a man doesn't want other men trying to fuck him? Is that considered close minded?

We'd like to give some specifics as to why we found that the Lifestyle(Swinging) sucks and the hobby is better.

We started in our thirties and everyone out there was like 20 years older than we were, which would have been fine if they weren't fat, hairy, wearing granny panties, had a penile implant or worse. On the other hand, because we were considerably younger, they treated us like sex gods. This was a stroke to our egos, but that pro could not out weigh the cons. We wanted what was in those Motley Crue videos from the 80's (or as close to it as our $$ can buy). The only descent women we met were married to a senior citizen and wanted some younger dick, or a hot provider out there who was swinging with her SO. We also meet providers who were on the clock with a hobbyist, on the payroll and taking one for the team. The initial fascination with watching people having group sex wore off surprisingly quickly. I wouldn't have clicked on that orgy porn! Like everyone else our playtime was limited by kids, work, etc. so attending these parties were a roll of the dice regarding the type of booty that was going to be available. We needed a guarantee of a good time for our valuable time. The reason we love the hobby is that there is a smorgasbord of women to choose from like when I 1st started hobbying in Europe. We are also able to confer with other hobbyists and completely research a provider. In conclusion, when you see guys like Charlie Sheen, etc. out and about they don't have a woman from a swinger's club on their arms - they are dancers, porn stars or escorts!!

If you still feel like trying this out do a google search for swing site, one that you do not have to pay to check out the merchandise. Take a look at what is available in your area by no means will it be of the quality you find on ECCIE. Honestly, I just couldn't have my SO taking one for the team all the time. She just didn't want to have lesbian experiences with women her mother's age!!! Under no circumstances would I go to a swingers club, it's just too much money to waste (Players Club SA,TX, Cost is $100 per Couple. ALL MEMBERSHIP APPLICATIONS MUST BE PRESENTED ALONG WITH A CURRENT GOVERNMENT ISSUED PHOTO ID NO EXCEPTIONS!). Then there is still no guarantee that the people attending the club the the night you decide to show up are going to be hot or not. Once again players like AROD or Charlie Sheen, they are with escorts or strippers, porn stars - never a girl from a swingers club!

I find this idea intriguing, but not too sure how much fun a hairy, fat, older gentleman could have. But it could be fun to at least check it out sometime, with the right escort ( take that term any way you wish).