SB vs Escort

So I've had many excellent experiences with escorts over the last year. The variety, the fun, the exploration etc..

But the thing that is the worst I've experience is when communicating with someone new - the infrequency of replies, the lack of TCB, the poor communication etc.

So I'm thinking of doing SD/SB.

I'm not looking for someone to chat with all day long.

I'm not looking for someone to share my problems with.

I'm not looking for someone currently to have a vanilla relationship with.

Just want someone easy to book with.
someone easy to communicate with.
someone who will meet 1-2x a week.
someone who will explore with me.

Some may say just find yourself a good regular. My answer is I've TRIED.... One of my fav works 1-2 days a week. Same days consistently. But often will go 1-4 weeks without working - which is fine. But ZERO communication.....

So for the guys who have gone the SB/SD route - any benefits or cons I'm missing.

Should I just stay the escort route?

Thx
GayleMeyers's Avatar
So I've had many excellent experiences with escorts over the last year. The variety, the fun, the exploration etc..

But the thing that is the worst I've experience is when communicating with someone new - the infrequency of replies, the lack of TCB, the poor communication etc.

So I'm thinking of doing SD/SB.

I'm not looking for someone to chat with all day long.

I'm not looking for someone to share my problems with.

I'm not looking for someone currently to have a vanilla relationship with.

Just want someone easy to book with.
someone easy to communicate with.
someone who will meet 1-2x a week.
someone who will explore with me.

Some may say just find yourself a good regular. My answer is I've TRIED.... One of my fav works 1-2 days a week. Same days consistently. But often will go 1-4 weeks without working - which is fine. But ZERO communication.....

So for the guys who have gone the SB/SD route - any benefits or cons I'm missing.

Should I just stay the escort route?

Thx Originally Posted by regalbeagal43
Look for service providers who have good reviews and are active with ads. It shouldn't be that difficult to find someone who is near you, attractive and communicative. I totally understand your frustration, though. Keep in mind that the great thing about service providers, is that you can "dump" her at any time without fallout ... I have had clients who "disappear" for a couple of years, and then come back and explain that they were "in a relationship" ... no harm; no foul! Part of the game!

I am not sure if you devote much time to homework about your escorts, but I think a little research would reap rewards, & should you want to move on, could be a life saver....
Yes I can appreciate your comments Gayle. I always try to find ladies with good reviews and active with ads but many times after 1-2 visits they fall off the map etc.

To be fair I usually choose women in the 25-30 age range and it seems as many might have personal challenges that make them inconsistent.
Pangolier's Avatar
So I've had many excellent experiences with escorts over the last year. The variety, the fun, the exploration etc..

But the thing that is the worst I've experience is when communicating with someone new - the infrequency of replies, the lack of TCB, the poor communication etc.

So I'm thinking of doing SD/SB.

I'm not looking for someone to chat with all day long.

I'm not looking for someone to share my problems with.

I'm not looking for someone currently to have a vanilla relationship with.

Just want someone easy to book with.
someone easy to communicate with.
someone who will meet 1-2x a week.
someone who will explore with me.

Some may say just find yourself a good regular. My answer is I've TRIED.... One of my fav works 1-2 days a week. Same days consistently. But often will go 1-4 weeks without working - which is fine. But ZERO communication.....

So for the guys who have gone the SB/SD route - any benefits or cons I'm missing.

Should I just stay the escort route?

Thx Originally Posted by regalbeagal43

The consistent word on the street is that SB are always superior to traditional SW. However, from browsing SA, my personal experience was all the users I encountered on there were either scammers, or extremely high minded, little brats who refused what they called "pay per meet" and wanted a monthly allowance that far exceeds what most guys will spend on traditional SW. Maybe it's just the area I'm in, but that was my personal experience.
The consistent word on the street is that SB are always superior to traditional SW. However, from browsing SA, my personal experience was all the users I encountered on there were either scammers, or extremely high minded, little brats who refused what they called "pay per meet" and wanted a monthly allowance that far exceeds what most guys will spend on traditional SW. Maybe it's just the area I'm in, but that was my personal experience. Originally Posted by Pangolier
Are you in NYC?
Look for service providers who have good reviews and are active with ads. It shouldn't be that difficult to find someone who is near you, attractive and communicative. I totally understand your frustration, though. Keep in mind that the great thing about service providers, is that you can "dump" her at any time without fallout ... I have had clients who "disappear" for a couple of years, and then come back and explain that they were "in a relationship" ... no harm; no foul! Part of the game!

I am not sure if you devote much time to homework about your escorts, but I think a little research would reap rewards, & should you want to move on, could be a life saver.... Originally Posted by GayleMeyers
This is a really good point. SB relationships are relationships. There are fewer strings attached but guys make mistakes when they try to treat SBs like providers or providers like sbs. You can call your SB to shoot the shit. You shouldn't do that with a provider. Like you said, you can see a provider after a year long absence with no communication. You can't do that with an SB. I like the dating style relationship of sbs and I'm not a fan of a lot of the man hate coming from oh2 and a lot of the ladies on oh2.
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This is a really good point. SB relationships are relationships. There are fewer strings attached but guys make mistakes when they try to treat SBs like providers or providers like sbs. You can call your SB to shoot the shit. You shouldn't do that with a provider. Like you said, you can see a provider after a year long absence with no communication. You can't do that with an SB. I like the dating style relationship of sbs and I'm not a fan of a lot of the man hate coming from oh2 and a lot of the ladies on oh2. Originally Posted by Anthonylewis50
I have no problem treating my regulars more like dating friends. I'll bet I am not an outlier about that: perhaps it just requires a few visits, or even just suggesting dinner and "dessert"

... sorry about OH2. It melted down about a month after I joined it, and now, I just ignore it since they can't/won't fix the issues. I feel like Eccie is somewhat of a woman hating site, so I guess it behooves us to just be nicer to each other, no matter who you are, or on what board you are posting ...
I have no problem treating my regulars more like dating friends. I'll bet I am not an outlier about that: perhaps it just requires a few visits, or even just suggesting dinner and "dessert"

... sorry about OH2. It melted down about a month after I joined it, and now, I just ignore it since they can't/won't fix the issues. I feel like Eccie is somewhat of a woman hating site, so I guess it behooves us to just be nicer to each other, no matter who you are, or on what board you are posting ... Originally Posted by GayleMeyers
I again agree. There's a lot of woman hate on eccie.
Ive noticed that woman hate around here as well. Makes no sense.. but internet anonymity lets some people act a fool.
Pangolier's Avatar
Are you in NYC? Originally Posted by regalbeagal43

I wasn't looking in the NYC area at the time I tried out SA. Honestly, I move around so often that updating my location on my ECCIE profile every time I'm in another spot would be pointless, considered I've been a registered user since 2019.
What you truly want from a sb can be had for free from joining any volunteer organization.
Think deeply about that
ahab11's Avatar
I have tried the SB thing and my advice is that at the first sign of any addictions move on.

Do not think it might be a one time thing regardless the excuse you need to move on.

A regular or SB with a story that does not match up and unusual behavior will just result in problems for you wasting your time and money.
Summery of differences
SB is more about the ongoing relationship. While ike sex and money are the driving factors, there tends to be time spent other than in bed.

Escorts are more about the money very little time is spent not in a session.

There can be shades in between but that's the core differences. Neither is "better", just depends on what you want
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  • 03-20-2023, 03:40 AM
I again agree. There's a lot of woman hate on eccie. Originally Posted by Anthonylewis50
Not agreeing with what old bitter whores say is not hate, especially whenever they're pushing some SIMP orders around. Give respect, to get it in return.

Guy's like going the SB route these days, the outrageous hourly rates are out of hand