Do you guys think this hobby is for me?

I'm still a newbie and inexperienced in this so I would like to ask you guys for opinions.

I've had sex twice so far. Both times with different escorts. One is good, one is bad.
I've had only intimacy with 2 people. One is a friend, one is a girlfriend.

The problem is that I feel a lot better when having only intimacy with those 2 people than having sex with the escorts. Is it normal? Does anyone have the same problem? Do you guys think this hobby isn't for me?

I'm not a Psychologist, but I'll play one on ECCIE, since you asked.

I think the Hobby is not for you. Not because you like sex with those two you named, better than Whores. But because you expected that you should like them equally.

This is a Hobby. It is fun when used appropriately. You get to be nasty with a Stranger for 45 minutes, then leave and go about your day. If that isn't the thrill you seek, you might as well bail.

You may have answered your own question. You don’t like the feeling of having sex with an escort vs having sex with your friend / girlfriend. That speaks for itself.

Run Forest, Run.

The women in this business are toys for boys with disposable income who do not want relationships. The women don't want one either.

Read old posts - search on "Train wreck", "I really thought she loved me", "I loaned her money" and "rental car"

Run Forest, Run.

The women in this business are toys for boys with disposable income who do not want relationships. The women don't want one either.

Read old posts - search on "Train wreck", "I really thought she loved me", "I loaned her money" and "rental car" Originally Posted by mtabsw

I can’t agree with this more, I’ve had providers who have either given shit service or basically ripped me off then days/weeks later beg me to send them money because they are “stuck” etc. If you’re the sort of guy who falls for women easily you’re going to one day meet a bad provider and she’s going to play you like a fiddle.

A good rule in life, nevermind the hobby is if you do give someone money, only give what you can withstand to never get back.

Read old posts - search on "Train wreck", "I really thought she loved me", "I loaned her money" and "rental car" Originally Posted by mtabsw

Damn, I feel so bad for that guy. I was in a similar situation like him. I had had depression for a long time and emotionally unstable. That's why I got played, used and dumped. I didn't lose any money but I was psychologically destroyed. It took me a year to recover from breakdown and panic attack. I lost a well-paid job during that time because everything of me bottomed

Now I realize I deserve much more than those bitches. I feel much better being alone rather than spend time with people without mutual mindset

I understand why the OP feels the way he does, the new age hooker was never tought how to be a hoe, she wants the big payday without doing the work, most guys in here want the personal attention and will pay a premium for it,

I see them as street whores that happen to post on the internet, the ones that understand what these guys really want are a few and usually older, today it's follow me here and join my only fans LMAO.... Then they wonder why business is slow when you have thousands of eyes in here daily

Give it some time, Bruce. Quick decisions in the hobby often get us into trouble. Over time, you'll learn how to reconcile intimacy with raw lust. But, if you do not, don't come down too hard on yourself. It's not for everyone.

This thing is good for a good time for 30min to an hour. No strings attached. This might not be for everyone. If you’re looking for a deeper connection, then it might not be for you.

Nothing wrong with continuing down both paths. At least if you have your eyes open abd realize that it is far more healthy to consider them complimentary, not one as a replacement fir the other.

If you’re already questioning your participation in the hobby, now is a great time to get out. Put your energy into making your real life relationships work. If you do that and find you still want casual P4P you are less likely to have regrets.

Do you guys think this hobby is for me?

My answer, and there have been terrific responses on every post so far, is ‘No’, at least not until you learn it is a Hobby of detachment, not attachment, first...Every session should be about you getting physical satisfaction or giving it, then leaving...Proceed with caution, keep evaluating your emotional investment with each session and dropout if it continues to be high, it should be near zero emotionally...I am curious why you began Hobbying to begin with? Everyone should know why they started and why they stayed?

as ManSlut astutely observed/opined ...
"... Everyone should know why they started and why they stayed ..."

cos if one doesnt know where they came from and where they'd like to go, then any path can get one somewhere. it just may not be the place one would want to be.


so, Bruce1, i suggest that you think about why you're here and what you want from this.

good luck!

If you have to ask it’s not for you

If you have to ask it’s not for you Originally Posted by L1A2D