While banned, I had a session with a P411 client, who I believe is an ECCIE member as well based on previous conversations. If I am not mistaken he may even use the same username. I'm not familiar with the masking guidelines but can provide the information I have on him once someone comments on here telling me how or you guys can message me for the info, whatever.
Anyways, I scheduled an evening appointment with a client at my incall. I screened him well and had no complaints from any providers, so I am not sure if they were acceptable of his behavior or if he was just having a moment, or what. So I booked this guy and left home to meet him at my incall. I sat in traffic to get here which is what really pissed me off.
When I arrived, I went to my room and then texted him my room number. This was a last minute appointment so I am not sure if he bought the beer with him or visited my hotel bar (which I think would have been weird. If were meeting for illegal activity, I'm more into the in and out routine). Anyways, he showed up at my door with a beer in hand and was already clearly intoxicated as he swayed from side to side and loudly greeted me with a "Hey Elizabeth" loud enough to be heard down the whole hall.... This was an immediate red flag. He was drawing attention and drinking which already had me uncomfortable. I am not a drinker. I indulge in a glass of wine or social drinking from time to time, but nothing else so I don't appreciate the smell or taste of alcohol.
I mention this to him immediately once we are inside and he instantly becomes defensive. He then reveals that if I have a problem with that, I'll probably have a problem with the fact that he took a pill before our session "because he was nervous."
OMG! By this point I'm freaking out as I don't engage at all in that kind of activity, nor would I have wanted him to share this information so openly. After picking my jaw up off the floor, I kindly asked him to leave and that I wanted to end our session because I was uncomfortable. He was very upset, cursing and demanded an explanation to which I told him that I don't partake in drinking or drug use and don't wish to associate with someone who does. I found it rude that he showed up to our appointment in this condition in the first place.
After arguing for what seemed about 5 minutes, he kept insisting I was prejudice against people who need medication for anxiety and claimed he was prescribed. This made me feel like shit, but i'm not going to put myself in a situation where someone is under the influence of drugs and also drinking while under the influence of that drug. The two of those together I am aware are not a good mix and I have known people to act differently while on the pill he told me he took. He finally left, but not before threatening to tell the hotel staff that I was escorting in the room.
I ended up running into him again when I left about 10 minutes later and he continued to harass me as I walked to my car. I felt I did the right thing by ending an uncomfortable session. Honestly, I feel like I should have made me compensate me for driving all the way out there and then him showing up like that, but I really just wanted to get as far from this person as possible.
I was thankful overall because I noticed when I saw him in better light again out front of the hotel that he had seriously noticeably sweat stains on the armpits of his dress shirt that were stained yellow. Gross!
I mean, I have never had a hobby where someone showed up plastered, on drugs or belligerent like that? I can't imagine anyone else finding that acceptable. Ladies? Guys?
I've had an occasional client offer wine or have drinks on hand to share, but I have never had someone not make me aware or ask my preference beforehand. I've had people tell me before they needed to have a drink before hobbying, which is fine, but the respect in the matter is key.
Was I wrong?