How do you define it?

spunky's Avatar
I am bored and after reading several reviews and looking at some of the ads and showcases this question came to me. What do you consider to be GFE? The acronym GFE stands for "Girl Friend Experience" so it would be logical to assume that one could expect activities such as BBBJ, LFK, DFK, DATY from a self proclaimed GFE provider. Then there are those providers that proclaim themselves as PSE "Porn Star Providers" and even some that proclaim to be both GFE and PSE.

I am not one that watches a lot of porn but have from time to time and DFK is not something you see in them often and I never have had a girlfriend that was game for Greek, and if I ever had a girlfriend that insisted on a condom for oral then she would not be my girlfriend for long. I have always thought of GFE as being an intimate encounter between a provider and a hobbyist with lots of passion and foreplay. In a way it is almost like the two are making love to one another. I have always thought of a PSE encounter as a balls to the ball fuck fest where everything is available like greek but you may not wast much time on activities like LFK and DFK.

If you are looking for the ultimate GFE experience would you see those providers that claim to be GFE/PSE or just PSE, or is that not what you consider to be true GFE? I am interested in everyone’s opinions even those from our fine ladies.


Spunky aka Spunkey71
DEAR_JOHN's Avatar
BBBJ, DFK, MPCFS, and multi bells, within the full hour of course.
The G.O.A.T's Avatar
What he said. (CIM is a definite PLUS too)
spunky's Avatar
What he said. (CIM is a definite PLUS too) Originally Posted by The G.O.A.T
Really, you consider CIM to be GFE, that to me seems more like PSE, never had a girlfriend that would allow that but to be honest never wanted that with a girlfriend either.
landon's Avatar
To me GFE is essentially a non rushed experience where there is some foreplay before sex (and she will give the sex to me how I want it). The foreplay could be HJ or BJ. I dont go for DATY. The quality of GFE can vary.
Eccie Addict's Avatar
Good luck in getting a specific answer on this cause you won't. Every provider has a different view on this. As a matter of fact most of them hate the term. I basically put what I like in my p411 profile and leave it at that. Haven't had many issues yet
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  • Rezo
  • 04-03-2011, 12:13 AM
Really, you consider CIM to be GFE, that to me seems more like PSE, never had a girlfriend that would allow that but to be honest never wanted that with a girlfriend either. Originally Posted by spunky
never had one that didn't
i guess some of us do better in choosing partners
don't know if this contribution will make a huge fluffy difference, or if it will give some of our young post whores food for posting, but here goes...
To me CIM, is PSE. along with cof,well all the other places to pop at...
and the original definition as i understood it, and the reason i never have claimed the honors... GFE, is bare. now i know that has changed...and with our millennium Barbies...but to tell you the goddamn truth, i cant stand condoms!!!!
hence, not FS, and not GFE here in our grand hobby. that is whats up, unedited, live and uncut for your reading pleasure!
LexusLover's Avatar
Good luck in getting a specific answer on this cause you won't. Every provider has a different view on this. ...I basically put what I like ... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict
one could expect activities such as BBBJ, LFK, DFK, DATY from a self proclaimed GFE provider. Originally Posted by op
IMO, gfe is what the hobbyist desires or wishes he would get from a girlfriend, but does not ... so the provider provides the experience. The "fantasy"! Which can even be just sitting there and listening.

On the other hand, if my gf tells me what she is going to "provide" and that is all, then that is a gfe ... as well... by actual definition. Which can be sitting there and NOT LISTENING.

Why would I expend EXTRA time, energy, and money being told what I am going to be provided? I can just keep expending the same amount of time, energy, and money and get that "at home"!

I do not tell a lady what "good daty" is ... .....

..... please don't tell me what a "good bbbj" is.
blowpop's Avatar
GFE is about attitude, not activities. A provider can offer the whole alphabet and not seem GFE to me.

That being said, the quickest way to not be GFE is to have lots of restrictions that wouldn't be present with a civilian girlfriend.

YMMV, of course.
Naomi4u's Avatar
GFE is about attitude, not activities. A provider can offer the whole alphabet and not seem GFE to me.

That being said, the quickest way to not be GFE is to have lots of restrictions that wouldn't be present with a civilian girlfriend.

YMMV, of course. Originally Posted by blowpop
Very well said!


Really, you consider CIM to be GFE, that to me seems more like PSE, never had a girlfriend that would allow that but to be honest never wanted that with a girlfriend either. Originally Posted by spunky
I like this guy
oilfieldscum's Avatar
GFE is about attitude, not activities. A provider can offer the whole alphabet and not seem GFE to me.

That being said, the quickest way to not be GFE is to have lots of restrictions that wouldn't be present with a civilian girlfriend.

YMMV, of course. Originally Posted by blowpop
Excellent definition.

PSE? What does that really mean? Does it really exist in the hobby world? After all most porn stars don't practice safe sex...on film anyway. Sounds dangerous to me.
Excellent definition.

PSE? What does that really mean? Does it really exist in the hobby world? After all most porn stars don't practice safe sex...on film anyway. Sounds dangerous to me. Originally Posted by oilfieldscum
I know; what does PSE mean?

GFE is like Blow Pop said - Spending a great time with a lady that truly wants to be there with you in that moment. A lady that is your girlfriend for that moment in time - without the down side of a SO of course .

Personally, I let the gentlemen I spend time with set the pace. From me, you can expect a big wet kiss at the door; I'll be wearing something sexy; I'll purr in your ear and a visit to a place that is just like my house - not a barren apartment with a bed and a stack of condoms. Just like going over to your girlfriends house for a little lovin' in the afternoon.
I quite like mixing the two....GFE & PSE...then just call it " The Val Experience"
? After all most porn stars don't practice safe sex...on film anyway. Sounds dangerous to me. Originally Posted by oilfieldscum
Hmmm...having done porn, and from my personal experiences, (as I can't speak for other ladies who've done porn) on the matter, I respectfully disagree....

A lot of people that work in the porn industry are safer than some people who escort. I know that the guys and gals in porn are getting their bloodwork done far more often than most people would, as well as drug tests...