Conversation before the date - A turn on? Or a turn off?

Conversation rules the nation,
But,
Talk is cheap,
And,
Bullshit walks, but money talks.


With this being said,

Gentlemen, do you prefer a lot of conversation before seeing a provider?

Ladies, do you prefer to thoroughly conversate with your clients before you see them (even after screening them?).

Also, is too much or too little conversation a turn-off, or a turn-on?


Me personally, I LOVE conversation. I am a social person. However, my best dates have been with hobbyists where no conversation was initially started before our date. Instead, we talked for hours after our date.

Interested to see the responses here!
ManSlut's Avatar
Now you tell me...LMAO

Why does Andrew Dice Clay come to mind - "Ungh...Ungh...uuunngghh.. .Ok, get out!!"
ManSlut, I can only assume what your opinion is...

P.S. You are a bad listener.
bored@home's Avatar

Gentlemen, do you prefer a lot of conversation before seeing a provider?

Also, is too much or too little conversation a turn-off, or a turn-on?


Interested to see the responses here! Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby
I don't care to know about your hopes and dreams in pre-meet messages or calls; first message or contact is mild intro icebreaker and a method to get a general feel of the other person. Keep it light and on topic and should be ok I guess for most.

Too much is a turn off, like saying how horny you are for me when this is the first time we have communicated....yeah ok next
Too little and I read it as being cold or not into at the level I expect.

Men are just as complicated as women with snap decisions, except our minds can be changed depending on blood flow
I, Too, am a social person. I love to talk. But unfortunately, outside of appointment time, I do not have the time to chat with clients ...let alone for hours! I like to be efficient with my time since I have a lot to get done and there are so many hours in a day.
Who doesn't enjoy some hot sexting before the meeting? It gets all the get to know yous outta the way so your both not just staring at each others shoes when you walk in...

BUT...shy girls are HOT too!
ManSlut's Avatar
ManSlut, I can only assume what your opinion is...

P.S. You are a bad listener. Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby
What happened to making assumptions about me?

I, Too, am a social person. I love to talk. But unfortunately, outside of appointment time, I do not have the time to chat with clients ...let alone for hours! I like to be efficient with my time since I have a lot to get done and there are so many hours in a day. Originally Posted by samantha thom
Uh oh, looks like my gal Sam went to the Andrew Dice Clay School of Escorting !! ...jjk Baby
Roger.Smith's Avatar
That'll always depend on the person and the reason they hobby. Forced conversations are just awkward. Unless it's a person that talks at people instead of with them. If I have a conversation with someone, I would rather it be organic. Not all guys want or need an emotional connection, some of us just care about the service. To me, paying is to get past the talking and get down to business.
NearHauteRed's Avatar
Conversations are good before and after a session as long as it is not too personal or political and you actually have something to say, not just rumors or spreading drama. Obviously, a guy does not need any conversation along the lines of trying to get in your pants as that is what the donation is for, but what is good is if you can talk about what you like/dislike during a session, then after the session is over, chatting afterwards may be about the highlights/lowlights of the session and how it can be better next time, ect.
lily blake's Avatar
I prefer no conversation unless I initiate it, I'm a very to myself person so unless its something important or about our date I will not respond. My friends don't even text me because they know I prefer face to face contact.
lily blake's Avatar
And from my expirience the once who try to talk the most 1) never come through or 2) try to take advantage of you
That's a good question. I haven't had the provocative calls, texts, or anything like that (pre-appointment) so not sure about how that would play out. Sounds hot, depends on the gal I suppose.

Overall, I'm a fairly private person (including doing no reviews) so most talk outside of appointment and planning with me is usually pretty limited but in person, I'm happy to talk about most anything. Usually, I do a PM with who I'd like to meet, get the screening over with, then we work out the time/day, etc. and go from there. I'm pretty picky and keep it limited (only a few providers) and so far so good.

Text seems to work best and of course a short call to see if the other person sounds creepy/insane (or not) prior to meeting is okay too.
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  • L.A.
  • 10-09-2013, 03:22 PM
I don't want to converse on the phone at all. I do however like some playful texting leading up to the session-----sometimes.
I don't care to know about your hopes and dreams in pre-meet messages or calls; first message or contact is mild intro icebreaker and a method to get a general feel of the other person. Keep it light and on topic and should be ok I guess for most.

Too much is a turn off, like saying how horny you are for me when this is the first time we have communicated....yeah ok next
Too little and I read it as being cold or not into at the level I expect.

Men are just as complicated as women with snap decisions, except our minds can be changed depending on blood flow Originally Posted by bored@home
Some guys like all the horny sex talk, perhaps that's just something that their SO's don't do at home.
And from my expirience the once who try to talk the most 1) never come through or 2) try to take advantage of you Originally Posted by dallastxbaby
I agree. Some are just all talk and get a orgasm via conversation.