WHAT DUMBASS LET HIS WIFE GET HIS PHONE AND MY NUMBER?

Sorry to hear about that, but some people don't have a "play phone" and are clueless as to the fact the significant other might get suspicious and start snooping/looking into his habits. Prob she took and added 2 + 2 and he didn't clear his cache and your number just happened to be at the same time he told her some story. I would look at blocking that number thru your provider so you don't get any more calls from it.

19.95 for a tracfone and put it where only you use it!!

Oooooo, somebody just got CALLED OUT!

So what did you say? Did you just hang up? Did she keep calling? Do you think she knew you were a provider or did she think you were his girlfriend?

Cayla you should take this opportunity to have a little fun with her. Next time she calls you should thank her for being a lousy lay and that if she had any kind of sexual attraction at all he would not have had to call you. After all you are never going to see her and just image the hell he is going thru right now.

Ouch, that's not nice I don't think any of the ladies in the business wish any pain or heartache onto the wives of our clients. At least I don't.

Smart lady handle awkward situation correctly. Gentleman definitely at fault for indiscretion even if unintentional. Block number and move on. Impossible to fault lady who make many men happy rather than one man miserable.

I had a similar situation...where a guy I was 'dating' was sloppy with his phone...and his fiancé called me for a confrontation.

I patiently let her scream her accusations & obscenities at me...and when she finally ran out of breath, I asked her one simple question:

"Was it my job to be faithful to you, or HIS?"

SILENCE on the other end of the line...I know she was still there for a couple of minutes because I could hear her breathing...and then SHE hung up.

I've also had the misfortune of being the person making the "Who is this and why are you fucking my husband" calls...

My Independence Day was official on April 15th! Woo Hoo!!!

Now, I do a lot less crying...and a lot more shopping!

I like it much better on this side of the fence!

Why do I have to deal with this? Originally Posted by Cayla

At the risk of sounding like I'm not sympathetic with you (I am, really): because you chose to be a provider, and you're not restricting your clientele to single and unattached men, only.*

Mr. Chan has the best advice: block the number and move on (and GND has the best comeback line, if this ever happens to you again; make a note of it). Any woman who is intimate with married guys (whether pay-for-play or out of "love") has the possibility of facing this situation. You just got unlucky. Sadly, you (as a provider) can screen your clients to get a feeling if they're legit and not LEO. Unfortunately, you can't screen them for whether they're dumbasses. This one was a dumbass.

And at least you're luckier than a lot of women in this situation. You've only had to deal with an uncomfortable phone call and possibly lost a client. I've known women who got this call after they'd invested time, money, and emotions into a guy who they thought they "loved", only to find out via that phone call from the wife that their boyfriend was a cheating cad. In at least two ways. It wasn't a pretty sight.

Cheers,

bcg

* And realistically, could a provider limit her clientele to single and unattached men only? No. Not even a real option.

Cayla you should take this opportunity to have a little fun with her. Next time she calls you should thank her for being a lousy lay and that if she had any kind of sexual attraction at all he would not have had to call you. After all you are never going to see her and just image the hell he is going thru right now. Originally Posted by jaxar

Seriously, when I read this yesterday I was thinking of making the same post but decided against it.....I really wish sometimes the ladies would take that approach and maybe it will teach these guys about the need for securing the homebase when they decide to venture out.....

Cayla you should take this opportunity to have a little fun with her. Next time she calls you should thank her for being a lousy lay and that if she had any kind of sexual attraction at all he would not have had to call you. After all you are never going to see her and just image the hell he is going thru right now. Originally Posted by jaxar

Seriously, when I read this yesterday I was thinking of making the same post but decided against it.....I really wish sometimes the ladies would take that approach and maybe it will teach these guys about the need for securing the homebase when they decide to venture out..... Originally Posted by BIG C

Y'all really think that Elin Nordgren (sp?) and Sandra Bullock are lousy lays, and that's why Tiger and Jesse ventured out for a little strange?

The reasons why guys cheat on their wives/SOs are many and varied, and not all guys who see providers are doing so because their wives are lousy lays (though it wouldn't surprise me if that's true of many-to-most married hobbyists).

The major lesson that we need to take away from this is the need to secure the homebase. For the guys: cover your tracks. For the ladies: think about how you're going to handle this situation when it happens to you (because it just might; this isn't something that only happens to the other person, as Cayla now knows).

DeAnna? What do you have to say? Talk some sense to us!

Cheers,

bcg

I can clear history but how do you clear the cache? And would that be all that could leave tell tale signs of browsing for 'tang.

Thanks in advance.....

Y'all really think that Elin Nordgren (sp?) and Sandra Bullock are lousy lays, and that's why Tiger and Jesse ventured out for a little strange?

The reasons why guys cheat on their wives/SOs are many and varied, and not all guys who see providers are doing so because their wives are lousy lays (though it wouldn't surprise me if that's true of many-to-most married hobbyists).

The major lesson that we need to take away from this is the need to secure the homebase. For the guys: cover your tracks. For the ladies: think about how you're going to handle this situation when it happens to you (because it just might; this isn't something that only happens to the other person, as Cayla now knows).

DeAnna? What do you have to say? Talk some sense to us!

Cheers,

bcg Originally Posted by bluffcityguy

There ARE many and varied reasons that hobbiests hobby. One should not assume that it's always the wife's fault and then help to ruin even more what sounds like probably a really horrible day for her. Would you do that to your own wife and purposely cause her pain? Course not. The hobby is here to actually help prevent just that.

A side note gents. . .

Regardless of how you approach phone safety you should have a tertiary vanguard to protect your regular providers when it comes to electronic address books. Rather than have their "stage name" listed in your cell phone, you should develop you own code of pseudonyms, preferably with male names.

For instance, if the OP here is one of your regular ladies, don't have her listed as Cayla in your phone--that's asking for trouble, no matter how careful you think you are being with that phone. Instead have her listed as:

Carl Austin or as CYLA Enterprises LLC.


Trust me, it works and does not take much extra effort on your part.




PS: In my case it is my wife's fault. If she would suck my dick and let me go down on her, we would have a much bigger house and be going on much better vacations when you add up the cost of my hobby over the last 25 years. That's my ego-centric perspective, for the day. . .

PS: In my case it is my wife's fault. If she would suck my dick and let me go down on her, we would have a much bigger house and be going on much better vacations when you add up the cost of my hobby over the last 25 years. That's my ego-centric perspective, for the day. . . Originally Posted by ANONONE

Gee, Anon, don't feel like the loan ranger. My guess is if we took all the guys on the board and added up hobby costs for the past 25 years we could make Congress and Obama all look like fiscal conservatives!

I can clear history but how do you clear the cache? And would that be all that could leave tell tale signs of browsing for 'tang.

Thanks in advance..... Originally Posted by KDOGG

Be proactive; use Private Browsing (Firefox)/In-Private Browsing (IE8; I use Windows/Linux, so if you're a Mac user I apologize). In this mode you don't keep history or cache.

Firefox: from the "Tools" menu, choose "Start Private Browsing". When you're finished choose "Tools"... "Stop Private Browsing" to stop.

IE8: Choose the "Safety" dropdown at the right. From that, choose "In-Private Browsing". That will open a separate browser window that will operate in In-Private Browsing mode. To stop, just close that browser window.

To clear cache:

Firefox: Choose "Tools" menu, then "Clear Recent History. Make sure the "Cache" box is checked, select a time frame to go back and delete (anywhere from the last hour to forever), then click the "clear now" button.

IE8: Select the "Safety" dropdown, and then choose "Delete Browsing History" from that. Make sure that "Temporary Internet Files" (Micro$oft's name for "cache") is checked, then click "delete".

Cheers,

bcg