I think this highlights one of the problems of D/S in the P4P world, specifically hiring a dom. In the D/S arena, the sub is there to do the dom's bidding (within the realm of negotiated limits). But in P4P, the provider is there to do the client's bidding, again within the realm of negotiated limits.
So I'd argue that this sort of P4P D/S scene is a classic example of topping from the bottom. I'd further argue that the only way for a sub to have a true sub experience in P4P is to let the dom set the agenda. The sub conveys her limits, and the dom works inside those parameters. But what the sub thinks she likes is not really the point, is it?
But that's just my opinion, and I don't have a lot of patience for subs who try to top from the bottom. They are typically brats who are in need of firm correction.
Originally Posted by blowpop
Pretty much, yes. And at the same time, No. As both a hired Domme and a rl Domme, it is my responsibility to know. As a hired Domme, as soon as I agree to the scene, I have agreed to abide by
the clients' perimeters - no matter what. Whereas in RL, time rarely factors in and limits can be pressed. There is less freedom as a Domme in p4p. p4p is more challenging to me, and that's okie dokie. I love a challenge.
I will not take a scene I cannot find interest in - in real life. <- That's the selfish greedy me who usually gets her way. I'm human.
As a p4p Domme, I will not take a challenge that I cannot meet and have to be happy with the reality that my only satisfaction may be that of "a job well done". <- Same as RL.
I would rather a "hobbyist" come to me ( a real life, trained, Domina) than go see someone "who can do it." What is asked for is a sub's prerogative and is respected. How I deliver on the request.....well, now....That's my prerogative, isn't it?
And as A Domme (paid or not) is my duty.
