Should I hobbie?

Hello everyone

Joined this site a few years ago right before a certain law passed which brought it down. So happy to see it's back! Hooray

Going to describe myself as a shy guy whos never been very good at the flirting game. I married at a young age, my wife is the only woman I've been with. In the last two years we only been intimate twice..

So I decided enough is enough. You only live once. I want (need) to try getting some elsewhere. See what the grass is like on the other side...

I don't think I'm cut out for it. Just the thought of meeting a provider makes me nervous. It did not help that my attempt to book time via KIK I got scammed out of 50 bucks.

I'm in Fort Smith, is this city just newbie unfriendly? Should I stop before getting my feet wet? Anyone else been in my situation got any advice?

-Sorry if I'm posting in the wrong section or breaking other rules, not intentional.

Yes.

“In the last two years we only been intimate twice...”

My sweet summer child. I will pray to the old and new gods someone will suck your soul away.

Okay, Link... first: YES. You know this already, but every human being I know would understand, even in most churches.

Second, don't do it in your hometown. a) Fort Smith is a notoriously bad environment for the hobby. b) I sense that you are still strongly vested with your SO, and probably in the community as well. If either is true, don't shit where you eat. Especially on your first few encounters. Go on a business trip, field trip, getaway, walkabout, etc. and line up a nice encounter with a top shelf provider. If you need recommendations, let me know if you're using LR, and I'll help you. If you're using NWA, I know the club up there will happily assist as well.

Third, if you have abundant resources, get your own room. This will help you with your shyness (as will being out of town) by allowing you to get comfortable with your environment, and home field advantage is always a good thing. If not, no big deal - just double down on your research to ensure that your provider is the right one and she's aware in advance that you're new to the hobby. I have one in mind who will sweep you gently into the comfort zone.

PM me if you want names, etc. I'd rather not be the guy to start the name suggestions on an active thread.

Life is truly short. The hobby is truly exhilarating at times... As they say about sex: "When it's good, it's really good...
...when it's bad, it's not that bad..."

Finally, the hobby will likely make you a better lover for your wife. If you're shy, you're going to get over that in time. You're going to get very comfortable with your own body, and you're going to get very confident with the ladies' bodies...including your lady back home. From just the small amount of info you've shared, I feel very strongly that in an couple of years, your SO's sex life will have improved dramatically. Word to the wise, though, don't show her ALL your new tricks all at once!!

👆👆👆so much yes on everything that was stated above. Very wise words Cool Hand.

Finally, the hobby will likely make you a better lover for your wife. If you're shy, you're going to get over that in time. You're going to get very comfortable with your own body, and you're going to get very confident with the ladies' bodies...including your lady back home. From just the small amount of info you've shared, I feel very strongly that in an couple of years, your SO's sex life will have improved dramatically. Word to the wise, though, don't show her ALL your new tricks all at once!! Originally Posted by CH Luke

Luke wise words but I am going to add one thing. Ease into it. Otherwise it WILL turn into an addiction and you will go crazy. I have seen it before. It's all new and exciting and then you crave seeing someone new every week. Then you will develop a "fucket list" and then will start knocking it out. One thing will lead to another and then you will find yourself running through the dark in the backwoods of Fayetteville screaming.....

Then it all comes to a tragic end when you have to explain to your SO about not having any money to pay the mortgage.

Or like Luke said, it will make you a better lover for your wife. 50/50 shot of either one happening.

Just remember: It IS NOT A HOBBY for the women, it is their income. Its how they earn a living. They will flirt with you and chat some but remember its all an illusion. ie: do not fall in love with the first young thing to swallow your load with her finger up your butt.

Let me just say: wow

Honestly I wasn't sure what to expect when writing my post. Truely thankful for the sincere, helpful replys. Special thanks to you CH Luke. Going to avoid FS, put away money each month and wait for when a trip comes up so I can research/book in advance.

I feel a bit less nervous now. Also going to avoid the addiction trap, but tbh I will have seious butterflies... I wonder if that will make the first time better or worse lol. I guess that might depend on the provider.

Better to do a thing than live in fear of it...
If you’re really nervous the first time, let her know and ask to start off with a massage. I promise within 5 minutes you’ll be banging like bunnies. Good Luck.

Another +1 on what CH Luke said. FS i have heard a lot of bad things about. Fortunately I have a friend UTR I see whenever life takes me to that town. I don’t know your situation there on being able to travel, with your family life and job, but if you can’t there is an AMP in FS I have visited several times, once last month and had a good time every time. I prefer regular providers, however as an option to get your feet wet it may be a good place to start if traveling to NWA or LR is not an option. You can look at the AMP reviews to see which place I am talking about. Good luck and play safe.

One suggestion. Get a good phone app for your hobby life and hide it well in your phone. Less chance of getting caught then having a burner she can find. They are hard to explain.

Man...I agree with all the advice given above -

Ex, a good warning - it's nowhere near the entry to the hobby, but somewhere deep in the woods, there's a place where it can get out of control and you can start to get addicted to it. When you start seriously considering two dates with different gals in the same day, it's time to put the phone down for a while.

Ag and SAS, yes, a massage is a perfect way to spend less and get over the initial jitters (which may persist for a while...but will almost always not be there with a good massage. If you'd like recommendations in the LR area, just PM me and I'll steer you on the right path.)

Also a +1 on the app idea above. Google voice has been working well for me. You can delete the app in a few seconds and leave it off, easily download it when you want to review or renew activity and it reloads with any new texts. You can set it to NOT ring/chime. Pretty handy - haven't used my burner in months.