Dodger, LOVE THIS THREAD!!!!!
OK. Here goes - Observations From One Year In:
1) First and foremost, good TCB and effective communication from the very outset are the key to your happiness. Think of it like the basics of writing a journalistic article: WHO (is the provider), WHAT (do you desire specifically), WHY (this one is simple...), WHEN (set a time and be ready then), WHERE (this is gonna vary due to safety / LE concerns - but its hard to be on time if you don't know where to go...) and, I cannot stress this enough, HOW MUCH is the donation.
2) Lets spend a few minutes on the HOW MUCH portion of the above PRE-GAME TCB REQUIREMENTS, as I have noticed that there has been a little confusion lately with regards to what is proper etiquette and the contractual obligations..... and yes, it is a contract between client and provider. Now, so that there is no confusion in the future, UNLESS YOU HAVE IT IN FUCKING WRITING FROM THE PROVIDER THAT YOU GET A SPECIAL DISCOUNTED RATE FOR ETERNITY, YOU PAY THE ECCIE ADVERTISED RATE IN THE PROVIDER'S SHOWCASE, ThreAD, Weekly Ad, SNATCH THREAD, of WEEKEND LINEUP post EACH AND EVERY TIME. And I'll add this, make sure that you fucking ask / verify if "pursuant to your SNATCH post, it will be "$X" for the desired individual session?" This really will save us all a lot of headaches.
If you have an alternate agreement / arrangement, as some regulars have with their providers, GET IT IN WRITING. None of us here, except me of course, are special....
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. WE ARE CLIENTS FIRST. Whatever else may develop is secondary to that basic relationship. If either client or the provider wish that to change, one will breach the subject to the other, but do not get all pissy and butt hurt if you "put your heart out there" or extend the "friendship invitation" and get rebuffed. We all have private lives and such are not required to be shared with anyone.
Now lets talk about specials and discounts. If you are fortunate enough, for whatever reason, to be graced with a discounted rate or have another arrangement with a provider, MAKE SURE THAT BOTH CLIENT AND PROVIDER ARE ON THE SAME EXACT PAGE with regard to that arrangement. As such, these questions need to be addressed: 1) Is this special rate for this session only? , 2) for a review special?, 3) do I always get this rate from here on out?, 4) do I get this rate only if I see you "X" number of times per month, 5) If I pay a monthly rate (SD/SB arrangement) what do I get and what are your obligations, 6) are there any additional amounts that I'd need to cover - incall location use, hotel rooms for an afternoon tryst, etc...., 7) and anything else that comes up regarding the basis of the bargain ("the deal") going forward.
I realize that this can be a somewhat uncomfortable conversation, especially if you are a newbie or relatively new, but IT MUST OCCUR - and not just the first meeting. If you see a provider more than twice, it is an evolving relationship and this conversation must occur frequently to ensure that all are on the same page. I'm not just preaching at the clients here - Ladies, its your business and you are responsible for clearly and effectively communicating the terms of the transaction(s) / relationship with the client - DO NOT THINK IT RUDE OR THAT ITS A MOOD KILLER - we are all here and understand the symbiotic relationship between the parties. I always think that this is best done by PM, right from the initial onset of communication that way everyone understands and everyone can keep a copy. And remember, this should all be TCB items addressed before any BCD occurs.
If I cancel within 24 hours of a session, my personal policy is that I pay the lady the agreed upon donation for the cancelled session as soon as I can. You would be amazed how many times that that simple act has led to amazing benefits and respect earned from the provider..... It automatically makes you a "stand up, solid guy". And since ladies talk.....it will pay you future dividends as well if a provider mentions in infoshare that "he was a complete gentleman, had to cancel, but paid me my donation anyways".....I promise after that you can probably see anyone you want to. And, as happened to me, the provider was graceful enough to allow me to see her the next time for free..... Kill em' with kindness! The NillaNice Motto....
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3) Provider Attire / Attitude - communicate your desires before the first session as soon as you are able. This allows the provider an little insight into your preferences and time for her to arrange for such, if time allows. Me, I'm PlainVanillaATX and my tastes are simple....... But you gotta let the lady know your preferences before hand, verbally or in writing, as they are not mind readers. But FYI, Leopard Print ANYTHING is awesome! Ladies, I'm sure that "being bright eyed and bushy tailed" (i.e. being awake, alert, and into the session) is a plus for all. I doubt that any of us want you all stoned out of your gourds, numb to the world or in some trance. Sounds simple and silly but please be able focus on us.....
4) Be Clean - I'm not going to resurrect the entire "shower / make sure you junk is immaculate and fresh" thread but I'm willing to bet that shaved, spotless and fresh smelling pussy / dick and balls get a lot more action than the other......just saying. Common mutual courtesy.....just everyone be fresh.
5) Entrance / Greeting - This may just be me, but I have always been a little leery of being instructed to "just come on in" to the location. I want to be greeted by the provider at the door for several reasons: 1) If she is not the person in the pictures or if the pictures are old or doctored I want to be able to turn on a dime and walk out with out entering, 2) if she is wasted or high on something, I want to see that ASAP and leave without ever entering a location with illicit items and 3) I actually want to be greeted in a friendly and cordial manner and to feel that I am welcome in the location.....what if you just walk into the wrong apartment by mistake...... Nope, not me, not happening. Meet me at the door.
6) Talk and Discuss - When you get there, spend five minutes or so talking. It will put everyone at ease and allow you both to refine the activities that will shortly commence.....sometimes BCD surprises are not all that great.....just saying. I was not expecting "dirty talk" one time..... AWKWARD!
7) Providers Are Responsible For Protection - Ladies, this is your business and you are responsible for the provision of the condoms. You can write off the cost on your taxes as a consumable (no pun intended) business expense.
So, to put it succinctly and summarize, Awesome TCB will lead to Amazing BCD..... trust me.
-Nilla (provider of 4" of cold hard steel....if you get it, you got it)