Dominant Providers

Ladies, I have a question that I have been wondering about and hope you can help.

How do you decide what activities happen during a domination session? I have had some sessions that were good and some that left me feeling like I "was in control" because she was just trying to please me...

I am guessing that there is a fineline between being a dominant provider that enjoys her time for herself and one that spends time making sure the guy is getting what she thinks he wants...

On one hand you can really explore your pleasure but on the other, disappointing someone could mean bad review or lost repeat friend.

Thoughts??

P.S. If there are any of you out there that are willing to have a session that is ALL about your fun/pleasure /amusement let me know.
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Ditto
I think ultimately it depends on your chemistry i.e. if I love something you don't, then I probably won't do it. Maybe with some ladies it also goes the other way - if you love something they don't, they can do it but it may seem forced. On the other hand, when I did pro domme I made sure to start with conversation discussing our likes and dislikes so we can both enjoy, and I have a pretty open mind so almost nothing was off the table. And of course, safeword always!

Hugs and kisses,
Jubilee
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Ps- if you can't track down Winter Monroe, you will not regret it!
The Hot Nurse, Kinky lil Nikki, Italiana Princess, and Tiffany Tyler would be what your looking for.
If you want a Pro Domme, Mistress Tracy has a training course in which, 'She will make you into a slut to fulfill her kinks and perversions,'.
DallasRain's Avatar
hell yeahhhh...I luv making naughty boys my lil sluts...I will be your way next month.......
Now be a good lil slut and go get ya sum from the ladies above till I get there!!
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* CAN!
Well request it when you talk to the girl. If she opens the door all hot and sexy wearing a nice size strap on you have your answer. Anybody in KC like that?
If you are by new Orleans, you should see Mistress Cyber. She's a well known NYC Domme who has a dungeon down here. Really the only HOT Domme in New Orleans.
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Well request it when you talk to the girl. If she opens the door all hot and sexy wearing a nice size strap on you have your answer. Anybody in KC like that? Originally Posted by hairyhoudini

hmmmm ..hell yeahhhh ME..lol
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If any of y'all get to Austin I would show you how to actually serve me and be my man slut and use you to please me. I am into topping men and using them as my play toy. I am not a sadist but love good nasty man play toy to use for my amusement.
I can't help. Lol. I'm a Pro. Sub. But I would like to watch a woman be a FemDom...One time. Or a woman top a man. I always want to learn more.
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I would love to top you and the guy at once. OMG my favorite way to play. cummere ya littl slut and let me show u a few things. hahaha you would have so much fun in my slut training school
Ladies, I have a question that I have been wondering about and hope you can help.

How do you decide what activities happen during a domination session? I have had some sessions that were good and some that left me feeling like I "was in control" because she was just trying to please me...

I am guessing that there is a fineline between being a dominant provider that enjoys her time for herself and one that spends time making sure the guy is getting what she thinks he wants...

On one hand you can really explore your pleasure but on the other, disappointing someone could mean bad review or lost repeat friend.

Thoughts??

P.S. If there are any of you out there that are willing to have a session that is ALL about your fun/pleasure /amusement let me know. Originally Posted by jttdfw
I try to take it slow...I usually ask for a general idea of the things they like. Once they arrive I like to start w/ light touches & tickles...sitting close...music...candles. I ask if they've done this before...how much experience...more about what they like. I start slow small & gentle...working my way to bigger, bolder things...all the while paying close attention to body language...as well as constant sexy conversation & asking him if he likes how it feels from time to time.

To me it's all about communication, & understanding body language. It's a fine balance between tenderness/understanding/respect & firmness/control/letting loose!

Yes I want to please the guy...it's my job! BUT I'm naturally VERY dominant...so I just try to get in where I fit in! lol I take charge in all my session's even FBSM...that's just my nature. I think that's one of the main differences between a good Dom & a bad Dom. Some women are naturally submissive so it makes it harder to play the role.

I'm BY FAR not saying I'm a great profesional Dom or anything...it's just something I enjoy....and have been doing for about 5 years now.

A lot of the SWEETEST guys I've ever met are the guys who let me have my way
My pleasure honestly comes from serving, that can be anything SHE is into. Only can think of two things I would call hard limits. Blood and scat. I don't believe in "soft limits" for myself. If something would bring her pleasure but I am not "into it", I would still get a major thrill from her enjoyment! Maybe I'm strange but longing to be submissive is more than a sexual fantasy, I feel it is my calling.