The Irish Vixen is speaking out

Since I joined this site and became active with posting I have always tried to keep my post thought provoking or light. I have never be rude to anyone and I have shown respect and clarified anything if someone may take something not the way I intended, I avoid the drama and follow eccie guidelines.Alot of time I will PM a person on their post and have NEVER said anything rude or disrespectful in these PM they are always send to supportive or offer advice in a nice way.. Two things that have happened in the last couple days that I am compelled to address now mind you I have just have a death so I am raw and probably why these things have bothered me. There are eccie guidelines that are being ignored and the moderators seem not to want to do there job. The only detail I will give is I saw a post I send a PM in support and well wish just advising to be careful..nothing rude or out of line the person replied saying thank you...now when I reply to a post I don't check the person's profile I just reply to the post the next thing I know is I get a PM from a provider one I actually like and respect based on her post and according to her PM se saw the PM I sent the guy who posted and to be honest I am not sure how she meant the message so I replied in a positive way than checked the guys profile..what a violation of guidelines...the second thing i check where I posted something and while searching i see a provider posted with my handle in her header so being confused I clicked it..while she has vixen in one of er handles and she has more than one I pm'd the moderator because that could cause some confusion..i than Pm her and she replied..WOW.I than posted a clarification post and the mod contacted me and was very indifferent not to mention had his facts wrong...I try and be nice and supportive and not take things perosnally...but what is the purpose of having guidelines that is disregarded or moderators who don't want to do that they need to? Now I usually will handle my problems myself with PM and yes I am emotional due a death but I am totally disgusted by the lack of respect people show and the rudeness of people.

I did not get a chance to call you back about this, but I would have suggested you handle it privately. No one on the main forum has any idea what this is about.

If someone is using a name like yours, it's tacky but not against the board rules. Maybe add something else to go with your name like, "The original Irish Vixen" so there will be no confusion.

I really don't think you should post your personal drama on the main board love...just my .02.

I'm sorry for your loss, love. I hope the issues you are having get worked out satisfactorily. I'm sure everyone understands a bit of emotional turmoil considering the circumstances. I truly hope things get better.

Sorry to hear about your loss.....Time will heal I assure you of that

ECCIE.....these ladies need their powder room back stat!!!!! Get a move on will ya lol.

Sorry to hear about your loss.....Time will heal I assure you of that

ECCIE.....these ladies need their powder room back stat!!!!! Get a move on will ya lol. Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

+1

Irish Vixen,

What you did was wrong. What you are doing NOW posting this here is wrong. If you have already handled the situation.. saying you didn't know it was me he was referring to... then why even post it in public. Irish Vixen, You were at fault. You had no business to do what you did/say what you did. You have no business contacting ANYONE'S clients/friends. Just leave the situation alone and let it die.

This thread should be closed! You are doing nothing but fueling the fire. If you didn't want drama you wouldn't have posted this here. THIS SHOULD BE HANDLED VIA PM!

I'm very sorry for your loss, Ms Vixen.

If you have a problem with me as a Mod, and how I handle a situation, I personally would like to receive a PM from you. Not speaking for anyone else, but I am quite willing to discuss whatever about it. I have even been known to change my point of view occasionally.

If you still have an issue after that, you are always free to escalate it up the chain of command. We are each going to handle a given situation differently.

And Naomi, YOU just outed yourself, no one else. I had no idea who she was referring to and I'm sure most of the 10's of thousands of members here that will read that, did not either.

As everyone else has said, it usually better to handle these things privately, PM or email.

And Naomi, YOU just outed yourself, no one else. I had no idea who she was referring to and I'm sure most of the 10's of thousands of members here that will read that, did not either.

As everyone else has said, it usually better to handle these things privately, PM or email. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Chica, She knows what she did is wrong. I will explain later via PM. wrong is wrong.

The island has a place called fight club......I'm just saying.

Chica, She knows what she did is wrong. I will explain later via PM. wrong is wrong. Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Maybe so, but no one else did or knew who she was referring to...until you told everyone it was you. Thats my point.

As I said and say again, It's much better to handle these things privately. Is anyone listening??

Dearhunter...

Maybe so, but no one else did or knew who she was referring to...until you told everyone it was you. Thats my point.
Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Didn't really matter to me sweetie.

It is wrong for a provider to contact another provider's client and tell him that the provider he is seeing is in it just for the money. It is wrong. That creates drama. I'm sorry I had to say it. It is also wrong to play victim when you are the one starting drama.

Didn't really matter to me sweetie.

It is wrong for a provider to contact another provider's client and tell him that the provider he is seeing is in it just for the money. It is wrong. That creates drama. I'm sorry I had to say it. It is also wrong to play victim when you are the one starting drama. Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Perhaps it matters to others? I will take my own advice and respond to your PM.

It is wrong for a provider to contact another provider's client... Originally Posted by Naomi4u

What the hell? You ladies have us divided up and you have your names branded into our asses or something to mark your territory? Never knew that...up until now I'd have thought that providers could contact anyone else they wanted to and tell them anything they wanted to...hmm, strange...I'll have to rethink the hobby world now, not to mention looking in the mirror a bit more for that damn brand...