This reminds me why the P4P adage that time with erotic service providers actually costs less than long term romantic partnerships is so true. Originally Posted by Lena DuvallI wouldn't be surprised haha, but do you really wanna go through the hassle of setting up an incall/outcall every night? I guess I could try the sugarbaby thing, find a very open one, and see if something long term and more normal can develop from that.
Hmmmmm...I haven't found that to be true. Now, first night with a civvie girl you aren't going to say "bend your ass into a pretzel and meow "PAPI" to me...but over time you can get what you want"You got a great benefit if you are fairly vanilla and not even looking for a SO. Maybe I can learn to be happy with vanilla sex, but it's gonna be a big step down lol. Yeah the clock is a annoying too, you can't just do stuff for multiple multiple extended hours or all night long most nights, that would bankrupt you fast lol. Eventually people start questioning what are you doing with your life, when you always show up with no SO ever. It's like what are you doing seeing hookers? You never have a love interest around lol. Hope you're right about the over time thing.
Most girls have a desire to get a bit freaky, you just have to work up to it over time.
Me being fairly vanilla, I just haven't seen it be much of a problem. AND there is the civvie benefit of clock really NOT being in play.
so I try hard to balance my play between hobby & civvie...not looking for a SO & I consider that a benefit. Originally Posted by Toyz
You got a great benefit if you are fairly vanilla and not even looking for a SO. Maybe I can learn to be happy with vanilla sex, but it's gonna be a big step down lol. Yeah the clock is a annoying too, you can't just do stuff for multiple multiple extended hours or all night long most nights, that would bankrupt you fast lol. Eventually people start questioning what are you doing with your life, when you always show up with no SO ever. It's like what are you doing seeing hookers? You never have a love interest around lol. Hope you're right about the over time thing. Originally Posted by galaxon00Vanilla is a subjective word Galaxon. From what I've been told, most of us are fairly basic. I said basic, not boring...every position, every room, public sex, car sex, an occasional "damn did we get drunk and do anal"?. , some light bondage and spanking for fun type vanilla. That sort of vanilla. not just Kiss/Head/Missionary.
Providers have discovered something that not all RW girls have. I can't answer your question objectively, but I do know that sexuality tends to be a lot more complex in the female psyche than it is for men. Your psyche will likely catch up with you and then you could decide later what would work for you. Some intrinsic exploration on the matter, the why's and why nots, may help. Looks like for now you've found the most convenient (and IMO the smartest) way to get your personal desires fulfilled with no strings attached or need to be reciprocate of the other person besides cold hard cash. And yes, fetlife would probably be your second best bet. Originally Posted by JadeRoseThanks for all the advice. I love the hobby and I'll keep at on fetlife too
Vanilla is a subjective word Galaxon. From what I've been told, most of us are fairly basic. I said basic, not boring...every position, every room, public sex, car sex, an occasional "damn did we get drunk and do anal"?. , some light bondage and spanking for fun type vanilla. That sort of vanilla. not just Kiss/Head/Missionary.OK cool I get it
And I've been married and in committed relationships...never say never, but just not motivated by that right now. I have different women for different pleasures. Got my hiking chick, my movie chick, my concert chick(s)...so you can cobble together the BEST of a SO relationship without the negatives. But it does take a lot of work.
Disseration over...sorry its the coffee talking.
Now, jade and other girls for hire will try to convince you that you have to stay "in hobby" for all your erotic and erectic desires...but its just not true.
They are handy...and serve a purpose though, I agree.
The really freaky shit I'm not into Originally Posted by Toyz