Best way to ask for a reference?

So I’m pretty new to this and so far I’ve seen a few posts where providers require references and do not screen.

My question is what is the best method of asking a provider I have seen for a reference? Is it in person during a visit or through text after a visit? After a couple visits or is one fine?
Thanks.

Start by 1) making the rounds of the newbie friendly providers, and 2) Get on P411. Write reviews, be a gentleman, and contribute on this site. After a while, you'll be a regular hobbiest. But be paitient. These ladies' priorities are 1) Safety and 2) Getting paid (in that order).

I've made it a policy to go out of my way to make ladies feel safe with me. I don't want her to get the slightest flicker of a creepy or unsafe vibe. If they feel safe, you will find that not only will they gladly book you again, but they will sometimes refer you to their friends.

I just ask the providers you seen if they give refes afeter your metting
If all goes well they should ,But some providers just don't give them .

Start by 1) making the rounds of the newbie friendly providers, and 2) Get on P411. Write reviews, be a gentleman, and contribute on this site. After a while, you'll be a regular hobbiest. But be paitient. These ladies' priorities are 1) Safety and 2) Getting paid (in that order).

I've made it a policy to go out of my way to make ladies feel safe with me. I don't want her to get the slightest flicker of a creepy or unsafe vibe. If they feel safe, you will find that not only will they gladly book you again, but they will sometimes refer you to their friends. Originally Posted by almostfamous

This is very good advice.
I would add that after a while you might get the reference special. I had a provider that I asked to be my reference, she texted back yes, and then texted me "but you dont need her, come by and I will make it worth it" which she did!
The problem for me is that I ended up doing 2 sessions in 2 or 3 days, one with the new girl and one with the reference girl, which affected my budget of 1 a week... but that is a different problem LOL.

Idea, tell your provider- you are out of town & would like to use her as a reference so, she can't run a special all of a sudden & wants you to come by. I have heard about that manipulation scheme many times.
He can also do a conference call and let the new escort hear the conversation that confirms their was a safe meeting with a verified provider.
The Fastest confirmation, reference.

Correction, I spelled 'their' incorrectly- THERE is the correct version.
Sorry

I texted afterwards when I was new. Now I double check during session. I also text them a heads up if I am inquiring with someone. That way they are ready to expect the reference check.

Trying to figure this out. Seems they are all sketchy. I don't feel comfortable

I always check with them during the session if they are ok to provide a reference and what’s the best contact to provide to the other girl. Some don’t want to give phone numbers and ask for email to be given. Some only want their phone number to be given out for reference (they say they don’t check email often). I have always given them a heads-up that so and so will be reaching out, asking about me. Most providers I have seen are cool with giving a reference. Be polite, considerate and have good manners. I have seen that go a long way to get quick response and a good reference.

I found that the best way to ask for a reference was to ask for a P411 vouch. With 2, you can become a member. Small annual fee and I never have to ask for references. Some ladies look at the account, some actually contact recent oks, but I never have to get involved. Seems much easier on everyone.

I'm the odd one I don't need you to ask me when you are using me as your refes, just have them email or text.
Email is best as I don't keep my hobby phone on me at all times when not working . But my personl phone I can check emails ..

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I always check with them during the session if they are ok to provide a reference and what’s the best contact to provide to the other girl. Some don’t want to give phone numbers and ask for email to be given. Some only want their phone number to be given out for reference (they say they don’t check email often).

I have always given them a heads-up that so and so will be reaching out, asking about me. Most providers I have seen are cool with giving a reference.

Be polite, considerate and have good manners. I have seen that go a long way to get quick response and a good reference. Originally Posted by CKJAmore

^^^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^^^

if she posts info about requesting a reference in her ads, abouts, or websites...
i suggest you wait til after the intimacies are over as you are getting ready to head out (*). or after you've left or a day later.
just say you want to confirm her procedures.

if she doenst post that info, ask nicely if she'll be a reference for you and how to go about it.

as CKJAmore posted, some have very specific rules about how the other provider can contact her. follow them or you might find yourself on her "aint no way i'm gonna let that ape see me again" list.

and, as he posted "Be polite, considerate and have good manners"


(* that is, dont ask while you are ramping up to your climax and she is writhing all over the bed as she climaxes. :^}