Classic Pre-Planned Excuses

Most of us who are in a relationship but playing on the side have thought about what to say when we get caught to minimize the impact and survive through it. It has to be little more than "Sorry Honey, I failed you". Following are what I have in mind. Which answer would make you gain your SO forgiveness?

I would love to hear what you guys have in mind.

1- You are a sex addict long before you met her. Got better after being with her. But now starting to lose control again and you need help.

2- You are depressed and stressed at work and this just give some excitement and make you feel something. You recently lost a promotion to another guy.

3- You are little confused about your sexuality and started questioning yourself if you are gay (after seeing naked man at Gym or whatever). You just have to find out if you still into women.

1- You are a sex addict long before you met her. Got better after being with her. But now starting to lose control again and you need help.
This statement might actually have some credibility, at least it its partly true. You're here after all, not much of a stretch to call it an addiction
2- You are depressed and stressed at work and this just give some excitement and make you feel something. You recently lost a promotion to another guy.
This one seems to me anyways, would cause more problems than solutions. Long drawn out discussions about how your SO is not exciting enough for you... blah, blah, blah. Gotta pass on that one thank you.
3- You are little confused about your sexuality and started questioning yourself if you are gay (after seeing naked man at Gym or whatever). You just have to find out if you still into women
Really? That's where you're going to go when backed into a corner? You're going to play the "Gay Card"? Unless you have a history of homosexual behavior, you'll have a hard time pulling that one off. If you do have a history of homosexual behavior, Why The Hell Would You Post That Here? What the fuck were you thinking? . :facepalm:. Originally Posted by futile

I think you need to come with some better excuses. Either that or reconsider your SO relationship, or your hobby.

I think you need to come with some better excuses. Either that or reconsider your SO relationship, or your hobby. Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

what he said. I wasn't going to bother to type but those excuses suck basically. to anyone with common sense.

Leave futile alone, he should go with whatever works for him. The drawback of his #3 is his SO may go out and buy a huge strap-on.

Your excuses may be futile (yuk, yuk, yuk), but seriously, I think if I were a guy & cornered, I'd go with the truth (or a partial truth); most guys report they are here because there is something they are not getting at home, more often than not, BJs or Greek. I'd just say I was really craving those things, but knew how much she hated them, while pointing out that I was always safe & do in fact love her. That being said, an ounce of prevention is worth a lb of cure, so don't get caught!

If you use #1, plan to go to counseling, etc.


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She will tell you "I WANT HALF" that is half of everything you fucking own. doesn't matter what you tell her your fucked in the ass

Leave futile alone, he should go with whatever works for him. The drawback of his #3 is his SO may go out and buy a huge strap-on. Originally Posted by pyramider

Or SO might initiate a menage au trois, and not the good kind. Then proceeds to tell you about this cute co-worker she's been wanting to screw. Now you can a satisfy your bi curiosity...
Devils Triangle baby... don't go there.

Your response is simple.

"I chose to cheat on you. I don't regret it. I'll do it again. What do you want to do?"

Anything else is the guy being a lying, hypocritical pussy...well, more so than he already is...

Well... The truth would be telling her "as a kid in the candy store, I can't hold the urge to sample everything." But why so important to tell the truth here? For me, it is more important not hurting someone you love. The truth would hurt her a lot so I would do anything or say anything but the truth. Life is too short to make everyone around you understand you. Forget the truth if it does not do any good.

Take her on an extravagant overseas vacation.....then, make it look like an accident.....ijs

And you are already hurting her. More than likely your dumb excuse will mean nothing, as you will be telling it to her back as she is walking away from you.

Well... The truth would be telling her "as a kid in the candy store, I can't hold the urge to sample everything." But why so important to tell the truth here? For me, it is more important not hurting someone you love. The truth would hurt her a lot so I would do anything or say anything but the truth. Life is too short to make everyone around you understand you. Forget the truth if it does not do any good. Originally Posted by futile

Your response is simple.
"I chose to cheat on you. I don't regret it. I'll do it again. What do you want to do?"
Anything else is the guy being a lying, hypocritical pussy...well, more so than he already is... Originally Posted by Wakeup

And you are already hurting her. More than likely your dumb excuse will mean nothing, as you will be telling it to her back as she is walking away from you. Originally Posted by Kimberdoll

All kidding aside, as much as it pains me, I have to agree with WU as well.
Once busted all you have is the Truth. If you are so concerned about hurting someone you love, then you don't belong here. IMO. Every time you log on here, every time you see one of the lovely ladies here, you are causing your SO pain. She feels no pain yet because its undiscovered. But its there. Instead of looking for excuses to justify your infidelity, you should be looking for some way to repair and enhance your relationship at home. This is not the way to accomplish that. You seem selfish, and wasn't to get away with hurting your SO, but there's no way around it.
FUTILE, seems fitting. You've had your fun here, now go home and make it work, or get out. You can't have your cake and eat it too. It just don't work like that.

"Umm ummm see what had happen was ummmm well, I didn't know I couldn't do that"

So you guys would tell your SO or even a closed friend the truth when she ask if she looks fat or is she looks much younger than she is or if particular dress look good on her? We use lies everyday not because we don't want to tell the truth, but because you don't want to be hurtful. There is nothing difference here.

If you are ready to tell the truth, then you are ready to let her go and probably stop caring about how much the truth would hurt her. I am just not ready for that.

I have no ethical or moral dilemma being with another women while married. We have done it for generations. Women have accepted the husbands going to Brothels or having another wife in every culture. You married a woman you love to have a family. Not to try out menus of sex positions with her. For that men go to professionals in Brothels. It is how it should be. You don't use one golf club to play the whole course. Sometime in the past century, this became taboo. Not really sure why. I would blame Christian religion on that. I am Buddhist and it is not a sin to involve with unmarried women.

So I do not think whatever I am doing is hurting my SO. But her expectation of the marriage life to be norm of society as she was brought up and lack of understanding of the difference between love and sex would hurt her. I did not lie her. Society lied her and set her up with unrealistic expectation about men and marriage. I am compromising myself lying her to keep her in the bubble and keep her happy as she deserves. And it is what I will do when time comes. I would expect anyone who love their SO would do the same. It is easy to say you would otherwise if you are not in a loving relationship to start with.

Like my lawyer always told me:

Deny, deny, deny even if she catches you in the act.