DATY, should I overwhelm giving O's or hold back and stop. Are multi O's 2 draining or 2 intimate 4 providers in session. Is their a limit?

I really think good daty is an awesome appetizer an nice means of foreplay prior to sexual intercourse that kinda sets a good mood. Builds comfortablity and builds anticipation. I lke setting the oral bar hgh before she services me too. So that mere 15 to 20 minutes most ladies average there will pale in comparison lol.......

So I have a little issue I've experienced on overnights with some ladies I no longer see. Every other element and attribute of our meet was perfect, but it caused me not to want to go back and took the motivation to perform away. Realize every woman is different and I appreciate those differences.

So I seek to overwhelm ladies ladies I see same as some do for me sexually and orally through very attentive and non teasing no forseeable time limit DATY. If I start there I wont stop until she peels me away, my tongue goes numb or my speech slurs, or she simply says stop. I can easily do this two hours straight and longer if she's with it and actually help her continuously achieves O's as it motivates me to continue. I find daty as intimate if not more than kissing. You really have to be in tune to what your partner likes.

So I had a lady a sugarbaby I used to see. Keywords used to see. What happened with her was when she would cum from daty........usually after an orgasm or two.......she would have a strong orgasm.......and then promptly told me she didnt want to be touched, cuddled with, or fondled for up to an hour or two after achieving orgasm. Said she was too sensitive and would pass out if I didn't stop so she claimed. No gentle tongue strokes or slow licking after to establish bodily trust either. It sucks because I'm happy that she's achieved orgasm, but it doesn't feel gfe to me with the treament after and the rules. Made it seem more pse to me (which if I know that beforehand not so much an issue as I can bring that vibe too, but dnt prefer to an rather be gfe/bfe) and moreso an appointment liabilty. I had to imagine and realize that if I overachieved and gave her a strong orgasm.....she would be hands off for a long time. And doing daty gets me real horny, so being told sex isnt avalable while she recovers is a freaking bother.

Other type session of daty that turn me off.

1. Lady bodily seems to be having orgasms, but will never tell you when she's about to or has came. I'm steady going to work tryng everything thnking I haven't discovered her yet.....and she just smply won't admit she's cumming continuously. They get you so perturbed they bring out the best in you lol.

2. The provider or lady that doesn't cum or achieve from daty at all ever. Just nothing you can do to get her there. Maybe less senstive now since it occurs so often....or just jaded to it, or simply doesn't like it. Just tolerates it basically

3. The provider that needs too much stuff done at same time to cum. Although I do like a challenge sometimes.......if I have to hold a sex toy to her clit in one hand while licking her clit and fingering her vagina and anus with the other available fingers......then licking my other hand to moisten her arieolas and twisting counterclockwise......etc..... ....that might be too much for me.

So here's my question to both ladies and gents here. But I hope ladies put their input here too.

1. Is there ever a situation where daty and O's associated from it need to be limited? Is this considered a PSE activity if I want to keep doing it, or is multiple msog daty still GFE?

2. Does too many daty orgasms effect your sexual performance after. Can all but assume knees may be weaker.....but are you less likely to return the favor in supreme fashion orally or intercourse wise if you are drained and serviced entirely first? Should I have her go first to get her at her best, or does good daty motivate you to step your game up the same?

I am a fan of DATY and I love having orgasms from it but yes sometime my clitoris gets extremely sensitive and I need my lover to stop for awhile but that's just my cue to show you what I'm made of.

Now during overnights, it's probably wise to let me get you off first cause if it's extra late I could fall asleep from you being down there. I consider Cunnilingus as intimate and just apart of sex as a BBBJ or Doggy style.

Some woman once they have multiple orgasms are just like men or jack rabbits...its completely normal to take a nap or alittle time out to let their bodies adjust. Believe or not having multiple O's is tiring and can be painful after awhile.

Happy Hunting,
~Insatiable Nickole

My head hurts gimme_that I come back and read it ;-)

I am a fan of DATY and I love having orgasms from it but yes sometime my clitoris gets extremely sensitive and I need my lover to stop for awhile but that's just my cue to show you what I'm made of........e Originally Posted by NickoleSky

Definitely understand that immediate sensisitivity after achieving orgasm. That isn't so much the issue........its being told after that she can't have sex, you can't cuddle with her, and don't touch me part that kinda throws me off. Makes me not even want to do it in the first place......but that seems sorta selfish sexually for me. Like I'm aware this is mostly a servce industry, but sometimes I just want to be the giver.

Rest assured from the man side of the orgasm.......Im kinda greedy receiving oral. Id never be the one to tell a lady to stop.....I might tell her to slow down though and be more gentler n her appproach. Its kinda like they dont even afford you the trust to even start there.

having multiple O's is tiring and can be painful after awhile.

I guess I have been lucky. I haven't ran into too many ladies who say that they exhibit utter pain from havng multiple orgasms. Defntely has been a rarity thus far for me.
e Originally Posted by NickoleSky

I really think good daty is an awesome appetizer an nice means of foreplay ... Realize every woman is different and I appreciate those differences. .... Originally Posted by gimme_that

You nailed it right here... Keep practicing!!

Exactly. Everyone is different. Every woman I've been with had a different reaction to daty, some wanted as much as I could give, others got oversensitized once they reached a good strong O. My favorite was an ex that would tell me stop, then beg me never to stop. Over and over again. Vive la difference!

So guys and gals. Do you consider my request for prolonged daty wth msog more of the PSE realm........or the GFE realm.

And for the guys, what percentage of ladies have you seen who absolutely wanted you to stop, with no other actions associated with sex after or cuddling after. I can assure you, not many I have seen have made me stop or restricted me. It seems like such a rare thing to be exposed to.

Take one of these with you and then try to leave without her
wanting you to let her keep it

Actually in your situation I would consider it a fetish.

And great response NickoleSky!

I don't see it as GFE or PSE. It's individual. Some women can continuously enjoy back to back external orgasms, some cannot.

My clit becomes hyper sensitive after I orgasm externally. The kind of sensitive that feels like electric shock if any stimulation continues. Generally I need a cool down of 10 to 15 minutes and then I can either repeat or move on to more in depth explorations. I tend to use the cool down time to offer some reciprocated affection.

The thing is, most bodies are different. Some women can enjoy back to back external and/or internal and every variation of the two. (three if they enjoy alternate languages) A woman's limitations does not make the experience PSE or GFE. From what I gather those are defined by approach, personality, and activities involved.

The less sensitive the clit the more likely she can enjoy multiples, though she is likely more challenging to get there.

The more sensitive the clit the more likely it's a one and done deal. She is likely to also come to completion faster and easier.

There are a variety of ways to prolong an oversensitive bud from exploding to fast. Including using the hood and skin below to buffer the over sensitivity. Instead of going for multiples what about prolonging the enjoyment? Tease a little. Caress other highly sensitive parts of her body before bringing her to the finish line. Maybe even get her to the edge and move on to a more penetrating venue that can be mutually enjoyable. You can then use your hand to stimulate externally at the same time and see if you can get an internal and external at the same time.


Good luck in your endeavors!

All women are different. Personally, I thoroughly enjoy long DATY sessions as I'm multi-orgasmic. The only way I'd ask a guy to stop is if his jaws locked up...LMAO

I love daty��. Two hours of me feeding you is fine, depending on how you eat it. If you are trying to get me to cum fast then I can last an hour and 30 minutes maximum. Lol. I still want to cuddle and taste myself off of your tongue.

Definitely understand that immediate sensisitivity after achieving orgasm. That isn't so much the issue........its being told after that she can't have sex, you can't cuddle with her, and don't touch me part that kinda throws me off. Makes me not even want to do it in the first place......but that seems sorta selfish sexually for me. Like I'm aware this is mostly a servce industry, but sometimes I just want to be the giver.

If you really want to be a giver you would respect and honor each ladies boundaries. They know their physiology best. So if she's telling you what happens after the BIG 'O' and you want to be a giver, GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS and BACK OFF! It's almost like you think she's LYING to you. You say you want to be in tune with the lady but when she tells you it's too much, you get offended. 2+ hours to overnights is a long time to be constantly pawing at the lady. Does she get a break? Are you just trying to "get your moneys worth"?

If you're with a multi-orgasmic woman whom you can make culminate with the SUPER 'O', you should be proud of making her TAP OUT, not see it as an affront against you.

Rest assured from the man side of the orgasm.......Im kinda greedy receiving oral. Id never be the one to tell a lady to stop.....I might tell her to slow down though and be more gentler n her appproach. Its kinda like they dont even afford you the trust to even start there.

It's interesting that you think it's OK to be able to direct your orgasm but don't UNDERSTAND when you're given advice from the lady. Why do you tell her to SLOW DOWN? Is it because you will have an orgasm an need to rest a while before going at it again? Now what if you were expected to receive more fellatio right after your 'O', your sensitivity be damned? And after your 3rd or 4th orgasm (if you were still alive)

I think your heart is in the right place but if you need to DATY for HOURS, you probably need to find a provider who finds it hard to orgasm and makes you work at it! Originally Posted by gimme_that

Just MY .02...I don't think it's either GFE/PSE but either a fetish or a control thing (BDSM)...

Great points being made Karmapolice! Maybe too much porn and such makes us guys think women are only what we want them to be! Ran int this situation once. Really appreciated her openness, she relaxed even more, and it was really a great time.

Exactly. Everyone is different. Every woman I've been with had a different reaction to daty, some wanted as much as I could give, others got oversensitized once they reached a good strong O. My favorite was an ex that would tell me stop, then beg me never to stop. Over and over again. Vive la difference! Originally Posted by SlowHand50

Actually in your situation I would consider it a fetish.

And great response NickoleSky! Originally Posted by HelenaIriepalomino

My fetish is making love to cock.