The Art of Slow Sensual Lovemaking

The best experience I’ve had was with a woman who advertised herself to be tantric. To this day I have little idea what tantric is, but I would describe what she did with me as cock/body/booty worship. It was slow, sensual, and decadently luxurious. Movements were glacial. Sounds were soft but seemed sincere. Beginning with a massage which included dalliances with FUMA and TUMA, the action seamlessly flowed into an extended oral session which can only be described as worship. When the first orgasm finally hit with force, she did not change tempo or technique in the slightest, continuing in a deliberate manner as if nothing had happened. So rather than my orgasm peaking and coming back down, she was able to send me into an extended orgasm that lasted several minutes. Her manner was such that she believed she could keep me in that astonishing place for as long as she liked, and I believed her manner. Eventually, she let me come down and moved right into another professional quality massage which led into another oral session ending in another body quivering orgasm, etc, etc. She never seemed to tire.

Taking it slow and making it pleasurable for the entirety takes skill and practice though. It can get boring for either person. It can be even more fatiguing than going fast (those who practice Tai Chi and/or yoga can attest). If it was tantric techniques that made her special, then I hope to find another practitioner someday. Unfortunately, those advertising as such that come through my area are L1 only. Guess I'll just try to enjoy the search as best I can.

Slow so I can savor the time. That is why I like 2 hours dates.

Zabrina, this is a great post.

I love slow love making...with the right gent. If there is a genuine connection between two people, then it is the most sensual wonderful thing. I have a regular who I feel very comfortable with in this way although, how ever our rendezvous go, it's always wonderful.

Usually, with clients, it's a faster caveman kind -of sex, if you will, but when you meet someone who really pushes your buttons, slow love making can totally send me over the edge. Honestly, this has only happened a few times for me in my 3.5 years of providing & I often wish it happened more considering this is the only sex I have. I had an encounter like this just last week & I have definitely spent time reminiscing about it since then. There wasn't much of the slowness you speak of, but I definitely felt the way I would feel during this type of lovemaking session. His weight on me, his breath on me, the way he spoke to me. Not aggressive or loud, but still very coercive. It was extremely sexy & if I ever get another chance to experience a rendezvous with him, I'll be a very lucky lady. (Too bad he lives out of town. Damn. )

I think some men/hobbyists don't feel comfortable with a sensual slow session with a provider due to the nature of the relationship/encounter. I think a lot of hobbyists feel they need to be an athletic stud in the sack who can pound us 2 ways to Sunday. I want a champ in the sack as much as the next lady, but don't be afraid to be slow & sensual. Talk to me. Kiss me. Take your time. Make me NEED you. Your patience will be worth the effort.

It depends what mood I'm in and the type of girl, which includes her personality, I'm with.

Funny thing is, when I looked at your pictures the other day, I immediately thought, she's a slow girl.

Evie, great post...another reason to visit STL, to meet you for the slow, sensuous lovemaking that you describe!

Evie, great post...another reason to visit STL, to meet you for the slow, sensuous lovemaking that you describe! Originally Posted by plainjoe

Aww, thank you! You're always so nice. Gotta love ya.

I think some men/hobbyists don't feel comfortable with a sensual slow session with a provider due to the nature of the relationship/encounter. Originally Posted by evietaylor

Interesting... I think a lot of provider's don't feel comfortable with it, either. Perhaps afraid the guy has the wrong idea, perhaps just haven't achieved that level of comfort with him (ok, me), perhaps just used to the guy just wanting to prove he's a "champ in the sack", but many just don't seem comfortable with the level of connection that slow, sensual lovemaking engenders and requires. Maybe slow and sensual is reserved for the guy in their real life, I dunno.

Interesting... I think a lot of provider's don't feel comfortable with it, either. Perhaps afraid the guy has the wrong idea, perhaps just haven't achieved that level of comfort with him (ok, me), perhaps just used to the guy just wanting to prove he's a "champ in the sack", but many just don't seem comfortable with the level of connection that slow, sensual lovemaking engenders and requires. Maybe slow and sensual is reserved for the guy in their real life, I dunno. Originally Posted by Fratelli

I agree. Like I said, this has only a few times in my provider career & I have 1 regular who I feel comfortable doing this with. It's a rare thing, feeling such a strong connection with someone & usually takes a few sessions before it happens. I suppose it's safer to not feel that strong of a connection with a client or provider. Better to have wham bam thank you ma'am?

Another thing to consider here is there are some gents who get very little lovemaking at home, if any, for one reason or another. From my experience, a good 90% of the men I meet don't get anything at home. In fact, as soon as I meet a patron, it's the first thing I assume. Probably wrong on my part, but it's the nature of the beast. I just try to give them what I assume they're missing & needing. Slow, fast, or gymnastics, I go with the flow.

I'm all about taking my time and enjoying the moment. I'm just not built for speed.

I take my time ... two minutes and I am done, then its nap time.

Wow Evie! I hope that hobbyist you speak of has a clue of your thoughts. Do you ever travel to Dallas? If not, I'm going to have to schedule a trip to STL.

Slow sensual lovemaking sounds like a lot of work. Is there something for us lazy fucktards?

Definitely slow, sensual and intimate for me. With lots of touching and stroking and kissing. But as evie says, the right connection has to be there.
A beautiful woman is like a fine wine that is best when sipped and not gulped.

Wow Evie! I hope that hobbyist you speak of has a clue of your thoughts. Do you ever travel to Dallas? If not, I'm going to have to schedule a trip to STL. Originally Posted by Little Caesar

I think so...I hope so!

I have no plans to travel to Texas so, I'll guess you'll have to come here.