Non BCD Dates

darkchoc6's Avatar
I thought it would be nice to start a thread for providers who offer dinner/lunch dates or non BCD dates. It would be nice to know what the rates are for these types of encounters. We have some providers who list rates for this service on their websites, thank you, but many do not. I realize there will be guys who hate on this but some of us older hobbyists enjoy being in the company of beautiful women.

Cuddle (non BCD) rates would also be nice to know. I realize that we are paying for a woman's time but if there is a separate rate for cuddling/snuggling or whatever you wanna call it, that would be some good info to know.
MaxiMilyen's Avatar
I thought it would be nice to start a thread for providers who offer dinner/lunch dates or non BCD dates. It would be nice to know what the rates are for these types of encounters. We have some providers who list rates for this service on their websites, thank you, but many do not. I realize there will be guys who hate on this but some of us older hobbyists enjoy being in the company of beautiful women.

Cuddle (non BCD) rates would also be nice to know. I realize that we are paying for a woman's time but if there is a separate rate for cuddling/snuggling or whatever you wanna call it, that would be some good info to know. Originally Posted by darkchoc6
There is an actual cuddle service out there. Think I saw an ad on BP once. I'd do a cuddle service, or lunch date. Cuddle meaning, no groping and grabbing, it's a comfort service, not an erotic one.

Ya should contact a lady ya might find an interest in doing such with. Some of us enjoy nurturing cuddling, others not so much.
Grace Preston's Avatar
I offer this. My rates depend on the expectations. Just a simple lunch would obviously be less than if I had to be able to schmooze at a business dinner (research so that I can appear to know what I'm talking about, etc).

I don't list rates for this on my site, simply because it can vary so drastically based on the situation at hand.
When asked in the past the rates I gave were 50/hr for social time and 60/hr for cuddling. Not sure if that is off the mark but it seems fair to me. I'd love to hear other opinions on it though.
MaxiMilyen's Avatar
When asked in the past the rates I gave were 50/hr socially and 60/hr for cuddling. Not sure if that is off the mark but it seems fair to me. I'd love to hear other opinions on it though. Originally Posted by thathottnurse
Unwittingly maybe, but now that's what gents will consider the fair rate for ALL of us....lol. I realize it's not actually, but.....some gents probably will.

(It's a shame we gotta think that way at times, but trends/expectations are set with words, pictures, and the like. One of the reasons this push for Specials!)

However, it's good to have a base to work with! Thanks, hon.
Unwittingly maybe, but now that's what gents will consider the fair rate for ALL of us....lol. I realize it's not actually, but.....some gents probably will.

(It's a shame we gotta think that way at times, but trends/expectations are set with words, pictures, and the like. One of the reasons this push for Specials!)

However, it's good to have a base to work with! Thanks, hon. Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen
The cuddling rate is what I saw when I researched "professional cuddlers" on Google after someone asked me about it. The social time rate is what I have seen advertised on here before. I didn't say it was for everyone, I just said it's what I charge. Not sure how that translates to ALL providers.

Everyone is different.
I offer this. My rates depend on the expectations. Just a simple lunch would obviously be less than if I had to be able to schmooze at a business dinner (research so that I can appear to know what I'm talking about, etc).

I don't list rates for this on my site, simply because it can vary so drastically based on the situation at hand. Originally Posted by GracePreston
Grace, hate to think of the effect you'd have on the room at a business function, with that derriere distracting all of the gents. Heck, maybe I'll use you as my secret weapon next meeting I have, you can disarm my business associates, and I can get deals done that would be otherwise impossible if they were thinking with the big head! LOL
melannie_star's Avatar
3 hr dinner/outings 500 ( 100 less than regular bcd 3 hr )

As far as cuddling goes.. I do not know of a man who can just cuddle and not get a stiffy in the process. It will always lead to something more.. LOL.

My apologies if I am wrong..
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As far as cuddling goes.. I do not know of a man who can just cuddle and not get a stiffy in the process. It will always lead to something more.. LOL.

My apologies if I am wrong.. Originally Posted by melannie_star
Very true.

Unless the old fart forgot to take his ED medication and just wants some consoling. The thing about getting a cuddling session from you, melannie_star, is that a guy would not need ED drugs to get a woody!
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
If someone just asked me how much it would be to meet for lunch, often ... I'll just meet, especially if it's after an appointment.

However, if I had to throw a number out there? I would say that I would meet for lunch for a $100. For lunch.

Cuddling? You're paying for my time. Not an activity.

And I'm with the lady above. I highly doubt that any man who wishes to spend time with me just wishes to cuddle.

When the first "cuddling service" came out and it was on the news shows a few years back, I just kindof rolled my eyes. Nice concept. VERY cute girl who started the business.

Just not for me. I cuddle all of the time during actually appointments.

And I'm naturally affectionate. I probably would be open to a discussion about "just" cuddling. I would ask that anyone interested in that just write me and we can discuss it.

Best,
Elisabeth
MaxiMilyen's Avatar
The cuddling rate is what I saw when I researched "professional cuddlers" on Google after someone asked me about it. The social time rate is what I have seen advertised on here before. I didn't say it was for everyone, I just said it's what I charge. Not sure how that translates to ALL providers.

Everyone is different. Originally Posted by thathottnurse
Having worked in advertising and understanding my own trend of requests and expectations because so and so would do it for a less amount. The fact I'm taking a huge one for the team (not for accolades, but because I realize why others couldn't or wouldn't) right now, concerning rates, see my sig line. It's hard to imagine how I would come to that conclusion. lol. I understand hon, you were being helpful, just as the helpful gents who tell other gents you should expect a discount if certain conditions are met, you should negotiate if ya see another fella got to see her at a cheaper rate, and oh, I don't know....maybe the link on this site that leads to another site giving them exact instructions on how to stick their hands in our pockets?

You probably just weren't aware. I kinda like it when I don't have to be compared to others and don't want gents pitting others against me, if that makes sense. I'm not in competition with anyone, but it's been said so much that we are in competition, some gents and even ladies believe it. Hence all the haggling and undercutting. Ya know?

I dunno, maybe we should just let the gents deal with each of us individually, rather than both sides sabotaging our business models?


It really was very nice to give the ladies a base....:-).

Edit: i mean that sincerely, hon. You were being helpful. That has it's merits, ya know?
Grace Preston's Avatar
Grace, hate to think of the effect you'd have on the room at a business function, with that derriere distracting all of the gents. Heck, maybe I'll use you as my secret weapon next meeting I have, you can disarm my business associates, and I can get deals done that would be otherwise impossible if they were thinking with the big head! LOL Originally Posted by Billy Babitt
You laugh, but I've actually been the "distraction" for a gentleman before.

And as a side note:

You know what else would be great? If ladies could just mind their own business and not worry about how others conduct their business. I'm getting more than a bit weary of people who worry about what others charge, whether or not they negotiate, how they arrive at their rates, etc. Quite frankly, until someone else is paying my bills-- how I choose to conduct business is my concern. If I want to negotiate-- that's my business. If I want to run a special deal-- that's my business.
MaxiMilyen's Avatar
You laugh, but I've actually been the "distraction" for a gentleman before.

And as a side note:

You know what else would be great? If ladies could just mind their own business and not worry about how others conduct their business. I'm getting more than a bit weary of people who worry about what others charge, whether or not they negotiate, how they arrive at their rates, etc. Quite frankly, until someone else is paying my bills-- how I choose to conduct business is my concern. If I want to negotiate-- that's my business. If I want to run a special deal-- that's my business. Originally Posted by GracePreston
I couldn't agree more. Too bad so many gents made it their business, ya know?
RideFreeInTexas's Avatar
OP, check out the sugar daddy forum here on Eccie. Providers are awesome for a nice romp but if you want a deeper connection with cuddling, dates and such but with no strings then the SD world is what you should be checking into.
Like this base from another thread about showing up to a providers home unannounced and when she wasn't home....

You invested in your friendship,rather than a short encounter. Never think it's stupid to give of yourself to others. It's admirable.

Don't ever let others tell ya otherwise. It's ok to say out loud, to yourself and others....I am a decent guy. Who cares if they scoff.....they do so, cause this kinda thing makes 'em think about what kinda guy they are, or maybe even wished they were. Stupid does not even begin to fit the description of your kind actions!

Lemme say it first! Dude, you're a really decent guy! Go you! Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

So then according to your logic I guess all guys will think it's okay to just show up at a providers house when she isn't there, do some landscaping, bring gifts for the kids and basically claim his territory to any neighbors that may have seen huh?

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Listen...hon...I'm not sure if the caffeine fairy paid you a few extra visits this morning or what. I was referring to myself, ME, as in "I" gave those rates and it seemed fair based on MY research of cuddling and social time. Not sure why you are so inclined to turn it into an issue but by all means, keep going. It looks great on you!

And as a side note:

You know what else would be great? If ladies could just mind their own business and not worry about how others conduct their business. I'm getting more than a bit weary of people who worry about what others charge, whether or not they negotiate, how they arrive at their rates, etc. Quite frankly, until someone else is paying my bills-- how I choose to conduct business is my concern. If I want to negotiate-- that's my business. If I want to run a special deal-- that's my business. Originally Posted by GracePreston
Preach!!!

I couldn't agree more. Too bad so many gents made it their business, ya know? Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen
Maxi, she said "ladies" not gents.

Btw: is that a guy sucking a dick in your avatar??? I can't tell on my phone.