I have a handful of gents that I text with on a regular basis. They are either single gents, or gents who simply don't have a hobby phone on them when the SO is around and have given permission to text. I don't try to "ply my wares" via text... the guys that I text are gents that I consider friends and would still communicate with even if vagina was never on the menu.
Other than that, you don't hear from me (with the exception of a friendly HELLO and nothing more PM) unless you initialize the conversation. I figure I'm active enough on the boards to be easy enough to find if someone wishes to see me