CEUs - What would you love to learn and what the hell could you teach?

With all the talk of strap-ons and prostates and toy play, I got to thinkin' -- I haven't provided very often in the past several years, so most of my current skills are things I use frequently in my personal life (is cuddling a skill?). That being said, I'm moving back into town, looking to provide on a more frequent basis for awhile, and I might need to learn more tricks to keep this trick fresh.

So! Providers! What skills are you most confident in and what skills would you like to perfect or acquire? What skills do you wish the gents would learn? Would you mentor another provider in a certain area, or is that just feeding the competition? Gents! What do you wish you could learn from a professional in order to amp up your performance? Which tricks do you loooooove when a girl pulls it out unexpectedly?

Me, I need to learn more about butts, nutts, rubs, and topping. When I was younger I'd offer to do sessions when I was OK at a certain activity, but now I'm more likely to send them to a girl who I know is fantastic at it. Giving my C game at one activity is just a waste of y'all's time even if you think I'm cute, you know? Anywho, I like wearing strap-ons, getting a beej on my piece is one hell of a power trip, but I'm still a little awkward in them beyond that. I'd love to spend a few sessions watching a girl do proper p-play so I could add it to my list. The thrust thing I can probably practice on my own =) I'd also like to watch the flow of an FBSM session. I am a touchy girl and wind up giving rubs and cuddles in most of my GFE sessions, but it'd be nice to learn how to do it properly.

On what I wish men would learn (not necessarily clients, but all men I wind up BCD with). Spanking and fingering. Someone hold a damn spanking workshop, please. It's an art, a beautiful art, and not enough people know what they're doing. As far as fingering goes...I think too many people focus on perfecting DATY and not enough focus on finger spelunking. Yum.

With all the talk of strap-ons and prostates and toy play, I got to thinkin' -- I haven't provided very often in the past several years, so most of my current skills are things I use frequently in my personal life (is cuddling a skill?). That being said, I'm moving back into town, looking to provide on a more frequent basis for awhile, and I might need to learn more tricks to keep this trick fresh.

So! Providers! What skills are you most confident in and what skills would you like to perfect or acquire? What skills do you wish the gents would learn? Would you mentor another provider in a certain area, or is that just feeding the competition? Gents! What do you wish you could learn from a professional in order to amp up your performance? Which tricks do you loooooove when a girl pulls it out unexpectedly?

Me, I need to learn more about butts, nutts, rubs, and topping. When I was younger I'd offer to do sessions when I was OK at a certain activity, but now I'm more likely to send them to a girl who I know is fantastic at it. Giving my C game at one activity is just a waste of y'all's time even if you think I'm cute, you know? Anywho, I like wearing strap-ons, getting a beej on my piece is one hell of a power trip, but I'm still a little awkward in them beyond that. I'd love to spend a few sessions watching a girl do proper p-play so I could add it to my list. The thrust thing I can probably practice on my own =) I'd also like to watch the flow of an FBSM session. I am a touchy girl and wind up giving rubs and cuddles in most of my GFE sessions, but it'd be nice to learn how to do it properly.

On what I wish men would learn (not necessarily clients, but all men I wind up BCD with). Spanking and fingering. Someone hold a damn spanking workshop, please. It's an art, a beautiful art, and not enough people know what they're doing. As far as fingering goes...I think too many people focus on perfecting DATY and not enough focus on finger spelunking. Yum. Originally Posted by JennsLolli

What I wish men would learn? The art of the pedicure. For me, I am very uncomfortable in the area of the anus. Not at all my thing. But, a lot of guys really like prostrate play.....

There was a spanking fetish convention in the DFW area last year, repleat with how-to seminars and private group sessions. There was a website.....looked informative and a lot of fun.

There was a spanking fetish convention in the DFW area last year, repleat with how-to seminars and private group sessions. There was a website.....looked informative and a lot of fun. Originally Posted by Zhivago52

I remember that being discussed here. I think a spanking convention might be where I could meet the future Mr. Lolli, heh. See also: therapeutic spanking. Sadly, those professionals don't conclude with my head in their laps, a gentle stroke on my red buns, and a slooooooow move to a finger-bang. That's more of a RW activity than a hobby one (not the spanking or finger-banging, but the inbetweeny aftercare).

This is what I'm imagining right now...



Personally, I wish that some girls would learn a little more on how to give a proper handjob. A lot of our ladies are very skilled, but for as many of those, there are others that completely forego any kind of wetness or lube and think that the object is to tug on the penis until it physically detaches from the body.

As for me, I'm always eager to hear feedback, so if I'm doing something wrong, or could be doing something better, by all means, let me know. I certainly don't have a lot of experience with spanking, or light bondage work, so I should probably be first in line for those classes.

Ha! Awesome use of a clip right there.

I never had to learn to do a proper HJ (I skipped from first kiss to first beej pretty quickly...and at 18). Only recently did I discover nice lube. Then a fuck-buddy sat me down and asked for a slow one. Now I can't take my hands off of them. Hell, I even took a guy home from a bar a few weeks ago because he said there was no such thing as a good HJ from another person once you've experienced sex.

*pssst...if you want to get a HJ from a stranger, find a competitive girl at a bar who is a few drinks in and say "yeah...I don't understand that whole edging thing...sounds dumb. And a handy-j...sheesh."*

Coconut oil makes great lube for everything.

As for classes, I'm willing to teach anyone my oral techniques - wives, girlfriends, even other providers. If another provider wants to learn my secrets, it will only cost her an hour of my time. And I try to teach all of my male clients my technique to keep the ladies happy

Coconut oil makes great lube for everything. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

THANK YOU! I keep thinking "I need to figure out an edible lube" but forget to research/ask. I don't want to eat it, but I do want to figure out a way to switch from HJ to BJ without running for a warm cloth or getting a mouth full of lube...which makes me gag...and you can't give a proper HJ for over 20 seconds with spit.

. As far as fingering goes...I think too many people focus on perfecting DATY and not enough focus on finger spelunking. Yum. Originally Posted by JennsLolli

Finger spelunking - love the phrase you just coined. I'm pretty good at it but could always use some pointers in the right kitty!

Finger spelunking - love the phrase you just coined. I'm pretty good at it but could always use some pointers in the right kitty! Originally Posted by LuvThatKitty

practice makes perfect

Let's see. At the risk of droning on and on, I have many skill sets: fbsm, Domme, role playing, gfe, fetish, actual companionship. I honestly think I excel in companionship and role play the most. In my experience, the best BCD comes after getting to know someone on a deeper level. The greatest BCD has come from guys who know what they want and are not afraid to express their desires and fantasies with me.


All I know is that you have to excel at something to keep your ego in tact working with one of the best bbbj girls, lol!! She knows I am kidding!

I have explored my submissive side and would like to explore that further. The best spanking and flogging I ever had was from a lady. Perhaps it was because of the deep level of trust we have. That takes time, in the hobby.

Anyway, things I wish I were better at are PSE, Greek and swallowing!! I am just not that good of a PSE girl or sport fucker! I need to watch more porn, I guess?!

Valentina reads "Finger Spelunking". Sprays iced tea all over new laptop!

Yes, I wish there were a spanking and bangin' how-to convention. I love to be spanked, and HARD but land a whipper not on the juicy meat of my ass but a little on my back or thigh and it goes from pleasure to excruciating pain in .05 seconds.

Its the same with visiting the finger bowl. Its the easiest way to send me to ecstasy but if one's cuticles are haggard, or one's nails untrimmed and unfiled or if the gent just hasn't a clue it can turn a very fun experience into a rough WTF one for sure.

I do not stick my fingers anywhere without being asked!

as for teaching, perhaps I could teach a few younger guys the art of being the Swinging Single Male and get all the pussy you can handle or ever want. You do not need a big dick either.. helps but not mandatory..
after 10 years of swinging I am fuked out! I need to live vicariously through another