Providers this is for your info

I'm relatively new to the hobby. I've been in serious relationships for the past 13 years and so I didn't need the hobby. Now that I'm single again (and single for the rest of my life), I've re-entered the hobby.

One thing that is really perplexing to me is that it seems like so many providers are not very good at responding to appointment requests either on this site or via p411.

If a provider does not want to meet with a client after the potential client has sent them an appointment request, then why not respond to the potential client and just say "no." That way the potential client won't be left in the dark and wondering what in the world is going on.

Here lately I've talked on the phone with providers. They've okayed me and then asked me to e-mail them about the day of the meeting and the time. I've done this and they've flaked out on responding as either yea or nay.

This is really frustrating for me for a couple of reasons. First of all, I operate in the world where people return calls, texts, and/or respond to e-mails. Secondly, one reason I don't ever want to date anyone ever again is because in the the realm of dating, potential dates are horrible at returning your calls, texts, e-mails, etc.

So the short of it is this -- return e-mails, PM's, texts, calls, etc. And if you can't make the meeting, just say so and that way the potential client can move on and not worry if they've set up multiple appointments for the same time. This is really simple.

Other than that, I understand what providers do and I'm very grateful to all of you for that (and if you've met me, then you know that I"m very, very generous and kind).

I've only had 2 providers not reply to my messages on here withing a day. Others like Fiesty Kat are great at promptly getting back to me on here.

Calling is the best way to get in contact with 99% of providers, if they aren't returning your calls maybe it's time to find someone more motivated to earn those Benjis?

I've only had 2 providers not reply to my messages on here withing a day. Others like Fiesty Kat are great at promptly getting back to me on here.

Calling is the best way to get in contact with 99% of providers, if they aren't returning your calls maybe it's time to find someone more motivated to earn those Benjis? Originally Posted by zx10

I have called and actually talked to a couple. Since I was prebooking, they asked me to send them an e-mail about the details, which I did. Then they did not respond to the e-mails.

For the others who've ignored me, their instructions specifically said to either PM them or e-mail them.

With respect to the women you see on eccie, I only remember that happening to me once, with LacyLynn. Ironically she's currently annoyed with clients in Amarillo who flaked out. Anyway, reasons could include -

1. There's a problem with screening
2. She starts on her period
3. She gets sick or has an outbreak of something or the other (so she's potentially protecting you from getting something)
4. A regular or client who wants a multi-hour date took your slot
5. She's plain irresponsible

Even if one of the above occur, she should have the decency to make up a white lie and tell you she won't be seeing you.

I think "1" may be the most likely explanation, since you're just getting started. You may want to join preferred411 and/or date-check if you haven't already. Then ask any providers you see to vouch for you on that site. Have you been trolling on someplace like backpage? From my limited experience women who advertise there have a high flake out rate.

I always respond to email/p411 etc. when i am near my computer.
If i'm away from my computer i don't know i've received anything until my return.
I have a crackberry and the internet SUCKS on my cell so i don't even bother w/it.
I can appreciate a phone call/text letting me know i've got mail if i don't respond in a decent time frame

I will tell any gentleman to be observant with the type of companion he selects. Some ladies don't take kindly to pre-booking, as it seems like a waste of time. If you're not trying to see them immediately, you're counted out.

Look for the kind of lady who thinks differently about you booking ahead of time, since it's a sign of respect, and knows how to make sure you BOTH anticipate your time together.

Happy hunting!

First of all, I operate in the world where people return calls, texts, and/or respond to e-mails. Originally Posted by bluesdoctor

That world and this world rarely collide. When they do, you found a real winner.

Some should just keep downloading porn.

With respect to the women you see on eccie, I only remember that happening to me once, with LacyLynn. Ironically she's currently annoyed with clients in Amarillo who flaked out. Anyway, reasons could include -

1. There's a problem with screening
2. She starts on her period
3. She gets sick or has an outbreak of something or the other (so she's potentially protecting you from getting something)
4. A regular or client who wants a multi-hour date took your slot
5. She's plain irresponsible

Even if one of the above occur, she should have the decency to make up a white lie and tell you she won't be seeing you.

I think "1" may be the most likely explanation, since you're just getting started. You may want to join preferred411 and/or date-check if you haven't already. Then ask any providers you see to vouch for you on that site. Have you been trolling on someplace like backpage? From my limited experience women who advertise there have a high flake out rate. Originally Posted by Tiny

Yes, I'm on p411, which i mentioned in the original post.

In the past 24 hours, though, I contacted somebody who seems to be quite good and returning e-mails and keeping me informed about our potential meeting.

No answer usually is an answer. No point sitting around waiting for a phone call. I know I never wait.

I try to respond to every message but in reality, life gets in the way. Sometimes I see I have a message while driving and forget to respond once my car is parked. Some guys like calling me while I'm with people that don't need to hear me talking about setting up a date. Other times it's 3am in the fucking morning and you fucktards can't tell time or read that I only work until midnight.

Shit happens, whinning about it gets you nowhere

I can say for myself I much prefer a phone call, I do not check these sites daily and an immediate response via PM or email is nearly impossible, but with a phone call I will answer, if Im available and we can easily make an appointment. When you send a request through p411 it comes to the providers as a request form, so we can't just easily reply to the email, because it will go back to p411, not you.

The easiest way to book an appointment with me is to call, if I don't answer the first time, I may be with a client so try back in 20-30 min or so. Don't, I repeat don't call 10+ times, then I will never answer. I make same day appointments, as my schedule varies, I don't like to book days in advance.

Hope this helps a little, and remember every provider is different.

I respond to all decent texts and emails. Sometimes, not the same day but I do get to you when you leave a message. A late response if better than no response. Sometimes we just get to busy.

You are returning after a hiatus. To most ladies, you are the same as a newbie. As a newbie, you are probably low on the totem pole of potential clients.

I recommend searching specifically for newbie friendly providers.

I don't know the problem you are having with ECCIE ladies. I've rarely encountered any problems with the girls here. As for P411, that maybe easier to explain. Girls on P411 post ads or whatever. Unless they pull the ad, they will stay up for some pre-determined period (a month or so). It is quite possible that the lady hasn't checked her P411 account or more likely she is no longer in the area where you are. I've had this happen to me. There is one provider who had an ad for my area. It still shows up, but her tour her is long gone. I didn't read the fine print in her ad and contacted 2 weeks after she left. SInce her ad hadn't timed out, it was still showing her in my area.

I have called and actually talked to a couple. Since I was prebooking, they asked me to send them an e-mail about the details, which I did. Then they did not respond to the e-mails. Originally Posted by bluesdoctor

They are not worth of your time if they don't take the initiative of answering you... Either way, most of us has preferences in contacting us via email, PMs, texts or calls. But some are just not quick enough to reply due to many reasons (maybe)
Sorry that this happened to you, a GOOD, clean and professional gentleman (I can definitely Vouched that you are!).
These ladies should be running after you!

For the others who've ignored me, their instructions specifically said to either PM them or e-mail them. Originally Posted by bluesdoctor

I have had similar situations with providers. I contact them, they either IGNORE the initial request or after setting up the appointment, flake out at the last minute.

For those that ignore the request, I remove them from the list of providers to see. There are way TOOO many providers that are good at replying for me to waste time with someone who is supposedly "too busy" to see me.

For those that flake out or bail at the last minute, I give the 24-36 hours to contact me and explain why. Some have valid reasons that I can accept so they remain in my list of providers to schedule with, but at the bottom that I may get to later when I've seen everyone else. Too many providers I want to see than I have time and money to see as quickly as I like. Why waste any precious time or money trying again until after I've seen the others?

Following that process, I have a list of reliable providers that I enjoy spending time with, that I can contact and be SURE I get a reply from and that I see multiple times. As time and funds permit, I will contact others that I've never seen before and give them a try. They either operate professionally and all goes well, or they don't and I don't bother trying again until much later, if at all.