Waste of time or confused client ???

So I had a new client set up an appt. with me at short notice. I screened him thoroughly as always if anyone knows me I ask for alot especially if your calling me from a BP ad. Well the newbie showed up on time was a lil nervous because it was his first time so I gave him time to sit down relax calm his nerves and get to know me. i love to talk I'm not a clock watcher but after we talked for a whole hr. I let him know that were going into the second hr. it was up to him if he wanted to continue the session or not. He proceeds to tell me he's enjoys talking to me and really doesn't think he gonna be able to perform due to the fact he feels bad he's paying to be with a female. I tell him no problem donation is time and companionship so he knows my rates and what I'm here for so I'm thinking for the whole 2hrs. Everything's straight. So when we approach the next hr. I say we'll it's going on 2 hrs. I don't want to break the bank and he says so I have to pay you for 2hrs. We haven't done anything yet???? I said well you have taken up 2 hrs of my time and so he proceeds to tell me he feels played and puts hourly donation on the table and says well I'm ready to get down and I say well if you pay for the two hrs then we can go further. Well to make a long story short he took his donation back well tried to leave me twenty dollars but I wouldn't accept for the simple fact he stated he felt he was played but I kept things clear.....

The reason why I'm posting this is because was I in the wrong?? Either way if I would of went thru I would of only gotten an hourly donation. He was quite rude towards the end I even had to call my cousin to escort the gentlemen from my incall location because he wasn't gonna take up anymore of my time and because I felt he wouldn't leave till he got sum action lol. I just wanted a little input this incident has been on my mind but hey shit happens it could of gotten ugly

Thanks guys

I'm voting for waste of time.... If he was total newb then what kind of verification could you do? Do you mean you verified his identity or something? Perhaps he was only trying to play the newb card in hopes of just getting as much time as possible then playing the whole I"m new to this so I don't know how any of this works.... Or maybe he was just stupid. Either way shit like that sucks.

Not so much verification it's just my screening process is crucial I sometimes ask for pics I want to know what u do for a living and sometimes want to see work I'd. Smh (I know) but ur right thanks for the input

Regardless if this had to do with him being new or not, he was wasting your time. I think the whole thing about feeling bad that he's paying for being with a female, but then saying he's not leaving with out some action is a sign that he was at least a little full of shit.

You were in the right and you were owed the money for your time. And the fact that you had to call your cousin to get him out of your incall is a little scary. This guy gives the rest of us nervous newbies a bad name--fuck him.

Actually, no, don't fuck him.

@yardbird74 case closed

Regardless if this had to do with him being new or not, he was wasting your time. I think the whole thing about feeling bad that he's paying for being with a female, but then saying he's not leaving with out some action is a sign that he was at least a little full of shit.

You were in the right and you were owed the money for your time. And the fact that you had to call your cousin to get him out of your incall is a little scary. This guy gives the rest of us nervous newbies a bad name--fuck him.

Actually, no, don't fuck him. Originally Posted by yardbird74

Couldn't have said it better myself

My very first time in the hobby, long long time ago in a galaxy far far away, I was so nervous we ended up watching the Simpsons for an hour, just laughing and having a good time and she left, way better than some dates I've been on where I spent way more. I don't regret that hour at all.

So, I agree it's time spent, not what happened in that time. On occasion I will make a date for 2-5 days from now, but on that day not be in the mood for adult play. I'll spend the time just bullshitting (mainly cause I don't back out of an agreement unless it's for something serious, I like to keep my end). I also found that I have connected better for the next go around, if we hit it off. I have never had a provider complain about it, or consider it wasted time though.

I've actually heard similar stories like this one over the years. Usually it's immaturity and fear. I'm glad it did not escalate into anything serious, and you had a person who could help you out. I know of one that did not turn out so well: cops, jail, neighbors, broken arm, she felt she had to move...ended up costing her a lot more than the hour of her time. So glad your story was just sucky.

He should pay up, we only pay for time. Anything else just happens, right?

Time is money and money is time. You did nothing wrong he should have payed you. That sucks ma.

I completely understand... What some guys don't seem to understand is this is how we make $. Whether we are talking or getting down and doing the deed. I'm sure they don't go to work and not expect to get paid, or better yet take a huge cut in pay!

If he paid you for an hour, he doesn't have the right to expect more time. It's up to you to choose to be generous with him in this situation.

That being said, it's probably good business to say something like "Our hour is half up. Shall we get more comfortable?" to move things along if he's a nervous newbie. Because reasonable or not, many guys would feel ripped off to pay a woman three figures to sit and talk.

Time is money and money is time. Originally Posted by SexyCassandra

That's all there is to it. Case closed.

I think he should have at least paid you for 1 hour's worth, for the "talk job"

Yes time is money and we all go to work to get paid, but our jobs want us to do certain things, else they look for a replacement. You would not like it too much to go to a hair salon, sit down in a chair and listen to the stylist chatter on about her life, not getting around to what she is there for, to work on your hair.

@ Bambi - did you try to warm him up some via maybe some snuggling, necking etc.. the ole "make out session" and see if that leads to the deed or did you just sit there and listen/talk?

Now sure he was nervous and yeah talking may have calmed him down but he should have at least paid for 1 hour's time for talking, even though he was there 2 hours.

Sometimes a guy will be nervous and he hopes the lady will guide him into the lifestyle.

But he should have paid something for your time

I think he should have at least paid you for 1 hour's worth, for the "talk job"

Yes time is money and we all go to work to get paid, but our jobs want us to do certain things, else they look for a replacement. You would not like it too much to go to a hair salon, sit down in a chair and listen to the stylist chatter on about her life, not getting around to what she is there for, to work on your hair.

@ Bambi - did you try to warm him up some via maybe some snuggling, necking etc.. the ole "make out session" and see if that leads to the deed or did you just sit there and listen/talk?

Now sure he was nervous and yeah talking may have calmed him down but he should have at least paid for 1 hour's time for talking, even though he was there 2 hours.

Sometimes a guy will be nervous and he hopes the lady will guide him into the lifestyle.

But he should have paid something for your time Originally Posted by Spirit13

If he took two hours of your time, no matter what he was doing, you should have been compensated for two hours period. When he made the appointment he had knowledge of what it was for and why he was there. Providers are not there to to gently hold his hand if he was scared. If he wants to stand on his head for two hours, he flat out owed you for two hours. Just ask the Secret Service Agents who were fired. I bet they wish they would have paid her what she was owed. It didn't work out well for them did it.

if you read the OP's post, he requested a 1 hour session.. he should pay for that one I agree.. once he started going over, she pointed that out to him and that he would need to pay for it too.. and he continued to talk / or waste time some would say. I am just saying at that point the lady should have started to seduce him, get frisky etc... then once the deed was done he probably would have paid.

We have seen reviews where the lady does not try to tease the man so it ends up being a lame session and the guy pretty much admits he was thinking about the other provider who rocked his world so hard he needed Metro Lift to get home

Lack of effort on both side.. more so on his than hers but some should have came from her.
He still owes her for at least 1 hour