Warning! I just got on Adderal for my ADD and I ended up typing a novella, if it bores you feel free to skip it.
I guess I will be the lonely little voice with a dissenting opinion(yeah, I'm sure everyone is shocked. LOL) but if I am going to get
intimate with someone then I'd like to know in a general sense that I'm not
just a *fake* name on the "to do list" of a guy who is probably also using a *fake name*. It's my genuine desire to meet clients that I can relax and be myself with and they with me, that tho the names may be fake the stuff that matters isn't. I
LIVE for those moments where the stars align and we both walk away at the end of our date feeling like we met someone that "gets us". Those feelings tend to lead to
much better BCD as well in my case which is why I've always checked the YMMV box P411.
On a related note- if people are confused about my definition of YMMV: I guarantee I will have available every service I have checked on my activities list on P411 at MINIMUM. Even if we don't hit it off you can ask for and get whatever I have listed under activities. When it comes to GFE/PSE since it's so subjective- the person should please note what their idea of that is prior to setting up the date to insure we are on the same page and can have a good time or choose a better fit for your needs.
Back to the point: In my two years as an independent provider I've found that guys with high numbers of oks
tend(not always) to not be interested in much more than their acronym checklist and maybe if they are feeling generous a gift or tip of some kind, which is great if all you're really looking for is money but it seems to drag what could be a temporary but intense genuine connection down to the lowest common denominator and that's not good for anyone IMO. "hit it and quit it" guys that like variety don't bother me or anything just prefer a little more
intimacy with the guys I get
intimate with. I'm not looking for a real life BF here and yes I realize this isn't match.com but I don't want it to feel like a flea market or swap meet either.
I've turned down guys for having more ok's than I felt comfy with(he had almost 100 ok's Condoms aren't 100% effective and there are some things like HPV that can spread regardless. More partners = more risk. Yes, as a provider I've had more partners(most likely) than the average client but given the choice between a guy with 5 solid ok's from reputable providers and his twin who is the same in every way except he has ok's from a 100 providers I will choose the guy who has seen less providers. I like breaking them in I guess. LOL. I have seen a guy who had over 100 something ok's and he was very polite and not a bad date at all but he seemed to have a strict routine- almost as if at that point he was a professional client.
As always: WALDT and whether or not you realize it every human here(and in civie life) is ymmv to an extent.