DADT with wife/SO?

Dear Fellow Hobbyists--

Do any of you suspect that your wife/SO may be aware of/suspect your involvement in the hobby? If so, do you have a tacit understanding with her, or do you think she just doesn't want to know the truth? IOW, do you have a DADT policy (either spoken or unspoken) with her and how does that work?

Thanks for any input.

Generally speaking....women will never honor a DADT agreement...LOL...and sooner or later men fuck up and disclose their participation so that a SO finds out the hard way...

Mine suspected a while back. I denied but I think she knows, but won't change and take care of my appetite. I would much rather just go home instead of hobbying. What's a man gonna do?

\What's a man gonna do? Originally Posted by Ragibz

Man up and be truthful.

What's a man gonna do? Originally Posted by Ragibz

Can you say three way?

Man up and be truthful. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Not an option unless she catches me dead to rights.

Here is a quick fact: Never expect a woman to to adhere to rules or a program.

man up and be truthful...= man up and single in divorce court. What she does not know, wont kill her. Keep quiet, be discreet, and if you like going home, then go home. Most women know when a man is stepping out on her....we all start to act funny.

From my own experience of many years in the hobby or SD/SB world-
I am discreet;
I feel (and I believe she does also) we are still a good match/team down life's path;
She has lost all desire for physical relationship and seems to understand I do not.
I check for STD's regularly.

What I will never do-
- disrespect her in any manner;
- use her lack of intimacy as something to throw at her if we are having a fight;
- embarrass or run her down in front of our children.
- never, ever admit to any intimacy I enjoy away from her. Hey, I ain't stupid. LOL!

Look, the area of sex outside of marriage has been going on for many, many years.... women know it, men know it..... AND both sides do it.

Just keep your Tech and Comm Security tight and all should be good on the yellow brick road.

Thank you all!

My wife hobbys as well...general rule is I get one, and she better get one next time. I can play too, but the next one better be one she can play with as well.


My wife enjoys it more than me I think

she can usually tell...don't count her out

For a second there, I thought DADT was another one of those "hobby acronyms" that I didn't know. Then I realized there ain't nobody's wife would be willing to take part in some act that may or may not involve a trans provider and two butts.

Well maybe not in SoCal, butt elsewhere ....