A great discussion with one of my fellow work colleagues today, who is 24 yrs old (a baby in my book) tells me he is burned on sex with girls because he watches to much porn and can't have satisfying sex because he is visually over stimulated.. He is a buff hot, handsome young man,, and has sought out being bi-curious because he says sex with men or tranny's is easier than being with a woman.. He tells me he has gone to the darks side and watch really nasty stuff which I will not elaborate on.. Deep enough to want me to take him under my Tantric wing.
I chatted with him a few days ago about Tantra and how it is sexually healing and deals with trauma being; sexual addiction, death, divorce etc... Today we chatted about some more Tantra and in particular Male Sacred Spot (prostate massage) and Female Ejaculation,, how to DATY and such.. Omgosh,, I guess my old school is coming back.. Maybe I can help this young man, although my preferred is males over 40....
I guess there is to much "Cause and Effect" in this internet age where we become so overstimulated,,, but yet we need to learn to come back down to our own...
Tantra offers sexual healing and learning to work with the sexual energy within is the start. We all need to learn to shut off the internet and go back to the peace ,love and happiness. Just sayin'..
Just checking in,, what's y'all thoughts......
- Bellaluna
- 06-26-2014, 03:05 AM
- Russ38
- 06-26-2014, 04:28 AM
- slickrick281
- 06-26-2014, 05:24 AM
- tbone77494
- 06-26-2014, 06:08 AM
If I understand, to fix a bi sexual porn addict you stick your fingers in his ass? Cool.
- Trey
- 06-26-2014, 06:26 AM
The guy is a peter puffer, let him be. He needed an excuse to see dudes in a dress and he went with to much internet porn. I dig porn, probably see some porn everyday. Never wanted to suck a dick because of it.
- Prime Time
- 06-26-2014, 07:21 AM
Assholes and elbows
- boardman
- 06-26-2014, 08:00 AM
That guy is confused. You are confusing him more.
- Guest121014
- 06-26-2014, 08:04 AM
This shit is about like making a vegetable soup using 6 different brands of corn and after the soup is made, trying to figure out which can made it taste like shit. Far too many things going on here.
You know how you "heal" from porn addiction? Same way you heal from any other addiction, you have to find a way to STOP.
As for the bi/gay stuff, if thats what he wants, why try and "heal" him (unless of course you are Rick Perry, in which case it might help your election if you really could prove you could "fix" gays)
You know how you "heal" from porn addiction? Same way you heal from any other addiction, you have to find a way to STOP.
As for the bi/gay stuff, if thats what he wants, why try and "heal" him (unless of course you are Rick Perry, in which case it might help your election if you really could prove you could "fix" gays)
- Guest071514-1
- 06-26-2014, 12:35 PM
There is different levels of sex addiction. First it's porn, then prostitutes, then that gets boring then gang bangs, then off the deep end of stupidity. Brown showers, homosexuality, (things I can't mention here) etc. It goes on and on till it's out of control. A ordinary woman can't get them off, she isn't nearly enough! Usually when they fall into another realm they can care less about protection because they are to far gone! Reason I don't see bisexual men, I like a vanilla guy with a wild streak or a little curiosity, that's all I'll get into!
- MOTOXMAN
- 06-26-2014, 12:56 PM
Well put BA.
So I have a porn addiction....... I see you.........
This ain't gonna turn out well is it ???
Lmao !!!
So I have a porn addiction....... I see you.........
This ain't gonna turn out well is it ???
Lmao !!!
- Fancyinheels
- 06-26-2014, 01:19 PM
Bi-curious, bi-sexual, and homosexual are all completely different and are not necessarily indicative of someone who has "burned out" his sensual senses. Let's shove that aside.
Porn addiction, however, is real. I have dealt with that regarding a handful of gentlemen who have come to visit me, a couple of whom I saw for about 6 months. One HAD to be watching porn to get off, and the other couldn't unless each time I added something wilder, more unusual, kinkier. I finally said no more to both as they were getting to be too much of an "ordeal" for me.
Over-stimulation and lack of sensitivity can be major issues. Takes more and more to get to the top of the stairs, so to speak, and tends to go, er, hand in hand with habitually rough masturbation. It becomes difficult for a woman either manually, orally, or vaginally to duplicate the "grip" and "speed" that a fellow has become used to without becoming completely exhausted herself. (Heck, I have to take a break from my vibrator every so often, sometimes even during an hour-long "voyeur" session. If you are in tune with your body, you'll know when to back off, breath, relax, and restart.) Too too much of anything spoils you and makes you less appreciative, so step back occasionally.
As I understand at least one aspect of Tantra, the focus goes inward, not outward. (No blinking screens, as Bella said.) Some techniques, I believe, involve raising and lowering the level of stimulation (something I alluded to above), bringing someone to the peak until they almost teeter over, then pulling them back, building up again, back down, up and up finally to a blast-off orgasm. It can be VERY intense. I know Tantra has been used to help those with TOO much sensitivity resulting in premature ejaculation problems, so I'm sure it could be advantageous for those who have lost sensitivity.
However, I think this guy's numbness is caused by a lot more than porn.
Porn addiction, however, is real. I have dealt with that regarding a handful of gentlemen who have come to visit me, a couple of whom I saw for about 6 months. One HAD to be watching porn to get off, and the other couldn't unless each time I added something wilder, more unusual, kinkier. I finally said no more to both as they were getting to be too much of an "ordeal" for me.
Over-stimulation and lack of sensitivity can be major issues. Takes more and more to get to the top of the stairs, so to speak, and tends to go, er, hand in hand with habitually rough masturbation. It becomes difficult for a woman either manually, orally, or vaginally to duplicate the "grip" and "speed" that a fellow has become used to without becoming completely exhausted herself. (Heck, I have to take a break from my vibrator every so often, sometimes even during an hour-long "voyeur" session. If you are in tune with your body, you'll know when to back off, breath, relax, and restart.) Too too much of anything spoils you and makes you less appreciative, so step back occasionally.
As I understand at least one aspect of Tantra, the focus goes inward, not outward. (No blinking screens, as Bella said.) Some techniques, I believe, involve raising and lowering the level of stimulation (something I alluded to above), bringing someone to the peak until they almost teeter over, then pulling them back, building up again, back down, up and up finally to a blast-off orgasm. It can be VERY intense. I know Tantra has been used to help those with TOO much sensitivity resulting in premature ejaculation problems, so I'm sure it could be advantageous for those who have lost sensitivity.
However, I think this guy's numbness is caused by a lot more than porn.
- Fancyinheels
- 06-26-2014, 01:24 PM
Like Amy, I think I prefer vanilla with "sprinkles" but I don't think there is necessarily a progression from porn to prostitutes to hanging off the chandelier at an orgy. Many of the fellows who visit me have had little or no exposure to porn, and sure, while they, er, come for satisfaction, it may not be solely SEXUAL satisfaction. Companionship and a non-judgmental, sympathetic woman (who, admittedly, can suck like a Hoover
) are important to some gentlemen. It's a form of total therapy, mind and body. They may never take a step beyond seeing a single provider.
) are important to some gentlemen. It's a form of total therapy, mind and body. They may never take a step beyond seeing a single provider.
- junglemonkey
- 06-26-2014, 01:55 PM
“When you think about it, being straight is gay.
I mean, how gay is it being attracted to a woman… all pink… and perfumey…
You know, it’s like ‘Ooh, I like girls. I wanna rub up against girls.’
Fag!
But… If you wanna be straight… shove it up another guy’s ass.
That’s straight.“
I mean, how gay is it being attracted to a woman… all pink… and perfumey…
You know, it’s like ‘Ooh, I like girls. I wanna rub up against girls.’
Fag!
But… If you wanna be straight… shove it up another guy’s ass.
That’s straight.“
- MOTOXMAN
- 06-26-2014, 02:23 PM
Junglemonkey ..........
I'm worried about you my man ...........
I'm worried about you my man ...........
- junglemonkey
- 06-26-2014, 02:36 PM