Blog Post - 5 reasons Why a Married Man Should Visit a Provider

I posted this in the Houston co-ed last week. I thought you gents in the National forum may enjoy as well.


1. Monogamy isn’t natural for men. Our society has rules to ensure the fringe stays in line with what comes natural to the majority of us. We don’t murder, we don’t steal, we don’t assault, because not doing these things comes as natural to us as breathing or blinking. However, monogamy doesn’t seem to come so easy. Why? Because it’s NOT NATURAL! One day our society will catch up and this whole thing will pass. Until then you will need a discrete partner to help you live more naturally. Come see me, I can be that discrete partner.

2. Your marriage has become a friendship. Many years ago you had a best friend and a lover. As the years and your relationship have progressed it seems you have a best friend who occasionally allows you access to “the goods”. While you love your wife and have no intention of living without her, you don’t want a sterile mechanical sexual relationship. You want that willing participant that rocked your world so many years ago. Come see me, I will rock your world.

3. A non-judgmental ear. You have spent a lifetime working to make yourself the best you can be. Some days were smooth as silk. Some days however some days felt like the weight of the world was sitting on your shoulders. Those stressful days are hard to deal with. Sometimes you need someone who listens to you. I absolutely love to hear about you and what makes you tick. I also love getting naked and showing you what makes me tick.

4. Kinky secrets. You have sex regularly and she does her best to please. However, you have a kinky side and want to try new things. The problem is you don’t want to ask your wife, the mother of your children to do those things. Ask me to do them instead. I specialize in “those things”.

5 Adventure. Probably the most mentioned reason. Sometimes you just feel the daily grind has extinguished any excitement you’re your life. If you want the adventure back, come see me. I will make your life adventurous once again.

Nice post River Song. Good read, I liked it.

YUP ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ^ 1000% correct

I, personally, only need one reason....because I can!

Point 5 is probably the biggest thing for me. Life has become incredibly dull most of the time - work, sleep, more work, take kids some where, some BS errand I don't want to do. And my job is super boring and I'm not very busy most of the time. In fact I accidentally found the site when I was bored at work one day. Wasn't something I was purposely seeking.

1 is a big part too. Only been with my wife before I started hobbying. Even though she still puts out regularly, it isn't obvious we are meant to share experiences with others.

3X a year, and this is how it goes , no kissing no bbbj are you hard yet, 35 sec into you done yet ,that's why ^^

3. A non-judgmental ear. You have spent a lifetime working to make yourself the best you can be. Some days were smooth as silk. Some days however some days felt like the weight of the world was sitting on your shoulders. Those stressful days are hard to deal with. Sometimes you need someone who listens to you. I absolutely love to hear about you and what makes you tick. I also love getting naked and showing you what makes me tick. Originally Posted by River Song

Anyone that gets personal is an idiot.
Blackmail ready to happen

Long time marriage so #2 is spot on. Sex got boring and less often. I needed more than she was willing to do. Since I started hobbying #4 has become important to me. I want to experience a lot of options my SO would never consider.

My wife and I have both been married before. We got together with the intention of not getting married. As time went, we decided to go ahead and marry. My wife has indulged my fantasies and I have returned the favor. Results are a damn near perfect marriage and relationship. Due to retirement and a move to the country, our sex life is doing nothing but getting better. I have to disagree with your 5 reasons. Once you find the one who fits the bill, you will be busy pleasing them and getting pleased by them. Call me whatever you want, don't care. I have what I need so don't get mad at me, go find what YOU need.

My wife and I have both been married before. We got together with the intention of not getting married. As time went, we decided to go ahead and marry. My wife has indulged my fantasies and I have returned the favor. Results are a damn near perfect marriage and relationship. Due to retirement and a move to the country, our sex life is doing nothing but getting better. I have to disagree with your 5 reasons. Once you find the one who fits the bill, you will be busy pleasing them and getting pleased by them. Call me whatever you want, don't care. I have what I need so don't get mad at me, go find what YOU need. Originally Posted by BabyBull13

is your wife a provider? your review is about your wife, maybe fill us in.

i think role play fantasies like this are a good idea to spice up a marriage or relationship

I know there are successful marriages for sure
, but i don't think anyone on here is a case study for that. a lot of so called happy marriages on the surface are awful in reality. some of the best sex actually comes AFTER a breakup ironically. when you live with the person it gets tedious and becomes a chore.

The title is Should visit a provider not NEED to visit a provider. I have no intentions of name calling or getting angry with you for not needing a provider. I have what I need and it is awesome that you do as well. But may I ask, if you don't need a provider then why are you here?

My wife and I have both been married before. We got together with the intention of not getting married. As time went, we decided to go ahead and marry. My wife has indulged my fantasies and I have returned the favor. Results are a damn near perfect marriage and relationship. Due to retirement and a move to the country, our sex life is doing nothing but getting better. I have to disagree with your 5 reasons. Once you find the one who fits the bill, you will be busy pleasing them and getting pleased by them. Call me whatever you want, don't care. I have what I need so don't get mad at me, go find what YOU need. Originally Posted by BabyBull13

when you live with the person it gets tedious and becomes a chore. Originally Posted by joesmo888

This! I love my wife, but the sex is so monotonous. Im the one usually turning it down because she only likes it a certain way to get her off, which does little for me. Most of the time now, it feels like just another line on the honey do list.

The title is Should visit a provider not NEED to visit a provider. I have no intentions of name calling or getting angry with you for not needing a provider. I have what I need and it is awesome that you do as well. But may I ask, if you don't need a provider then why are you here? Originally Posted by River Song

What she said. I was wondering exactly that myself. As my old dad used to say, "It takes all kinds."

I left the review as a drunk joke. We saw the providers because of wife and I having a dual fantasy. Wife is not a provider. We haven't seen a provider for about a year now.