Still paying the price

About two years ago I set up an appointment with CrystalKitty (Queen Bee).we were to meet at a hotel I had never been to so I decided to get their early because I didn't know the area or place. I parked in back so I wouldn't look conspicuous. A car pulled up with a lady. I thought it might be Crystal Kitty but wasn't sure. I waited for Crystal to give the room number but she cancelled one. I figured the woman I saw was Crystal. I wasn't happy but didn't create any problems. Crystal thought I was watching her and got nervous and cancelled. Well no big deal but then I got put on a Bad Hobbyist list and have had providers cancel seeing me because of this. Crystal wrote a message on this bad list saying she was mistaken. I've had several providers contact her and give me the ok. The trouble is this keeps poping up on me and I can't get this thing removed. I've seen many providers (check my reviews) and have 7 Ok's on p411. I hope this clears up the mistake in my rep. Ask Alisha, Emerald, Carrina, Marley, Klove to name a few.

When you book appointment do you send them an appointment request via your p411 account? If not try doing that, that way the ladies are able to see all your okays and information.

Yes I do that but I've been told that many ladies have been burned by some guy changing his name so now they are doing a complete back ground check which evidently includes this list that providers have access to. There are other hobbyist on that list that are in the same boat as I'm in, they were falsely accused and once on this list you can't get off even if the provider request it.

It is what it is. There's even red tape in the hobby. Go figure.

Well watch out because your name could get on the "bad list" codybeast and then you might think more than it is what it is! Anyone can be added to the list for any reason. Plus I only found about the list by accident.

If there is a note on her "alert" saying she was mistaken then when you send your request for an appt include that piece of info and let know know they can read her side note for the mistake as well...Might save some time in the future

I never met mendel. Here are the facts:

1. we scheduled for a first of the morning appt, and I had just dropped the kids at school. We agreed upon a time, and I was racing over to the incall, which was a place I only went to like once or twice, ever.

2. He arrived 25 minutes early, and was the only car in the parking lot when I arrived and was dropped off. He then stared down my friend who dropped me off, and seemed to be writing down my license plate#. (I had a patio room, and I could see clearly).

3. This is why I originally posted about this non-meeting, two years ago: Mendel sent me rude message that seemed to be gloating about him watching me arrive. Then he tried to belittle me for seeing other guys that day--after cancelling on him. (I didn't. I cancelled the whole day).

4. I truly felt that he showed "Watching every move" behavior.

5. I was kind enough to post later that perhaps i was mistaken, that other ladies could vouch for him.

It is also true that some guys will behave and be fine for one lady to gain confidence, and then turn and treat others differently. Even James lockhart had one good reference before he caused so much trouble.

I am in no way drawing a comparison to the two individuals, mendel and j.l. I had no malice and was only trying to be safe and keep others so. n

Further, mendel, you have good references, so this should not really be much of an issue, I would think. Best wishes.

Peace and love,
Crystalkitty

Thanks for commenting CrystalKitty. I do not hold you responsible or wish you I'll will. I know the whole thing was a misunderstanding but whatever the website keeps that negative comment on me is; it does cause me problems. But let me say this about our incident. First I don't really want to know if a provider has a SO. Second I arrive early because I respect your time and want to be in time. Third my rude comment was based on the fact my time was wasted due to your paranoia. I will now drop this whole conversation and not bring it up again. I do have good references and have never given a provider any reason to not trust me. Maybe one day I could see CrystalKitty and prove to her I'm ok. So if a moderator would close this thread I would appreciate it!

This thread is kinda creepy. You're on a list, big deal. Cystal Kitty's post if I was a chick would keep you on the list. You stared down her friend and appeared to be writing down a plate. You showed some hate. Why would you bring this all back up????? That's what I don't get about some people on this site. A whole is dug, rather then bury the hole and move on they blow it up and make it worse.

Who cares about lists? I sure as fuck don't, see me don't see me, it doesn't change my life. A buddy of mine was freaking out for days because he thought he might be on a list because a couple ladies with bad tcb didn't immediately respond to a p411 reqiest. Guys stop being so impatient and paranoid. Ladies who know you will see you and vouch for you, ladies with bad tcb may or may not, who cares.