Seriously

Ms.Lady Y's Avatar
Do the ladies here screen? Almost every guy I have talked to says screening, I've never had to do that before!
Ask for provider references and they say "never been asked that before".
Maybe they are just not wanting to be screened, but seriously that's scary.
livn2do's Avatar
Depends on which guys seeing. The reputable local providers here in town always screen. My take on it is this. If a hobbiest see's a chick that doesn't screen (BP), he's taking a huge risk in more ways then one. If your getting approached by guys who have never been screened before I'm glad you're at least screening them for you're own protection. It's crazy out there.
Well tell them your not every girl. I am afraid thats why I am getting so much shit for my screening, but I dont care I have got to make sure I am safe first. Screen Screen Screen, I am thinking NOT all but alot of girls are just happy to get a call and want money so they dont screen. SMDH, just keep doing what your doing and dont let anyone persuade you into not screening, thats part of being professional and a good provider.
Ms.Lady Y's Avatar
Shayla +100.
I will not see anyone without screening, End of subject!
My safety is more important than the money in your pocket.
IABart's Avatar
Iowa is a very trusting place and a lot of people think "being on the boards" means "screening." Many girls don't even know the terminology that the "intro to eccie" covers. A PM through gbn or eccie is better than nothing, but I'm shocked how many girls don't know about D-C, 411, etc.

If a woman asks, "who's your ref?" I got 'em. In fact I usually offer up. "I'm ___. I go by IABart on the boards. My best ref is ______. She's expecting ur call." If I get a "huh?" I ask myself, "is this one worth it?"

Someone told me once, "I get to know who you are because you're not the one who'll be calling their family and trust me that's not the call I want to make." So I've come to see there are 2 general groups: pros, and skanks. It's pretty easy to differentiate but there are some pros who are skanks and some skanks who are pros, just depends on your tolerance of risk.

You get lucky 5X but then you get ripped off, scammed, or worse. Not worth it-If a woman isn't screening, holy crap...is that really someone I want to see?
I've had it happen before. One guy texted me and as soon as I said where did you see my ad and who are your references, silence. Sorry but my safety is more important than you getting your rocks off if you don't have references. There are a few other things I can do to screen you, but make it known you will definitely be screened.
Ms.Lady Y's Avatar
I've had a lot of guys say " I can't give you that info, you can black mail me with it etc..", I tell them " well go see one of the girls that don't screen and make that call from jail asking your wife to come pick you up". Like I would or other reputable providers are going to ruin their reputation to black mail a guy. What little you could get from them doesn't even touch what we can make!
cafrankia's Avatar
Well I am a business owner and I believe you girls are also and have the right to run your business as you see fit and what works best for you. I can say that I live a little over 1 1/2 hours from DSM so I don't get up that way very often ( couple times a year) well that and business is not as good as it has been for me so money is another reason that said I don't mind your screening me I just don't have references and I cant afford p411 or date check so where does that leave me? Taking my chances on BP or waiting for one of the ladies I have seen to come back into town. I am open to other ways if they are out there!
Ms.Lady Y's Avatar
Well I am a business owner and I believe you girls are also and have the right to run your business as you see fit and what works best for you. I can say that I live a little over 1 1/2 hours from DSM so I don't get up that way very often ( couple times a year) well that and business is not as good as it has been for me so money is another reason that said I don't mind your screening me I just don't have references and I cant afford p411 or date check so where does that leave me? Taking my chances on BP or waiting for one of the ladies I have seen to come back into town. I am open to other ways if they are out there! Originally Posted by cafrankia
Your references would be the other ladies you have seen.
I personally prefer to screen myself instead of using provider references. I feel safer doing my own screening for the simple reason you don't no how the other provider did her screening, she may not have done any! But provider references from verified known providers always makes screening faster and easier.
Arynn Rose's Avatar
Screening is a must!!
I mean guys should be more comfortable with a girl who screens.
At least it lets him know she is concerned too, of course its not 100% but it surely helps.
Guys work with us ladies for screening, it makes for a much better time together.
Well, I do not see anyone without screening.
Lets all be safe and help each other!
MOCHAakaMOCHA's Avatar
I really didn't have a problem with screening on any site I advertised on while there but BP.
Very small percentage of the guys from BP were willing to go through any screening of any kind. And 'screening for new friends' is right there in my ads (but I guess they think it's a joke o_O lol).
So ... imo if there is anywhere based on my experience also that a lot are probably not screening are probably those who strictly work/advertise on BP.
cafrankia's Avatar
Well like I said I both understand the need for your screening and would eagerly comply So my question to the ladies is if a guy like me who doesn't really have any references to speak of being I don't get up that way to often (twice in the last year) and the ladies I have seen are either not verified or have changed their # again and/or no longer visit this area. So My question is What would it take for me to get screened and accepted??? ( P411 and date check are out for me to costly to justify to use a couple times a year) I am asking cause I would like to get a list together and have the items ready so I do not get my hopes up nor waste your time. any answers welcomed thanks Frank
There are lots of ways sweets, I have lots of other ways but best be ready to give alot of RW info, but I delete everything after session and everything goes well
I am of the opinion that if a lady doesn't ask for my references, then I probably don't want to see her. Well seriously it depends on which head is in charge at the moment. I really want the ladies to be comfortable with my pedigree and I check them out first. Another reason for no to BP.

Love you long time ladies!
yteranger's Avatar
( P411 and date check are out for me to costly to justify to use a couple times a year) Originally Posted by cafrankia
I once paid for P411 for a full year and only saw a provider once that year. I get where you're coming from but how much does piece of mind really cost? Even if rarely used, a verifaction service lets a lady know you're already one trustworthy step a head of the rest.