Just a suggestion (or two).
First, post in the DFW area as well if you have not yet. You might get some good ideas here, but you are likely to get more tailored suggestions in your local forum.
Second, this is up to you of course, but if it was me and I had saved up for a while, I would put a high priority on making sure I did everything reasonable to increase the odds of a very positive encounter. And everyone's definition of that is different.
--Have an honest talk with yourself about what is important TO YOU. Amazing how hard it is for people to have that conversation with themselves.
--Forget the bargain basement that is BP. Search places like here. Read what ladies post. Read their web sites--don't just look at the pictures. Find someone that appeals on every level that matters to you. (If she has reviews here AND is on BP--no red flag; BP ONLY--high risk.)
--Find a post of hers that interests you in some way--agree with her, disagree, something silly, something serious, or just catches your attention. Write to her. Not a one-liner, but something of substance--a couple paragraphs. See how she replies.
--If you like her reply, write a longer PM or e-mail and start the conversation about meeting her. It might take a few rounds, and with your description screening is likely to be an issue the two of you need to work through. That is for BOTH of yours safety.
When you find the right one, remember that whatever your age she is the expert--relax and enjoy her expertise.
Originally Posted by Old-T
I found the Dallas section yesterday and i thank you for your honest help to a newbie. I will be taking your advice and doing my research here vs BP then.