Default Hobby for Dummies (A few tips from a newbie to other newbies)

I'm a newbie in this city, but not so new in the hobby.
So it's just my 2 cents to this amazing forum.

Please, feel free to share your experience or even correct something.

Everyone wants to chill, preferably avoiding problems.

Basics:
- Read the reviews. Forums are the best source of information to find a provider that fits with your search and also to avoid scams, traps, LEO etc.

- Learn the vocabulary: https://jamirodman.com/sex-industry-...s-terminology/

- AMP (Asian Massage Parlor) is the easiest way to get a happy ending. But you need to read the forums to discover which one can offer it and which level of service. (L1, L2, L3)

- 2024 is an election year. So, IMO, avoid these AMPs these days (or at least be more careful). I love massage. But you can see several news stories about LEO running into them.

- Be careful with scammers. Never make an early deposit. IF she's a well-known provider, there are some exceptions, like if she's travelling, it's an overnight or something else like an Outcall.

- Avoid newbie providers without reviews. The best choices are known providers with a lot of reviews.

- ALWAYS check if the provider has reviews and where she's publishing her ads. Bedpage, AdultSearch and ListCrawler have a LOT of Fakes!

- If the provider has only 1 review, and this review is from some newbie monger with just 1 review. Probably it's a scam. Wait for reviews from the well-known members.

- Ladies have to answer hundreds of msgs. So, be objective! In the first msg, be polite and tell your handle, references, duration and date/time of the session you are planning.

- Avoid talking about activities and $$$ before the screening process will avoid ladies ghosting you.

- Normally you already know about activities that she can perform just reading the ad and reviews. If there is a specific one, just ask after screening. If there is an extra etc.

- If you're a newbie without references and they ask for your ID, make sure to put your finger above the DL number, surname and address.

- Use a burn phone and don't share your personal data. I use P411 to avoid screening with everyone every time that I want to schedule something.

- To get a P411, start with a newbie friendly provider and then move to another one using the first as reference, and then subscribe in P411 using both as your references. (Make sure that both have an active P411 profile there before schedule with them)

- There are plenty of well-known providers that are newbie friendly announcing in OH2/Tryst/Eros. Probably they might not be the type of ladies you prefer to meet. But you only need 2-3 vouchers to get verified. It will be worth after it !

- I usually rather places with a safe parking lot, preferred gated. So ladies with upper scale places are my goals.

- Always pay in cash! Electronic payments make paper trails. (Specially to married hobbyists)

- Always take a shower before and try to use mouthwashes. Ladies will be more friendly if you do this. We love them fresh and clean, they also love clean clients. Safe and Hygiene always in the first place.

- After the mission, check your belongings, cellphone, car keys, wallet, and cards.

Extreme:
- I avoid bringing all cards (credit, memberships etc) in my wallet. Less is better. Just to minimize the damage in case of a trap.

- Once inside her place, make sure to lock the door behind you. Put your stuff in a visible place and a towel or your shirt above everything.

- If you take a shower, get your belongings to the bathroom. So, if you lose something, you will be sure that it was lost somewhere else and the lady doesn't have anything to do with this.

- Bring extra condoms (or the one of your preference). Just in case the lady tells you that she had only 1.

- Your own survival kit: hairbrush, deodorant, soap, toothpaste etc. (I know a guy that bring his own towel)

The most important: HAVE FUN and enjoy these beautiful angels that share their kindness with us.

Enjoy the sensation. Think about everything and try to write a review about your experience.
The forum's essence is to share knowledge to help other mongers keeping everybody safe and happy.
Read the rules about writing reviews and don't share the provider contact details (phone/address) if it's not in her ad.

Again, this is just my opinion, not a guide of what you can or cannot do with your money.
Hobbying around the world or other cities can vary a lot.
Sorry for any misguidance and even if a lot of this can appear obvious for some of you, but I hope that some can be one bright spot for others.

Please share in this topic anything that can help other newbies.

Take care and enjoy hobbying!
007 Octopussy

Look who's back and just joined my ignore list.

Pretty good advice for them newbies

Pretty good advice for them newbies Originally Posted by winn dixie

+1 actually lol.

i shoulda read this b4 my 1st year in the hobby, which was basically the "BP experience" ("BPE"), and chocked full of "learning opportunities" and "teachable moments", u know..

i should write the definitive guide: "all the ways a hobby newb can get scammed on BP (or LC)"..

Look who's back and just joined my ignore list. Originally Posted by DEAR_JOHN

You read my mind

Thanks for the info!

+1 actually lol.

i shoulda read this b4 my 1st year in the hobby, which was basically the "BP experience" ("BPE"), and chocked full of "learning opportunities" and "teachable moments", u know..

i should write the definitive guide: "all the ways a hobby newb can get scammed on BP (or LC)".. Originally Posted by pxmcc

Hey pxmcc, please write! Sorry to hear about it, but these experiences are most valuable than you think. Part of my post was given to me by providers, other hobbyists and reading the forums too.

DEAR_JOHN and Busty,
I don't know who you think who I am. Probably someone that is not nice. But I'm new in this forum, so feel free to confirm my identity with the girls that I met. Have a nice day.

Octo, i don't know who you are supposed to be or not, but imo, this is a quite helpful guide for newbies. thanks for sharing.
ya, maybe i'll post a thread for the gents and ladies, "all the ways you've gotten scammed in the hobby"..
people think that only dudes get scammed, but that isn't the case at all. every time a gal sets aside time for a date, gets all dolled up, and the client no NC/NS, is a scam in that she's lost valuable time. time is money, after all.

Hey pxmcc, please write! Sorry to hear about it, but these experiences are most valuable than you think. Part of my post was given to me by providers, other hobbyists and reading the forums too.

DEAR_JOHN and Busty,
I don't know who you think who I am. Probably someone that is not nice. But I'm new in this forum, so feel free to confirm my identity with the girls that I met. Have a nice day. Originally Posted by 007_Octopussy

- Bring extra condoms (or the one of your preference). Just in case the lady tells you that she had only 1.
007 Octopussy Originally Posted by 007_Octopussy

+1
A lot of ladies these days don't have even 1!
Have had 2 disappear on me mid session when it came time to suit up for penetration.
One said she was going a few doors down to get one from her homegurl.
The other said she was going to the gas station next door to buy some.
The messed up part is that both times were incalls and all their belongings were there.
I waited around for almost an hour each time & eventually rubbed one out onto the pillows & left.