Ladies, how many of you have developed feelings for a client???

This topic has been brought up many times from a male perspective of developing feelings for a provider, but I'm interested in hearing more from the other side.

Alot of "real world" women become attached after intimacy....while men often seem to be the cold ones....however, the hobby, seems to be the complete reversed in BOTH regards. So I'm interested in how many of you are able to avoid liking someone.

I've seen a provider that wouldn't let me kiss her neck b/c she said "it's just too intimate". Some ladies may engage in a, uh, Colorado cigarette or two, lol, or have a few drinks before a session to perhaps disengage somewhat.

So if you're reading this, have you ever caught yourself liking someone, wanting to text them randomly etc.....or are clients you meet just 100% business to you no matter how well you may click conversation-wise or during the session?
I have experienced squishy feels for some of my faves which may surface every once in a while after a date. Professionalism is an important factor in not getting caught up and possibly risking devolving into a messy situation. There are times when I've thought about sending an out of the blue correspondence, but I don't as things seem to work more smoothly when a client gets in touch because he wants to book a date rather than either of us engaging in lots of back and forth chit chat which may contribute to a sense of ambiguity.
pyramider's Avatar
I would imagine most of the ladies feel pity ... for the fucktards and their SOs.
Laura Lynn's Avatar
I like to treat this as a friends with benefits situation, but I keep it professional. I'm here for fun, not to change anyone's situation at home

With that said, I must admit there was one time a few years ago I let myself develop feelings for a gent. It happens
mmcqtx's Avatar
This is not a good topic. Most of us seek out IOP at least to some degree. The key to that is "Illusion". It is natural to get to a comfort level with a provider, but if you feel more than that, it is time to move on. If a provider starts feeling something beyond temporary gratification, it is time for her to move on to new clients, a new city or a new profession.
Picture telling your grandkids about how you met. Introducing her to one of your buddies and seeing an exchange of looks that appears to be recognition. There are plenty of ways for a relationship that starts out as client/provider to blow up on you and you still have all of the regular ways for a relationship to blow up.
Ladies, stay professional and when the time comes to leave us, don't look back. be happy that this was a means to an end and then you can start writing a new chapter in your life.
micktoz's Avatar
I'm pretty sure that every provider I see has feelings for me! It must be love. Just like my 2 past wives. In the beginning, they were really enthusiastic and sucked my cock like crazy. Just like the providers do. Isn't that proof of their undying love for me?

Of course with the wives,as their love waned, the blow jobs went away.

The blow jobs never go away with the providers, they all love me.

Right?
  • zJS
  • 09-29-2016, 06:46 AM
They have feelings for us 'stupid and foolish' dick heads, but they just want to have fun, which takes money. No money, no love. And they are in love with multiple men.
Sex workers are actually humans and not inanimate sex bots. For me, I believe there is a spectrum of intensity regarding attraction and desire. Every once in a while, I do experience low-key feels, which have nothing to do with love, or even a full-on crush. When it is the case that I've met with someone and our connection was exceptional and left a lasting impression on me, I sort through those feelings in a professional manner. This might manifest as memories of my favorite moments serving as masturbation fodder.

Either way, it's always so fascinating reading what those here in hobbyland (who would be classified as cheating heathens by normative standards) think about relationships.
Kayleehotchick's Avatar
I can't say I feel a romantic feelings but I can say, I have a couple gents I see that I REALLY REALLY REALLY like and totally enjoy their company. And more so, I feel a deep since respect for them as well.
I think ladies who see a gentlemen many times over the course of her career, can tend to become close friends, and therefore have more feelings for said gen't. then the guy who books 1 time per year.

Some guys are just naturally friendly and over time we begin to share some of our life's history.
Some guys make us feel like we are not paid courtesans... Those are the special ones to remember.

With that being said. Yes I have had 1 or 2 guys who were just so awesome, that I felt a little something extra for them...

M.M.
I like to treat this as a friends with benefits situation, but I keep it professional. I'm here for fun, not to change anyone's situation at home

With that said, I must admit there was one time a few years ago I let myself develop feelings for a gent. It happens Originally Posted by Laura Lynn
With the nature of the hobby, I can see it being easy to develop feelings. I hope it ended well for you.
berkleigh's Avatar
*raises hand*

I am guilty...times 2x!
It happens
Tx Noob's Avatar
The blow jobs never go away with the providers, they all love me.

Right? Originally Posted by micktoz
As long as the money is green...
Chung Tran's Avatar
many ladies develop feelings for Chung Tran.. in order of most common, the top 3 are:

1. anathema
2. revulsion
3. an extreme urge to defecate
I think it happens a lot more than folks fess up to. I've crossed my own boundaries and gotten emotionally involved with ONE client. Sometimes I wish I hadn't, other times I'm glad that I did. It's definitely a slippery slope.