I have had 2 ATF providers for the last 2 years that are great. I always thought they were great, but a few new girls have popped up that are younger, have lower rates, and are much more GFE.
In the past, my ATFs would text me and I would most likely see them that night. But now I feel like I'm blowing them off, and I actually am, and they're starting to get their feelings hurt.
How can I dump an ATF without them taking it personally? I recently told one that I need her to be more GFE and she explained that she has a boyfriend now and that's not happening. She got pissed and claimed to delete my number.
I want to drop a girl from ATF status, to "once every couple of months" status. How?
- Monte Cito
- 09-10-2011, 06:25 PM
- LazurusLong
- 09-10-2011, 06:46 PM
Tell her you need to undergo a course of antibiotics and the CDC has advised you to avoid sex for the next several months.
Then casually ask when was the last time she was tested?
Then casually ask when was the last time she was tested?
- nbs4143
- 09-10-2011, 07:08 PM
Monte, just say that you are taking some time off from your hobby to take care of thing that needs your immediate attention... or that you have a new girlfriend...
- Guest021812-3
- 09-10-2011, 07:10 PM
It's not you, it's me.
- lisa.lisa0302
- 09-10-2011, 07:11 PM
I hope your ATF(s) are not reading this thread.
Personally I would not say anything to them, men are not obligated to see us or give us a reason as to why they do not want to see us. Just move on and not say anything.
Personally I would not say anything to them, men are not obligated to see us or give us a reason as to why they do not want to see us. Just move on and not say anything.
- Lana Warren
- 09-10-2011, 07:28 PM
Yeah bud, by starting this thread, you just told her. Your phone should be blowing up about right...........NOW!
(I'd love to eavesdrop on that one)
(I'd love to eavesdrop on that one)
- Ivy Chick
- 09-10-2011, 07:29 PM
I agree with Lisa!
- mtabsw
- 09-10-2011, 07:30 PM
It's a business, not HS. See who you want. Try telling the girls you don't like them seeing other guys....
- Guest091314
- 09-10-2011, 09:05 PM
A lady in this profession should never be offended or get their feeling hurt by you wanting to get some strange...isnt that what this is all about???
Sure...there are some of my clients in the past that I would look forward to their call every week and eventually I would start getting reference request for that gent. It does not mean a damn thing, it is just what happens. You are not obligated to any one lady.
Sure...there are some of my clients in the past that I would look forward to their call every week and eventually I would start getting reference request for that gent. It does not mean a damn thing, it is just what happens. You are not obligated to any one lady.
- fawn
- 09-10-2011, 09:43 PM
A lady in this profession should never be offended or get their feeling hurt by you wanting to get some strange...isnt that what this is all about???
Sure...there are some of my clients in the past that I would look forward to their call every week and eventually I would start getting reference request for that gent. It does not mean a damn thing, it is just what happens. You are not obligated to any one lady. Originally Posted by Alecia
Girl you took the words right out of my mouth...... This is business not a marriage.... You have the right to see who you want and when you want.. Men love variety of all ages, shapes and sizes that is the beauty of this hobby, and the sooner your ATF's understand that the better off they will be.... I would say you don't owe her any explanation because you didn't put a ring on her finger and if you decide to write a review and she gets mad, then maybe you should move on and find another AFT...
If a lady will ALL WAYS takes care of her client 100% the way she is suppose to run her business then no matter how far her client strays, he will always find his way back to her....
- Fort Worth Punk
- 09-10-2011, 10:09 PM
Have to echo the ladies.
You can, in fact, get too involved with others in the hobby.
You can, in fact, get too involved with others in the hobby.
- Guest062124
- 09-10-2011, 10:13 PM
- pmdelites
- 09-10-2011, 10:13 PM
...isnt that kinda like this old phrase???
If a lady will ALL WAYS takes care of her client 100% the way she is suppose to run her business then no matter how far her client strays, he will always find his way back to her.... Originally Posted by fawn
if you really love someone, you have to let them go do what they want.
and then track them down and drag them back home.
seriously, it can be a bit tricky letting her know you're moving on w/ a possibility of it being a while before you get back.
but like fawn, it she gets all upset or pissy that you consulting with others, then do you really want to consult w/ her??
another possibility - have so many ATFs that it's months before you get back to see her.
- rachet3375
- 09-10-2011, 10:16 PM
So you are cheatin on your provider??? What a guy.
- ElisabethWhispers
- 09-10-2011, 10:20 PM
You sound like a nice man. There is always going to be that special guy (or three 
) that one has a spark with but it's alright when they go in a different direction. And generally at some point, it's expected.
It's the nature of the beast.
If an ATF doesn't recognize that attrition is part of the whole of this business, then she needs an attitude adjustment. Smile.
And you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Elisabeth
) that one has a spark with but it's alright when they go in a different direction. And generally at some point, it's expected.It's the nature of the beast.
If an ATF doesn't recognize that attrition is part of the whole of this business, then she needs an attitude adjustment. Smile.
And you don't owe anyone an explanation.Elisabeth