Chacun A Son Gout

The Limeliters, back in the 60s, had a song named "Have Some Madeira, My Dear". In it, the phrase "chacun a son gout" was used. Very, VERY loosely translated, it means "each to his own taste". That's where I'm coming from.

Just returned from an appointment with a well-reviewed, popular, currently-available, and well-regarded provider. Never been a bad word said about her. That being said, the appointment was a disaster for me. Within the first 10 minutes, I became acutely aware that this simply was not going to work ... at all, and I quickly wilted.

Set up was perfect. Arrival was on time. Very nice hotel in nice district. Clean room, and provider was sexily dressed, smelled good, smiled a lot, and was very friendly. So what's the problem, you ask?

Chacun a son gout. As I age, I think I need to take more time and devote that time to what I really enjoy, not what the adult community has determined to be the appropriate list of activities. It seems that we have this checklist of things that have to be performed. We gotta hug and kiss, then talk 3 1/2 minutes, then lay on the bed, LFK to DFK for 90 seconds, then take off our clothes. That leads to 30 more seconds DFK, then a BBBJ, then the obligatory 69 or DATY, followed by donning the cover for CFS. When round 1 is done, rest and talk for 4 1/2 minutes, then get back into the game. There usually isn't a ton of time, so you gotta hurry some of these things up.

I suspect that, when I was 25, that was okay. I had several shots in my 6-gun, was adaptable, and didn't require a lot of specialized attention. That has changed as I've gotten longer in the tooth.

I'm not posting the ladie's name because it wouldn't be fair to her. She did nothing wrong. She did what she always does, I suspect. And it pretty much works all the time, I gather ... just not for me. But it would not do her reputation any good regardless to have somebody give her a "No" recommendation. But I won't go back and see her. Chacun a son gout. Just not my taste.

I suspect we've all had this happen. It's part of the "live and learn" thing. There are a couple of local ladies that never fail me. Why I don't stick with them I just don't know. (You know who you are. Sorry I didn't call you first.)

Wanna try something new ... a little strange ... out of the ordinary. Or maybe just something that it seems everybody loves. If you're 25, it's probably going to be okay. Was a time when I could have gotten off with the knothole in a tree if it was the right height.

But as you get older, be ready. Chacun a son gout.

You just needed a spark plug to get the fireworks going... quick lubed finger up her ass. The squeal of delight (or shock) would get the woody going. Slap on the rubber and spin into doggie with no foreplay to the finish line. She might have refunded your money.

You had what is known as a "Scripted Session."

Everyone is an individual. Every session should be different. Heck, even with the same gentleman the activities and the pace will be different every time. This is one of the pleasures of seeing the same lady over and over...an ATF. You can build a rapport and she learns more and more how to read our mood/needs.

HoneyRose, I just adore you, girl, but I slightly disagree with your assessment. It may not have been so much a "scripted session" which implies that the girl is mechanical and just not really "there." After a while, a gal gets used to the vast majority of her clients wanting the complete alphabet (of what she offers) in every session. They want to do EVERYTHING, even if the session is only an hour. Of course, a good provider is going to do her best to offer that, but in a one hour session, that means moving through activities very quickly. Unless the OP told her differently, then I can't really fault her for assuming he wanted to try it all, as is the usual case. Communication is vital to getting what you want.

Now, if he DID express clearly what he really wanted, and she just went through the motions anyway, then I agree that what he experienced was a scripted session. I still have some trouble faulting her, as perhaps that is her comfort zone and seems to be working well for her (he mentioned her many good reviews).

Perhaps they just lacked chemistry. It happens to the best of us. Sad that he didn't get the session he wanted, but he tried something new, and that can happen. He seems to have a fairly rational opinion of the event though, as opposed to being angry at her for something that may not have been her fault. I respect that. Kudos to you, sir.

+1 for luv2luv

Even from the limited number of provider replies to your thread, you can see that there is a difference in outlook depending on the age bracket. WOW - Wholly Shirt -there's a real surprise! It ain't no thing, everyone's essentially correct on their take on your situation - for the place that they're in.

You spoke about where you are at at this time and, believe me, since we're around the same age, I feel ya (so the youngerns are prone to saying). Sometimes things just don't work out and it's not really anyone's "fault," it's just the situation. You are absolutely correct in not mentioning anything about the lady because the both of you just didn't click. BFD. This happens to me about 2-3 time a year and I just pay the tuition to the University of More Experience and get to work on my picker. IMO, if a provider is really of the top tier, regardless of rate, reputation, age or whatever, she will pick up on your dilemma and figure out that whatever she's doing ain't getting it done. That's a lot to ask of some people (male and female) who have either not seen the need to be more intuitive or to have yet developed that skill. Hell, if either party has a plan (not necessarily as strong of an implication as a script) that experience has shown to work 75+% of the time, one can see where they can be lulled into thinking that that is good enough. And, maybe it is, especially in providers' cases, if the cards, letters and cash keep rolling in.

So, I for one, continue to seek out ladies who just plain like to par-tay for the pure fun of it - or at least can ginny up that environment for and hour or so.

Keep on luvin2luv! Sh*t happens and it doesn't appear that she laid a massive chunk.

I agree with Honey Rose. Reads like you were put thru the motions. It happens. The next hobbyist who sees her will probably have a different experience. Heck, if you saw her again, maybe things would be different. The way I look at it, it only cost you a few bucks to find out sparks didn't fly. I've gotten lucky lately and avoided a couple of disasters, and deprived the provider, who another hobbyist might adore, of a bad session too. Learned to go back to well reviewed providers whose reviews and posts I've read. Ups the chances for a good session greatly. In fact, I have an appointment with just such a lady on Monday. Can't wait. Chalk it up to experience, salve your wounds and get back on the horse that bucked you.

L2L, you didn't anything wrong and neither did she.
This is just what happens sometimes when 2 people prepare to do the most intimate and personal act together and all the other steps that might occur in a normal man-woman relationship are skipped.
Usually, a man's hormonal needs allow him to skip over all of these steps and simply satisfy his primal urges.

Meeting someone for the very first time and then getting naked and doing it is really quite an abnormal activity and if your mind is not in that fantasy mode, it can balk on you.

Sure, we all have that fantasy (sex with a stranger) and when you are a youngster that has never had any or never had very much, that's cool as hell.
When you pass someone walking down the street and you think - God, I would love to do them, you are in the right mindset at that moment.
However, if it was another day and your mind was somewhere else and that same person came on to you, you might freeze up.

Like tracibrooks said as well, sometimes there is just no chemistry.
This has happened to me a number of times, I can't really explain other than simply my brain getting in the way.
It's asking me deep down in my subconscious - "what in the hell are you doing?"

If you are in the right mindset, a scripted session, a slam-bam thank you ma'am or an LFK-DFK-DATY-BBBJ-CFS-K9-Mish allowing 8 minutes and 30 seconds for each activity is usually just fine.
Like they say - the brain is your most sensitive sexual organ.

This is just what happens sometimes when 2 people prepare to do the most intimate and personal act together and all the other steps that might occur in a normal man-woman relationship are skipped. Usually, a man's hormonal needs allow him to skip over all of these steps and simply satisfy his primal urges.

Meeting someone for the very first time and then getting naked and doing it is really quite an abnormal activity and if your mind is not in that fantasy mode, it can balk on you.

Sure, we all have that fantasy (sex with a stranger) and when you are a youngster that has never had any or never had very much, that's cool as hell.
When you pass someone walking down the street and you think - God, I would love to do them, you are in the right mindset at that moment.
However, if it was another day and your mind was somewhere else and that same person came on to you, you might freeze up.

Sometimes there is just no chemistry. This has happened to me a number of times, I can't really explain other than simply my brain getting in the way.
It's asking me deep down in my subconscious - "what in the hell are you doing?"

If you are in the right mindset, a scripted session, a slam-bam thank you ma'am or an LFK-DFK-DATY-BBBJ-CFS-K9-Mish allowing 8 minutes and 30 seconds for each activity is usually just fine.

Like they say - the brain is your most sensitive sexual organ. Originally Posted by TheWanderer

All very valid points...and a perfect example that each of us have our own tastes. In fact those tastes can vary on an hourly basis, and many times there is a change in what we want as we mature.

Well put!

Scripted does NOT equal mechanical. Proof of that is in the AMP stars. Their sessions are VERY scripted but their devotion to the role is also very high. It does sound like a scripted session with a lack of attention to the uniqueness of the client. Maybe that's the client's fault for lack of effective communication beforehand or maybe it's the provider's fault for just going along to get along. Either way, love the OP's post and the follow ups.

L2L, you didn't anything wrong and neither did she.
This is just what happens sometimes when 2 people prepare to do the most intimate and personal act together and all the other steps that might occur in a normal man-woman relationship are skipped.
Usually, a man's hormonal needs allow him to skip over all of these steps and simply satisfy his primal urges.

Meeting someone for the very first time and then getting naked and doing it is really quite an abnormal activity and if your mind is not in that fantasy mode, it can balk on you.

Sure, we all have that fantasy (sex with a stranger) and when you are a youngster that has never had any or never had very much, that's cool as hell.
When you pass someone walking down the street and you think - God, I would love to do them, you are in the right mindset at that moment.
However, if it was another day and your mind was somewhere else and that same person came on to you, you might freeze up.

Like tracibrooks said as well, sometimes there is just no chemistry.
This has happened to me a number of times, I can't really explain other than simply my brain getting in the way.
It's asking me deep down in my subconscious - "what in the hell are you doing?"

If you are in the right mindset, a scripted session, a slam-bam thank you ma'am or an LFK-DFK-DATY-BBBJ-CFS-K9-Mish allowing 8 minutes and 30 seconds for each activity is usually just fine.
Like they say - the brain is your most sensitive sexual organ. Originally Posted by TheWanderer

BINGO!


luv,

I have a suggestion for your next encounter!

Instead of treating this like an appointment, treat it like you would if you were in the dating world!

Give yourself time to get to know the lady who you are interested in and see if there is chemisty to begin with!

Suggestion: if you know sometimes it requires more time or special activity to get up and going, tell the lady up front before you arrive. Most of the established providers have had this kind of thing happen. The good ones will try to adjust and accomidate.