how much info should i give for reference check?

i was interested in seeing a certain provider, and i was trying to go through the necessary steps of screening to prove that i am not LE, which i am not.

this provider was asking for info such as what i do, my name, work, etc... however, she wanted me to bring pay stubs (which contain very personal info) as well as give her my full name, work number, and some other info that i felt way to uneasy to reveal.

should i have given the provider this info to ensure a date? or was i right in trusting my gut feeling that something seemed wrong and uneasy about the info she was asking for?

thoughts, insight, concerns? please im very nervous about this... i already have given her my work #, work name, and my first name.....

help?

I would not bring my pay stubs to show her. Move on to the next one, IMO.

ok so following my gut and not my lil other head was a good call, thanks

Pay stubs? Seriously, now, is this something to consider for more than a millisecond?

Hell to the no!

I personally require id and some proof of job besides being LE. Business card..website etc. I don't think that is abnormal. I just wanna be comfortable.

Who was it? I'd like to add them to my NFW list.

A paycheck stub... are you kidding me? If you are married HELL NO! If you aren't married HELL NO! Get p411 that should be enough, with a few references. While I value a lady that screens, and screens well, asking for a paycheck stub is fucking stupid in more ways than one.

I can produce a paycheck stub with a computer program, a printer, and special paper. Don't ask me how I know this, but I do, and I can. LE can do the same so tell her good luck with that and move on.

Fuuuuuuck that!!! My real fuckin name is not a providers business. Neither is where I work. I don't really care if they want to know what I do, but I don't need a crazy one calling the office with my real name and trying to start trouble there. Please post on this thread if you require such personal info so I will know to not even think about seeing you.

Would you let a client know your real name? Hell no you wouldn't. And why not? Same fuckin reason. Cause you wouldn't want a crazy client tryin to fuck up your shit.

well it hit my gut hard when i saw that she just started an account here on like 7/31, and she kep asking for my full name, so i just ended the chat and blocked her.... it was Ali Kennedy btw... the pics seemed real, professional grade, but who's to know if its actually her ya know... just a lil heads up for everyone....
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well it hit my gut hard when i saw that she just started an account here on like 7/31, and she kep asking for my full name, so i just ended the chat and blocked her.... it was Ali Kennedy btw... the pics seemed real, professional grade, but who's to know if its actually her ya know... just a lil heads up for everyone....
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Provide only what you feel comfortable with. And, get P411 and make your selection from ECCIE and P411. It's not a guarantee but it sure cuts down on the chances of making a choice you'll regret later.

It is true in the hobby that providers must establish boundaries to mitigate their risk exposure. Screening, done properly, helps them build those boundaries. Paycheck stubs, real names, drivers licenses, real-world cell numbers (most providers use-or should- reverse cell searches to find your name-about $10 a month.), etc. go beyond normal boundaries and become more like fortifications, keeping good clients out.

Rest assured, that information is all kept when given. Better to use a screening service like P411 or a network of references.

As stated above, just give what you are comfortable giving. Showing a paycheck is fine if you are buying a car, not when you are visiting a lady for an hour. My suggestion is getting a P411 account and screening is much easier.

I personally require id and some proof of job besides being LE. Business card..website etc. I don't think that is abnormal. I just wanna be comfortable. Originally Posted by Bridgette Ann

I understand being careful, but what if the gentleman works as a construction worker or at a small business without a website? What if he is retired? I can make a business card at home with my printer. I'm not criticizing you, just pointing out that things aren't always that easy.

FUCK SCREENING.

Why don't you lull us all with a false sense of security? ANYTHING can be forged. Websites, check stubs, work verification, and references. Who cares if hookers are safe? Who cares if hookers want to keep themselves safe? Don't let a hooker tell you she has a life, or a reason. Why don't you all just cook up all the fake screening stuff you need in order to see the ones you want?

We're all managed.
We're all thieves.
We're all going to blackmail you.
We're all going to stalk you.
We ALL want kids by you.

All our kids have been taken from us by CPS, we've all been busted so many times our backgrounds are so screwed up we can't get a decent place to stay, and we ride around in our pimp's car all day, looking for tricks, so our lives don't matter. We live to break up happy homes and steal your credit cards, and get as much money from you as we can. So stick with girls that don't mind taking the risk of going to jail.

This goes for the ladies AND the gents:
If you're scared, go to church.