Guys who like older women.

RyanFromTER's Avatar
And let me clarify by saying for myself I'm not a 20 yr old wanting ladies twice my age, or a mommy complex.

For me I'm in my mid 30's and for the last year or so found ladies in their 40's to be extremely attractive. It seems they are more self confident, and need less reassuring. Not only that but are upfront about what they want without being off putting.

I know some people will make the statement about not have the youthful body and high energy of a 20, but c'mon there is more to it than just bunny fucking. Isn't there?

I guess in college I did the random pickup thing and now it's old. I prefer the mental build up now. The taking a little bit of extra time. Even ladies my age seem more like the instant gratification get to the point type.

Just looking for others input. And if I offended the younger ladies that wasn't my intent. Just expressing my opinion at the moment from my experiences and I know I shouldn't collectively group all people.
I get a lot of gentlemen that are younger than me, and they've all said the same thing you did
^^^Same.

But I also get a lot of gentlemen my age or older that prefer ladies 40 and up. What I hear from them is that a lot of the 30 and younger ladies do not have the understanding a patience for many of the physical limitations that some older gentlemen face.
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  • Zena
  • 03-24-2017, 07:43 AM
Yes, me too.
They love the confidence, skill, and less drama of the 38+ ladies or 40+ ladies. Mmmmmmmmmmm....
Agree. I like the more confidant older ladies myself. No drama or games and their attitude is much appreciated.
Was just having this conversation with another fella on here a couple days ago. I like more mature providers myself. I myself prefer a minimum of 30 years old. I love the more experienced, slower sessions. Most of them are more comfortable with their bodies and aren't afraid to enjoy themselves as well. They are more likely to express what they actually enjoy. It might not be the spinning from the ceiling fan stuff you get with a younger lady, but most of the time way more enjoyable. And as a rule, way less drama in the tcb department. Which is a big plus.
Looks like I'm in this boat, wasn't my intent when starting out, but it is where I ended up. I'm in my mid 30s. Most ladies I've seen have been older than me and all but one has been older than 30. The only reason I gave the one twenty something year old a try was a lot of her reviews were like "I prefer older ladies, but this one is much more mature than her age."

For me, I think it is cause I feel older than 35 (even though I look younger). Two reasons - I had children young and they forced me to mature faster. And due to my work and social circles, I am mostly around people older than me (I have several close friends in their 60s), so even at my age, I'm always the baby if the group. So to me, I can't relate to someone in their 20s for some reason, even though they are only a few years younger than me, and just don't think I can deal with the possible drama they bring.
Wasn't my intent either when I started. I was looking for that 20-24 young body to bring back my youth. I myself am 49. I quickly learned that my chemistry was over the top with Playmates that are 35+. I have even found myself looking at the Showcases of Playmates that are 50-55. NEVER EVER dreamed I would do that.

A lot of the younger ladies are here for the $ and are working on IOP. A lot of the more mature ladies have realized that $ isn't everything and life is to be enjoyed. That means enjoying every single encounter to its fullest if possible. For some, that means they have gotten good at IOP. But for a select few of the mature Playmates, that means they will allow themselves to actually enjoy the passion of their partner and return that passion. They obviously must trust that partner and know that he is safe and will not be stalking her later wanting a relationship. I have 2 that know I am safe. I am married and not EVER wanting to change that. They know I am safe for a few hours BCDs. We leave the world outside to pick it back up when we go our seperate ways. You can't find that with a younger Playmate nor can you find it with every more mature Playmate. But when you find it with the right one, wow!!

And NO, it doesn't mean I am looking for a freebie because I think it is as good for her as it is for me. Even though it is a hobby arrangement doesn't mean the Playmate can't let herself go!!
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I am also with this. I'm 31 and always looking for mature women. I've always been attracted to older women 40+. I went to Vegas last week and saw a mature women off bp she was probably mid to upper 50s. One of best experiences and releases I've had. It just seems like they care about me more. It seems like younger gals, when your finished, some want you out of there asap. I just had an O and just wanna relax for a few min and ponder life you know?
I have always preferred older, mature women, both here and in the RW. In my opinion, there are 3 main reasons why a woman over 35 stays a provider:

(1) She does it because she likes it.
(2) She does it because she knows she's good at it.
(3) She does it because it is compatible with her lifestyle.

They know and appreciate the value of TCB and they fuck like teenagers. And most of them left their drama behind them years ago. A woman normally hits her sexual prime at around age 40, and in my time in the hobby I have met many incredibly beautiful and sexual older women. I just wish that there were more! My ATF is a 67-year-old still-working porn actress from Dallas. I thank my lucky stars that we live hundreds of miles apart, or else both my dick and my bank account would be completely drained by now.
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  • Mokoa
  • 03-24-2017, 07:32 PM
Yep, it is all about maturity.

If that is present everything else takes care of itself.
When I was first becoming sexual in my early 20's, I found myself with women in their 30's and 40's. Now that I am in my early 30's I find myself attracted to younger women in their 20's. Funny how that works. But I still like the occasional romp with an older lady. Maybe they have a little bit of a mommy belly or some other imperfections, but these are easily overlooked. Older women are also more secure with their bodies and sexuality. I was with a younger girl not too long ago and she didn't like having her ass touched.
I like the older woman. One shes more sure of herself its a more relaxing experience shes not in a hurry.. and because im old as dirt she realizes that as an old man it takes a lot longer for me to achieve the same results that takes a young man minutes to achieve where a young woman starts to get nervous because it just didn't happen or that they have to work at it to resurect it to life. Then again I don't feel so odd..
For me its not all about desert but the experience the connection....
Yep, it is all about maturity.

If that is present everything else takes care of itself. Originally Posted by Mokoa
What do you mean older?? It is getting near impossible for me to find a lady older than me. So, I'm going to assume you mean more mature - The right lady could be in her 20s, 30s, 40s or 50s. I don't think I've banged a 60 year old.... yet...
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Well Ryan,

I am 66 and can still attract the attention of age-appropriate women. I, my sedlf, am not interested in seeing post-menopausal womennaked (perhaps excluding Christi Brinkly).

I am active in the Hobby, albeit at a very low frequency, so that I may have the intimate companionship of beautiful women well more than half my age. Its a bit like fucking that girl in college who was way out of my league.

My dream girl might be an submissive Asian contortionist under 5'/95lb.

But most of the sexual experience takes place in the head; 'eye-of-the-beholder" and to each his own etc.

Like 'em older? GO FOR IT!