How to plant the idea of providing in a girls head?

So I have a friend who's Very attractive and sexually liberated. The girl is a Nympho in every since of the word, and totally comfortable being nude. She loves attn and flirting. She already works at a Hooters and definately has the looks to do well, as well as the personality. I truly think the girl would excel in this profession, if not for a career, but at the least a way to make ends meet. I know she's had some trouble financially lately.

How did some of you girls get started? Would it be a good idea to offer to help her get on her feet financially but for a "trade"... thus planting the bug in her head? I Normally wouldn't do this, but I do think that this profession is the girls calling. She's recently expressed interest in trying to get into playboy, so I think the door is opened. But the question is, how do I steer her.... or do I let her discover the profession on her own?

The thing that does worry is her childhood past...and things that happened to her while little. I do worry about her ability to handle a situation like this. Now all that being said she's now VERY early 20's, so approaching the age that I think she could handle this.

Any ideas?

Attached are two of her pics, which she has up on the net for all to see already... so as you see.... she's very open.

**Edit**... pics are now irrelevant, so I've removed them!

You can either let her in on the little secret of what you do for a hobby, or don't bring it up at all. There is no way of knowing how she will take it when you suggest she should become a paid whore. Also, have you considered the dangers she will be opening up for herself if she does? Young 20 year olds make a lot of mistakes. Whatever you do, be careful and make sure this is something you want her in on.

I have considered the dangers. But I think those can be minimized. I was gonna help try and "coach" her on ways to provide maximum safety. Also I was going to put her in touch with a provider I know and trust to "mentor" her.

Hopefully she would listen to me and only see screened clients... but in the end, there's only so much you can do.

How did you get started Tiff?... was it just a branch out from your industry career?

Write down some sites and pass them along to her. It's the world's oldest profession. She knows about it already.

Offering to "coach", "mentor", "minimize risk"...whatever...will end up getting her hurt. This is not a good business for girls with shadows.

You mention something happened to her as a child. I think the statistics are something like 1 in 6 American women have been sexually abused at some point in their lives. It is not a positive thing whatsoever. I am by no means asking the ladies around here to talk about their experience, but if an annonymous study was done, you would see at least the same percentage here as society as a whole.

If she had a traumatic experience early in life she likely deals with it on a daily basis, and that would be something she would have to live with in this "hobby". As far as helping bring her into the hobby world, depending on how close you are as "friends" it could spell disaster for your "friendship".

If she works at Hooters, have a hobby friend go to Hooters and proposition her. I know a guy who does this all the time. He is very good at it. He makes everything sound like a "what if?" scenario. If she takes the offer, and is introduced to this world then you have achieved your goal. If she has a negative reaction to it, then you were not the one that propositioned her, and if she doesnt ever know about it, then you are safe.

If she becomes a provider and it meets her needs and she is successful at it, and she doesn't fall into the darker side of things, it could be the greatest thing that has happened to her.

I doubt your friend, if she has nude pictures posted on the web, is unaware of this industry. I'd leave well enough alone and let her seek her own future without any nudging from you.

Wanting to model and wanting to escort are two vastly different things. Not sure I'd make the mistake that since she's a hot young model, that means she wouldn't be insulted by your suggestion that she start turning tricks. I mean, if she's so game for it and needs money, why is she working at Hooter's and not stripping?

If you know she's a nympho, then it sounds like you have a civilian relationship with her, and therefore why would you want to start paying her?

Not sure how else you'd know such a thing -- suspect maybe, but not know -- unless you are a close platonic friend in whom she has confided, in which case you'd insult her by making the suggestion. Danger, Will Robinson!

One way to finesse the question is to take her to an upscale strip club. You might have the time of your life, you might push your platonic relationship into the other column, in which case wouldn't you rather keep your relationship a civilian one? And if not, you might get into "theoretical" conversations about the sex business in general, without suggesting she start turning tricks.

And I agree with the earlier comment: if she finds her way to this board and to this profession, let the other providers mentor her, not you. All you want is a grandfathered low rate (preferably, zero).

Happy hunting, amigo.

I agree with the statement above. There's a huge difference between posing nude and being willing to have sex with different men on a daily basis. She maybe a nympho in her circle of friends, but that doesn't translate to being a nympho with strangers. Also being sexually liberated doesn't mean she'd do well in the business. I'm not shooting down your desire to help. Are you sexually active with her? If so, the only suggestion I have is this. After having a good romp in the hay with her, make this little off hand comment, "That was awesome. You're so good in bed guys would pay to be with you." Just a nonchalant comment to see if it gets any reaction.

May be she is a decoy!

Leaving money on her nightstand after you two have sex might be a hint.

I doubt your friend, if she has nude pictures posted on the web, is unaware of this industry. I'd leave well enough alone and let her seek her own future without any nudging from you. Originally Posted by TexTushHog

What he said.

Personally, I think what you're thinking of doing is wrong on so many levels it's bordering on disgusting.

As someone who got into "this" late in life and came into it eyes wide open, it has still been a journey that I wouldn't wish on a friend or acquantance. I'm a strong woman and absolutely love what I do but it's hard on your head and tough on your heart and that's to say the least.

Just one example, being an escort completely ruins your chance of having a healthy adult relationship in 99.99% of cases. I don't care if I get slammed for my opinion or not, but let her choose her own path. And there is a HECK of a lot of difference between being featured in Playboy and being an out and out escort.

She is an absolute LOVELY girl. Why would you wish to expose to to something like this (assuming she doesn't know anything about it already)? If she has half a brain in her head and is leaning in this direction, she'll find it on her own.

Elisabeth

Leaving money on her nightstand after you two have sex might be a hint. Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

This is actually something I was considering. LOL.

This is all great info ladies. Very good points and thought provoking ideas. Def. why I asked here! You girls are awesome!

She's obviously aware of the industry.... but as babee said....who isn't? The question remains, how do I guage if it's something she'd be interested in finding out how to get started, or let her see if she does it on her own one day.

rekcaSxT, I like the having a hobbyist go there and proposition her.

Cpalmson, already mentioned that once b4, she laughed and said that'd be nice. Thus what sparked all of this off.

I'm thinking about going w/ the thought of getting drunk w/ her. Waiting for her to mention wanting a way to make more money. Then jokingly say you should just become an upscale escort. Observing her reaction and going from there. I could either play it off as a drunken joke, or get more in-depth. Although in reality I'm not real concerned w/ running this girl off as a friend, as the mention of something like this isn't something that would offend her if said in the right context. Of course you never truly know how someone will react, thus the need for some kind of fall back measure.

Once again, thank you for the help!

There are probably as many opinions on this matter as there are people.

However, I would say that maybe going into the business slowly and gradually would work best.

If you could hook her up with a good agency, since they are always looking for new girls, and if the lady in charge could take her under her wing and set her up with known and trusted clients who would be gentle with her, she might safely discover if that might be something she would like to do.

Plunging off the high board on the first time is not what I would advise!

+1 to what everyone has said except okie.

You asked and we are telling you nicely ..NO. Yes, she knows about it. She has obviously decided NOT to do it. This is your fantasy...not hers.

I'd like to add that IF you DID get her "into the biz" and something bad happened, there is a possibility that she would blame you for getting her into it.

I love what I do too but I would NEVER get anyone involved in this business.

She's a big girl and I am certain that she can take care of herself.

It's best to leave things alone.