How Do I Choke Thee? Let me Count the Ways.

This is a recurring topic, and I've posted on it before, but light choking seems to be very, very popular with the ladies that I see. And by light choking, I mean just a little pressure to create an air of dominance, and nothing that would restrict air flow in any way. (I may be crazy but I won't risk someone's health and my status as free man).

So, last week I was being ridden hard in CG by one of the erotic providers I have met and I put my hands around her neck and gently squeezed. After she put me up wet, she gave my a little tutorial that basically consisted of "don't put direct pressure on the windpipe since you may crush it." She suggested that it was safer to place pressure to the sides of the windpipe where the carotid arteries run.

This seemed counter-intuitive to me since I know (don't ask how) that it takes a lot of force to crack a windpipe and that cutting off the air supply, while certainly well-known sexual practice, is probably easier to do and therefore potentially more dangerous. Also pressure on the entire front surface of the throat is less likely to leave objectionable, and incriminating, marks and bruises on the throat.

I am perplexed and I have an appointment coming up where some light rough sex may be on the menu. So what do all of you ace throat choking, ass spanking, hair pulling, face slapping and nipple twisting son-of-a-guns have to say about this? And you providers can chime in too.

I can see the attraction, but generally refrain from any serious neck / throat play due to Murphy's Law .... that things can and do go wrong. I'm all in for collars, posture collars, etc. I do however, after discussing her likes / dislikes, sometimes "simulate" a choking with a firm grasp around the throat, but no squeezing or compression whatsoever.

I'm a connoisseur of choking myself, whether with a providers hands, rope, and recently a dog-leash. Also, I do like direct pressure on the windpipe/trachea. Its toward the base of my neck/throat that seems to be a weakness for me and causes me to lose it.

I've noticed that provider's personality plays alot into their ability to pull it off successfully. Providers who are naturally dominant are better at it, for the most part.

Likewise, I've been assuming the dom role recently during a few of my appointments, the hardest thing about choking is worrying that you'll go to far with the other party and whether or not they can handle it. Balancing pain and pleasure is such a challenge, being a submissive is much easier.

Holding a fuckbuddy down by placing my hand on the front of her throat and pushing her into the mattress wile I'm plowing her wet hole is an intense good time!

Holding a fuckbuddy down by placing my hand on the front of her throat and pushing her into the mattress wile I'm plowing her wet hole is an intense good time! Originally Posted by txcwby6

oh hell yeah!!! think i got wet just reading that...whew!!

I've been in the lifestyle for. 8 years now and love breath play. My suggestion, trust the person you are playing with and KNOW they are confident in their skills. Just my 2 cents.

AWL...
If you don't know what you are doing...don't do it.
You could kill her.

For me..it's purpose is to restrain her with my hand on her throat as opposed to restricting her ability to breathe. I'm also fond of wrapping her hair around my hand when I fucking her cunt or ass doggystyle stye. Over the years, several women have placed their hand over mine while it's on their throat and encouraged me to apply more pleasure. Some women have also enjoyed being pulled upright from doggystyle when I wrap my hand around their throat from the rear. Most have panted and scream their way to some pretty intense orgasms.

I've found there is three distinct ways to choke effectively and with a higher amount of safety.

1. Put the web of your hand between the thumb and index finger into the neck as high as you can, the top of your hand should be pressed under the jaw. The windpipe here is a bit easier to restrict with VERY little pressure. This creates the most amount of panic. I generally use this when she starts slipping into sunspace. Afterwards she's usually "gone."
2. Put the thumb and forefinger on either side right against the carotid artery and press. Find the right pressure per person. This creates the most amount of euphoria assuming you have the trust and te willpower to push the person past their comfort zone with it. The faster tier face turns red, the most efficiently you're doing it. Their face should flush nearly immediately and once their eyes water after a moment, then you release and do it again. This needs the most aftercare as it is POSSIBLE for a clot to form and be dislodged at a later time. Don't leave people that you do this to alone for several hours afterwards.
3. Entire hand flat around the neck. This limits the choking aspect and is used for restraint and control.

EDIT: one more thing.
If yo are inexperienced, let her do the work. For example, say she's on top. Put your hand up and around her neck, DONT SQUEEZE. Let her push against your locked arm as much as she wants. She can pull away any time.

AWL...
If you don't know what you are doing...don't do it.
You could kill her. Originally Posted by *GoddessDallas*

I asked for advice because I know that it can be dangerous, and this is what I get? Gee, that's about as useful as "look before you leap" and "never wear white after Labor Day." So here's my "Duh" back to you:

I've found there is three distinct ways to choke effectively and with a higher amount of safety.

1. Put the web of your hand between the thumb and index finger into the neck as high as you can, the top of your hand should be pressed under the jaw. The windpipe here is a bit easier to restrict with VERY little pressure. This creates the most amount of panic. I generally use this when she starts slipping into sunspace. Afterwards she's usually "gone."

I don't think momma would appreciate her little Awl4knot slipping some sylph off to sunspace, wherever that is.

2. Put the thumb and forefinger on either side right against the carotid artery and press. Find the right pressure per person. This creates the most amount of euphoria assuming you have the trust and the willpower to push the person past their comfort zone with it. The faster thier face turns red, the most efficiently you're doing it. Their face should flush nearly immediately and once their eyes water after a moment, then you release and do it again. This needs the most aftercare as it is POSSIBLE for a clot to form and be dislodged at a later time. Don't leave people that you do this to alone for several hours afterwards.

See my response to No. 1. I don't think so.

3. Entire hand flat around the neck. This limits the choking aspect and is used for restraint and control.

See, this is what I was doing, and I was told that I should be doing your No. 2 since it puts less pressure on the trachea. Awl I want to do is make it a bit more exciting and intense for her, which then means I get more pleasure. I don't want to be doing CPR on nobody, no how.

EDIT: one more thing.
If yo are inexperienced, let her do the work. For example, say she's on top. Put your hand up and around her neck, DONT SQUEEZE. Let her push against your locked arm as much as she wants. She can pull away any time.

I'm good at passing the buck and letting someone else do most of the rowing. I can do this.
Originally Posted by Vitruvian

Frickin' unbelievable. Can't talk about illicit drugs and the what not, but choking the air out of a Sheila while banging her is... heh OK!! Cheers!! Try that in Australia with most and she'll Bobbit ya'.

I love to be choked a little. Not too bad of course...

I have done breath play by smothering, but I would not want to put hands on someone's neck or have it done to me. But, a hand over my mouth at the right time, oh my!!

I've been in the lifestyle for. 8 years now and love breath play. My suggestion, trust the person you are playing with and KNOW they are confident in their skills. Just my 2 cents. Originally Posted by Lucy von Trapp

I totally agree! When it comes to more dangerous play you have to really know who you are dealing with and even then, accidents happen. I have a friend who's long time play partner broke her Hyoid.

Frickin' unbelievable. Can't talk about illicit drugs and the what not, but choking the air out of a Sheila while banging her is... heh OK!! Cheers!! Try that in Australia with most and she'll Bobbit ya'. Originally Posted by JBravo

Hands on your neck can be very errotic and a huge turn on. Its a matter of trust. Thats part of the appeal.

Try it uninvited and I will Bobbit ya!