Playing games with a Hobbyist

Sent several PM's yesterday, early, on an appt. request. Received a reply, indicating, yes, with time, fee, and location., She Agreed on all this.One hr before, i started Txt' g her, and no response. Sent several more PM's and txts, still no response. She never responded to any more PM's or mutiple txts to her. Is this something that would be of interest to the hobbyist community - as it may be happening to others - or will be. I dont want to publicly name a "playing games" provider, in the co-ed section, unless you staff guys think it should be noted - to help other hobbyist not to waste their time - like i did. Your comments are appreciated.

From experience, the provider may not be comfortable meeting you if you are a new client. Did you go through her screening process? Were you polite and considerate when you PM'd her?

Also, she may just have been genuinely busy or occupied with something. She also may have been a bit annoyed if you sent multiple texts/PM's.

In the end, you can always just wait for her response and see what happens. If all else fails, move on. There are a lot of ladies here who would be appreciate a hobbyist who is trying to contact them.

I dunno but your post makes it sound like you blew up her phone with texts.
If true, it may have spooked her. Just an opinion,

Some should just download porn.

If she already agreed on the time, fee, location, why did you need to text her, pm her multiple times? What else did you need? Just go to the appointment. I would be annoyed when I'm busy or in the middle of something and my appt is blowing up my phone. Maybe she's like me...only turning on her phone 20 mins before appointment? I don't know.

If I have to drive very far, I will not leave untill I have a final confirmation shortly before appointment time. Too many legit things can come up not to mention a provider flaking out or just changing her mind. My time has value to me and I do not waste it by driving 30 minutes, sitting around anouther 15-30 minutes trying to get a hold of her, then drivng home again. Plus the cost of gas these days. Been there, done that, have the T-Shirt.

I do let the lady know in advance I will need the last minute contact so she is prepaired for it. I send 1 message and wait till I hear back. If she fails to respond in time for me to make the appointment, I consider it a cancellation and move on..

To the OP. 1 text is enough. Sending more just pisses them off and will likley be counterproductive..

If she already agreed on the time, fee, location, why did you need to text her, pm her multiple times? What else did you need? Just go to the appointment. I would be annoyed when I'm busy or in the middle of something and my appt is blowing up my phone. Maybe she's like me...only turning on her phone 20 mins before appointment? I don't know. Originally Posted by samantha thom

What was the content of that one-hour-ahead text?

There's a difference between "Just confirming that we're on for 2:00" and

"Can you send me some nasty pictures to get me in the mood?"
"Can you bring a friend?"
"Can you bring (forbidden subject)?"
"Do I supply the condoms or do you?"
"Are you GFE and BBBJ?"

All of those are LE questions. So if her screening was light, she may have been spooked by incriminating questions. (The friend part can lead to a pandering charge; the forbidden subject one is so they can load up the charges; the others show that she intended to have sex, not just escort her client to the museum .)

Has this ever happened to you before? if not, well, get used it...shit happens and some good reasons it happens were mentioned here.

Over texting a girl is like...stalking. More than 4 texts in an hour is close to it, IMO.

For myself, once my appointment is confirmed, it could be the next day or a year from now and I would be knocking on the door at the agreed time. As it did happen once a few years ago I scheduled for the meeting within a few days of talking to a provider so I didn't check in before hand, and when she answered the door she wasn't expecting anyone, she had forgotten so that was that. But like Clouddancer says, some guys like to text 50 times before hand as if they need reassurance the meeting is still on. I'm sure that could scare providers and clients alike. I'm not one to text alot, just tell me when and where, and I'll be there.

Keep in mind though, she may have a legit reason for what happened, so don't jump to conclusions until you know for sure.

Further to what OldButStillGoing said...I WON'T drive "that far" for this very reason. But, blowing up a provider's phone is not a good idea. If it fails on the two call system, or when you text or call to tighten up and confirm, consider it done and move on.

come on folks, teachu is just asking whether or not he should let the hobbyist community know about her. he's only been a member since last july and only two reviews.
he's learning.
so, rather than assume what happened, ask him to clarify.
also, sharing your experiences can be educational for him.

Sent several PM's yesterday, early, on an appt. request. Received a reply, indicating, yes, with time, fee, and location., She Agreed on all this. One hr before, i started Txt' g her, and no response. Sent several more PM's and txts, still no response. She never responded to any more PM's or mutiple txts to her. Is this something that would be of interest to the hobbyist community - as it may be happening to others - or will be. I dont want to publicly name a "playing games" provider, in the co-ed section, unless you staff guys think it should be noted - to help other hobbyist not to waste their time - like i did. Your comments are appreciated. Originally Posted by teachu7019

depending on who she is, i might consider it useful information.

i do think it'd be wise for you to answer the assumptions below - how many texts/PMs did you send her? 1-3 or 5-10??
if just a few, i sure wouldnt say that you "blew up her phone".
if more than that, i could see where she might have gotten annoyed.
but, every woman is different and has a different threshold.

From experience, the provider may not be comfortable meeting you if you are a new client. Did you go through her screening process? Were you polite and considerate when you PM'd her?

Also, she may just have been genuinely busy or occupied with something. She also may have been a bit annoyed if you sent multiple texts/PM's.

In the end, you can always just wait for her response and see what happens. If all else fails, move on. There are a lot of ladies here who would be appreciate a hobbyist who is trying to contact them. Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

in general, teachu7019, wait for 24-48 hrs for a response from her. you might send her one more *very nice* communication letting her know you missed visiting with her and hope she's doing ok. if you're interested in seeing her, you could ask if she'd like to schedule again.

if you get an answer, it might tell her what you need to know.
if you dont get an answer, that's when i'd move on.
if you want, you could let others know who she is and her response or lack of.

I dunno but your post makes it sound like you blew up her phone with texts.
If true, it may have spooked her. Just an opinion, Originally Posted by Clouddancer

as i said above, "more PM's or mutiple txts" doesnt sound like he blew up her phone.

If she already agreed on the time, fee, location, why did you need to text her, pm her multiple times? What else did you need? Just go to the appointment. I would be annoyed when I'm busy or in the middle of something and my appt is blowing up my phone. Maybe she's like me...only turning on her phone 20 mins before appointment? I don't know. Originally Posted by samantha thom

what OldBustStillGoing posted below!
even if i only have 20 mins to drive, i'll make an agreement with her during scheduling that i'll contact her before i leave just in case either of us needs to cancel or are being delayed. that way, she at least knows i'll be calling.

and if she doesnt respond when i contact her, i'll wait about 10-15 mins and contact her one or two more times.
if she still doesnt respond, i dont head there or i leave [if it's the final contact when i arrive].

If I have to drive very far, I will not leave untill I have a final confirmation shortly before appointment time. Too many legit things can come up not to mention a provider flaking out or just changing her mind. My time has value to me and I do not waste it by driving 30 minutes, sitting around anouther 15-30 minutes trying to get a hold of her, then drivng home again. Plus the cost of gas these days. Been there, done that, have the T-Shirt.

I do let the lady know in advance I will need the last minute contact so she is prepaired for it. I send 1 message and wait till I hear back. If she fails to respond in time for me to make the appointment, I consider it a cancellation and move on..

To the OP. 1 text is enough. Sending more just pisses them off and will likley be counterproductive.. Originally Posted by OldButStillGoing

agreed!!!
imho, one text and then another one 15 mins later is not too much.
but again, each woman has her threshold.

...Keep in mind though, she may have a legit reason for what happened, so don't jump to conclusions until you know for sure. Originally Posted by hd

this is why it's good to wait 24-48 hrs for a response from her.
her response might sound legit or it might sound bogus. but, i wait for a response.
if i dont get one, i definitely move on.

if she has a reputation of not responding or not showing, you just won her NCNS roulette game.
if she doesnt have a reputation of not responding or not showing, then it might be a significant enough event that you might ask others about her or let folks know in a very matter-of-fact way that she didnt respond.


i've had to cancel appts several times over the years due to home life, friends, and work. i've always let the woman know as soon as i could after i found out.
women have cancelled appts in the past, usually w/ 6-24 hrs advance notice.
i've been fortunate that i havent been NCNS in a looooong time.
one woman just saying "give me 10 mins". it turned into 1+ hrs. i didnt know of her time challenges so i waited around. it was a less than deliteful encounter.

bottom line, it comes down to respect!
you let her know if you cannot make the appt.
she lets you know if she cannot make the appt.
and do so either before the appt or w/in 24-48 hrs.
it happens. be prepared for it.