Why would or does a provider post on bp but then you send an pm to them here they say need references. Does that sound off to anyone else. If your willing to put your name and a pic somewhere like that why do refs matter.
Originally Posted by M4ww2
Hmm, where to start.
Knotty is 100% right.
Here in our forum area BP is a necessary evil. A vast majority of the ladies on ECCIE in our area also advertise elsewhere. Some more regularly than others. Pure economic survival.
Why would an ECCIE lady ask for references?
Why would an ECCIE lady asking for references be an issue for an ECCIE gent?
If there were an ECCIE lady on the board that advertised she does NOT ask for references, what would the MOB say about her?
How would that affect her business?
Would she not be more likely to attract the small percent of gents that prey on ladies here?
There are forums on this board where members openly state that they will NOT see and ECCIE lady that also advertises on BP.
Our forum is not one of those.
If you were able to get an honest answer to a poll about preferred sources of clients, I would go on the record as predicting that ECCIE would not be at the top of that list, as ECCIE, as a site, in no way vets the hobbyist. Other sites do. Vetting of a hobbyist is the provider's responsibility. Arguably, an ECCIE member is, in general, easier to vet than a BP client.
Each lady on ECCIE has her own method(s) of screening. Most clients have absolutely NO CLUE as to the extent the lady goes through to screen, nor should it be our concern.
I have seen comments by some gents in ROS that they thought a provider had no screening or extremely light screening, when in fact, the exact opposite is true. Just because a lady didn't ask you for 2 reference names and numbers in the last 60 days, does not mean she isn't running checks on you.
There are a variety of paid and free resources the ladies use, both formal and informal sources.
As to screening on BP. The ladies have alternate screening methods. Arguably some are more extreme than screening here, some are less.
You have no idea what kind of security measures a lady may or may not be taking when seeing a BP gent.
Additionally, MOST of the ECCIE ladies that also advertise on BP have different services they provide ECCIE gents over BP gents. Some have differing prices, some the same prices for those differing services,
Most of the ladies will tell you that overall, the BP clients are much less desirable than ECCIE clients.
Personally, I have no issue providing references.
Respectfully,
OldSarge