Very Disappointing NC/NS with Cmplxscrpn!!! Beware!!

Hello all!! I had a very disappointed experience with a NC/NS with Cmplxscrpn today. We have been communicating all week and agreed to meet today around noon. I last emailed him last night around 11pm confirming our date for today with all the relevant details outlined and he responded "Yes." Today I sent him a message to reconfirm around 11:00am but didn't get a reply. I texted him several times and sent him an email and still no reply. Not sure what happened here. He was receptive to my screening process and had been communicating with me steadily up until today. Then nothing all of a sudden. I'm not sure if this is something he has done before or if something happened but I, like everyone, don't like having my time wasted like this. I spent several day exchanging emails with him and actually turned down someone today at a much higher donation to honor my meeting with him. If he changed his mind or couldn't make it he could and should have told me prior to the meeting time. All I have to say is if he contacts anyone in the future-beware....

This would be more useful on providerbuzz, thanks for the info!

Guys (and gals) NCNS all the time, dont sweat it.

I don't know... I think it's high time guys get called out for NCNS too. A few guys give the rest of us DFW dudes a bad rep.

Okay, I have had situations where I was required to confirm a second time even after a successful initial confirmation. There were times when the second confirmation was not successful.

If the re-confirm does not occur because we are not able to get in touch, is it a NC/NS? Would not the fact that we failed to confirm the second time mean the appointment is automatically cancelled?

I am sorry this happened to you sweetcarrie, all it takes is one bad apple in the box to spoil it all for the rest of us. Just give him an opportunity to explain why he hasen't contacted you. Could have been a family emergency ? If he dosen't contact you by say friday 11:00am I think he should be outed. I've had to cancel once since I joined eccie, the date was 12/25/11 & it was 2-3 hrs before our scheduled 2 hr. appointment. Thinking about it now I believe I'll contact her and see if we cant pencil down a appointment for Saturday afternoon....

If he dosen't contact you by say friday 11:00am I think he should be outed.
Originally Posted by zebra

What additional information would you have her give out, that would not be in violation of board rules?

I'm sorry for your waste of time by hobbyist! I think you should have waited for couple of days before writing this thread! Always give doubt of benefit to other in this hobby then you can always go ahead and write about client or provider!

I spent several day exchanging emails with him and actually turned down someone today at a much higher donation to honor my meeting with him. Originally Posted by sweetcarrie

Always give it at least 24 hours before you post a NC/NS...
curious about your statement above, tho...I'm thinking you had to turn him down because you had the first guy already penciled in, but what's with the "much higher donation"?

Yes, as said, give it a few days before posting, or just forget it. I made a mistake years back by posting the next morning about a NCNS, (it was my testosterone talking) and she had a legitimate excuse a day after.

I think with clients, as myself, my main problem is dealing with the SO as far as trying to communicate with providers while at home when the SO is also there. Especially since I have a hobby phone that I use she doesn't know about. Also the fact that sometimes family matters seem to pop up when least expected and any communications just aren't possible.

Unless he has a habit of doing this, give him a break just like many clients do with providers, shit happens beyond our control.

Thank you to everyone for chiming in...good info...and FYI....I still haven't heard anything from the person....no explanation, no apology, nothing....As far as the question about the 2nd confirmation...we had already confirmed the night before...I contacted him that morning just as a courtesy. The arrangement had been confirmed the night before....Thx

This is cmplxscrpn and yes I did tell sweetcarrie I wanted to meet with her. After going through my screening process with her I told her via email (on wednesday) that I would contact her 30 min before my wanting to meet her on Thursday. Yes I did not call her because I was supposed to work from home but had emergency meetings. In addition since I didn't call I honestly didn't expect her to "remember" that I was going to call. Now I've dealt with other providers but I've never had one call/text my phone back the next day. Good thing I have a hobby phone (learned that back from reading posts when we were aspd.net). A courtesy call should've been placed to say I wasn't going to be able to make it but I wasn't able to b/c of having to be in the office. For that I am sorry.

This is cmplxscrpn and yes I did tell sweetcarrie I wanted to meet with her. After going through my screening process with her I told her via email (on wednesday) that I would contact her 30 min before my wanting to meet her on Thursday. Yes I did not call her because I was supposed to work from home but had emergency meetings. In addition since I didn't call I honestly didn't expect her to "remember" that I was going to call. Now I've dealt with other providers but I've never had one call/text my phone back the next day. Good thing I have a hobby phone (learned that back from reading posts when we were aspd.net). A courtesy call should've been placed to say I wasn't going to be able to make it but I wasn't able to b/c of having to be in the office. For that I am sorry. Originally Posted by cmplxscrpn

Maybe she thought by you saying that you would call her 30 minutes prior to the appointment, she did not think it was if you were going to actually see her, but to let her know you were on your way. She should not have to call/text, but it looks as though she did to confirm with you, several times, and you are saying you could not even text her back to tell her you were not going to make it? Maybe you could not excuse yourself to the bathroom or go on a "smoke break to do so, but at the VERY LEAST, you should have called IMMEDIATELY after you left your office and explained the situation to her. I can see why she posted this thread, and I give her props for doing so.

I'm thinking you had to turn him down because you had the first guy already penciled in, but what's with the "much higher donation"?

I assumed she meant she turned down a longer appointment because of him being scheduled/confirmed. I'm with you and not really sure why it's worth mentioning - as it's the ethical (and hopefully standard) thing to do. Though I'm sure there are women who cancel appointments all the time to take higher paying ones but I'm not up to being a bitter cynic yet today.

Yes I did not call her because I was supposed to work from home but had emergency meetings. In addition since I didn't call I honestly didn't expect her to "remember" that I was going to call.

Try that next time you have a doctors appointment. I'm fairly certain you'll be charged some sort of fee for blowing them off. Do it enough times and you'll no longer be allowed to use their practice.

Providers should be treated no differently. It's a business with appointments that you schedule. When you can't make your appointment, call/text/email as soon as you can and at least let her know what happened. You are taking time not only out of her business day, you are affecting her earnings (not only the money she lost on you, but the money she lost on not being able to schedule for that time), and you are saying your time is more important than hers.

Try that next time you have a doctors appointment. I'm fairly certain you'll be charged some sort of fee for blowing them off. Do it enough times and you'll no longer be allowed to use their practice.

Providers should be treated no differently. It's a business with appointments that you schedule. When you can't make your appointment, call/text/email as soon as you can and at least let her know what happened. You are taking time not only out of her business day, you are affecting her earnings (not only the money she lost on you, but the money she lost on not being able to schedule for that time), and you are saying your time is more important than hers. Originally Posted by Missy Mariposa

Completely agree. I been NCNS'd by escorts before and I think it's a shitty way to treat people. Same goes for guys who NCNS a provider. The I was too busy to call or text excuse gets no sympathy from me.

This would be more useful on providerbuzz, thanks for the info!

Guys (and gals) NCNS all the time, dont sweat it. Originally Posted by Anastasia Roberts

She can add it to providerbuzz WHEN she gets reviews and becomes a verified provider.